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SJC2010 View Profile History	Availability Posted : 10 Apr, 2010 11:27 PM What if you are dating a guy but you only get together when he has time? You make suggestions for dates and he says when I make suggestions it turns him off. Post Reply
View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 06:30 AM Hey! I am not a guy, but please allow me to respond. People attend to what is important to them. No matter what someone says, you can always gauge how they really feel by what they do. If someone does not give you their time, that means there are things that to them, are more important. You are not high on his list of priorities. I was so glad the day God honed my sensitivity to the spirit of manipulation and control. He is not taking what you want and what you think into consideration. If he does not do it now, when most are putting their best foot forward to woo you, I would expect that he would not do it later (during marriage). Steve Harvey's 'Act Like a Lady. Think like A Man' is a secular relationship book, but it is soooooo excellent! It tells what a man does when he really cares for you and if you juxtapose it against your past relationships and how they turned out, it proves to be very accurate. Set your standards now, and don't be moved. If a man can not treat you the way a woman should be treated, as a child of the most high God, please remember there a few billion more to chose from. :dancingp: Post Reply
View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 07:32 AM Stay as far away as possible!! "Warning Will Robinson!! Warning!!" He is a controller and everything has to be his way. If you want to feel like furniture or a "pet"...go for him -- if not....Run! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 10:49 AM I would respectfully aproach him about it. It sounds like a one sided deal, if it continues, I would move on. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 01:45 PM I'm not a guy, but I'd say "move on." Look elsewhere. Now, he may feel that it is HIS masculine duty and joy to ask you out and suggest the time and place for dates, but he should also love it when YOU make a suggestion...that means that you LIKE being with him enough to actually put thought into it and come up with ideas. Post Reply
View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 01:56 PM i say move on too. it's ok to be quiet, but shy is like being incompitant and dysfunctional when it comes to communicating and expressing ones self, which are what makes or breaks a relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 01:58 PM What you describe is not dating. He is using you when it is convenient for him. I agree --- RUN!!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 02:10 PM ooo my bad, wrong post... Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 02:39 PM The first part does not bother me, actually. It's healthy for a relationship early on to not be completely about the other person. You each need to have your own separate lives and don't need to be skipping out on plans to spend time with each other. However, a guy not liking you suggesting things to do is troubling. I say continue seeing him, but with caution. Post Reply
View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 02:43 PM Let him know your moving on for that reason. You deserve respect and consideration, he's not giving it to you, I agree with others and move on. If it's like this now...can you imagine what it will be like if you were married to him? Riveroflife Post Reply
SJC2010 View Profile History	Availability Posted : 11 Apr, 2010 08:21 PM Thanks for your reply. You confirmed everything I was thinking. I did break it off with him yesterday. After he decided to not spend my birthday with me. He is Selfish and Self Centered, I could not waste my time with him. Post Reply

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