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gamegal View Profile History	smoking Posted : 27 Mar, 2010 10:00 PM I'm sorry but I feel a real need to bring this up. It seems several christians on this site (and maybe others but this is the only "dating" site I've been on) don't seem to care how much or if you drink but you MUST NOT SMOKE. It's not that I don't get it, I do. Smoking is a stinky,nasty, disgusting habit. Unfortunately, it's a habit I've had since I was 15 and I just turned 49 so quitting is not an easy thing by any stretch of the imagination. I know alot of you have quit & you should feel blessed, I know I would. I also know that all things are possible with God. I have slowed down considerably but when I was ready to quit, working with my Dr. & cancer society. I had my cut off date, etc...then my husband had an affair and publically humilated both me and himself. That was 3 years ago but for 2 years prior he had been cruel & emotionally abusive but I kept trying to "fix us". Problem is, it takes 2. Since then I have had MANY challenges in my life & even my DR agrees this may not be the time to quit. I am a guinely a very loving and caring person. I am honest and trustworthy & walk with God. If he can forgive me, why cant you? AGAIN, I agree it is a particularly disgusting habit but some of you could be missing out on something great because I occasionally smoke. Would ya'll like it better if I drank, because that seems to be socially acceptable? I get it but have seen some people I seemed to have alot in common with but didn't contact because "MUST NOT SMOKE". Thanks for letting me vent. God Bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	smoking Posted : 27 Mar, 2010 11:03 PM some of us are ex-smokers, some of us grew up with, or have friends that smoke and we know that there's a lot of baggage that comes with it. it's not something one does because they feel good about themselves. to be honest it made me feel lousy mentally and physically. and the stupid delusions of cool or self-loathing... just not something i want to go back to let alone look for in a date. i feel for you though and really hope you quit someday. have you tried chantix? that's what worked for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	smoking Posted : 27 Mar, 2010 11:40 PM or the e-cigarette. i have some friends that do that too. Post Reply
View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 03:44 AM Debbie, My Heart goes out to you. You are in that proverbial "Rock and a Hard place". Trying to quit while so much is going on in your life is right next to "walking on water". Still you have to understand others that prefer someone that does not smoke. I smoked for over 30 years. Tried quitting 3 times and finnaly did on my 4th attempt. It's been almost 4 years now and I can Smell cigarette smoke 50 yards away and on a person and in their hair. Forget about even thinking of kissing them. I am sorry, but that is the way I feel. I don't think I am being unreasonable and as for drinking...I would not want someone that had a "Drinking Problem". I pray that your life smooths out and you find a window where you might be able to quit. God Bless you Debbie! Post Reply
gamegal View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 10:14 AM I just got the e-cigarette and it has helped me cut down tremendously. Trust me when I tell you I would prefer NOT to smoke. It makes me feel "lesser than" if you can understand that. I consider myself to be a strong person & the fact that I can't seem to quit really bothers me. I have prayed about it & sit here crying while I'm writing this because of some harsh comments. I get it! I know it stinks, I know you can smell it on people even when they aren't smoking...I can't take Chanix, I asked my Dr. but I have too many other meds I'm taking due to scleraderma & adrenal failure that he thinks it would re-act. Think about it tho, I've been smoking since before you were born! Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. I really appreciate it. God Bless. Post Reply
gamegal View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 10:25 AM :Yeah, I do get it, it's just incredibly difficult! I can smell it in my hair and I hate it! And I get the kissing thing but no one has ever complained. My husband didn't smoke & we were married for 15 years and I assure you the breakup had nothing to do with smoking, altho he wanted me to quit for my health, he never bugged me about it. It is VERY depressing & does feel EXACTLY like rock & hard place! To think that I could possibly miss out on who God has in mind for me because of a stupid cigarette? It sounds ridiculous (I should probably stick to words I can spell!) I know. If I could just put them down, I would. I have tried! But I'm not very pleasant to be around and it never lasted long...people who didn't know me were trying to give me a cigarette (Ha Ha!). Thanks for your thoughts and prayers tho.:rolleyes: Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 12:11 PM Hi there, You bring up some great points. We are all sinners and have our problems. If we were perfect, we would no longer be here. To provide a different perspective, I am one of the ones who say smoking is absolutely out. However, for me it is not a judgment issue, but rather health. An allergy to cigarettes compounded with asthma means that I can't be around it. Truth to tell, it can be a bit aggravating because there are lots of great people who do smoke. Hang in there and I wish you the very best. Blessings. Post Reply
phoenixlady8 View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 02:52 PM I am a christian. I am a believer. I am saved by the blood of Christ and through Him I am victorious. My spirit is owned by God. I am human. I struggle daily with the ever present oppression of evil. I carry original sin, generational sin, and my own personal sin. My doctor, when I was in tears asking her for smoking cessation medicine, told me this... Studies show that the smoker that continues to fail at quitting will become the next non-smoker. Eventually they will be successful. The ones that aren't even trying to quit are the ones that won't. I am a smoker. I have quit and started again repeatedly. I have felt intense guilt and emotional pain over the idea of smoking being a sin. I have prayed over this many times. For this moment, I know without question that God is ok with me having this addiction, ....for THIS moment... I also know, without any doubt whatsoever, that He can decide at the very next moment that it's time for me to quit. God doesn't want me smoking. He doesn't want any of us smoking...HOWEVER... remember, He is a kind and just God and only gives us what we can handle. For this moment, God has me working on other areas of my life. He knows that for me to stop smoking at this moment, would be too much to handle. He never lets me forget though that I do need to quit and eventually He is going to require it. I can say this with full conviction because only recently I kicked the denial demon in the butt and out of my life. Take it for what it's worth ~Laurey Post Reply
View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 04:04 PM Well folks, I have been smoking for about 30 years. Right now I am down to about 1 pack a week and slowly quitting. I am doing so partly for health reasons, partly for other reasons. I cast no aspersions on those who smoke because I know first-hand how difficult it is to quit. When I am up cramming for a test, or on the lake fishing, or after a really big meal.......MAN, I want one soooooooooooo bad! Seems the more the price for them goes up, the greater my desire to light up! :laugh: Anyway, I know there are a lot of people who would not write me on here because of this habit and a lot of them I could not write, but I can't blame them. Cigarette smoke stinks, it stains your teeth and fingers, and gives you this horrid cough. good luck to all those quitting or thinking about quitting. No ill regards for those who continue. Pretty soon my profile will be smoke-free:peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	smoking Posted : 28 Mar, 2010 10:02 PM I can't be around smoke of any kind. I was injured in a chemical accident a few years ago that left me with a respiratory condition that makes it difficult for me to be around several kinds of irritants including cigarette smoke, anything that is aerosol and some kinds of air fresheners and perfumes or colognes. Any of these things and many more can cause me to have a severe asthma attack. So some of us may have a health condition that will not allow us to be around smokers. Thunder Post Reply
gamegal View Profile History	smoking Posted : 29 Mar, 2010 03:32 PM Hey, First let me say I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's been 10 yrs but I know it's still hard for you. Also sorry about your accident. Please don't get the wrong idea. I was in NO WAY condemning anyone who had any type of medical problems or even ex smokers (who can be the worst about complaining). I GET IT! I agree that smoking is a deplorable, nasty, self-distructive behavoir. I hesitate to admit this because it makes me sound even more stupid for smoking but I also have asthma & need to use oxygen @ nite to sleep due to oxygen level dropping. The oxygen thing has nothing to do with smoking, its a result of a critical disease I have. Having said that, I'm sure it wouldn't hurt to stop. It is a very guilty feeling, smoking...I'm trying my best to quit & know that I will when God & I are ready (I'm sure God's ready now but I don't think he's judging me for this as he knows all my struggles). It's just rough thinking that someone would pass up such a funny, intelligent (altho you cant tell that by the smoking), loyal, uplifting, God fearing woman with so much to give just because I'm trying to break a very hard habit to break. It's not like I'd smoke around them (I know, you can still smell it.) and my home does not smell of smoke...OK enough rambling...I hope all is well for you and you meet someone wonderful. God has a plan! I keep telling myself that! God Bless, Debi Post Reply

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