Author	Thread: Wishful Thinking
Admin	Wishful Thinking Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 08:36 PM I am having trouble trying to formulate my question, so I will give you the situation and try to pull the question out of it. There is this guy who I have known for over 3 years now. I have never been interested in him, but due to his genuine nature have considered him. However i'm just not into him. At this point in time, there seems to be some tension between us. (Sneak peek into a girls' mind) The mere fact that I am not interested makes it hard for me to fathom any interest on his part; so little things like him noticing my msn status messages and thinking that they are about him. OR putting up messages directed at me and expecting me to know.... are quite unconchanable on my part. I don't put myself upon such a pedistol where i think a person's world is dependant on mine. Now if i were interested, then maybe I would hope that there world was a little dependant on mine, but still... I don't indulge in wishful thinking. Back to the part about the tension, it is very hard to explain. I am at a point in my life where I am growing into my own as a woman. Making decision about seemingly little things, and some very large ones. We are drifting apart, I have no problem with it, but I as I walk in the direction that i'm headed in, he pops out of nowhere. It feels as though he wants me to lean on him (for lack of a better analogy) I'm grabbing at air here cuz idk what is going on in his head. I have not spoken to him about it because in the past, anytime that I have tried to have anything more than a superficial conversation with him (God, bible, ANYTHING!) he would act like I were crazy or something. When I told him i'm on this site for the forums, he said "why didn't you study psychology?"... I expected that from him so it made me lol. I think I feel a question coming, what is his problem?!!!? Is everything all in my head, is it a female male thing... hormones maybe? what!? Guys I would gladly appreciate some insight. nyanda (in need of peace) Post Reply
View Profile History	Wishful Thinking Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 09:08 PM Sounds like that ol' 'not on the same sheet of music' thing. there's alot of misinterpretation when people don't fully, honostly, and directly say what they feel and what they think (note the order). I say lay all your cards on the table. Honostly and respectfully say your piece on what your perception is as best you can, what you honostly think, try to have a convo to get it figured out and get some closure and then move on knowing what the other person really thinks. if there's no hard feelings, then great. if he doesn't handle it well, move on anyway. all you can do is honostly say what you think and feel. Grown up stuff. I've actually done this recently and it's worth letting go of the negetive stuff and gaining clarity and understanding, trust me. One other thing, as you know, when it comes to feelings and misunderstandings things can be pretty volitile so try to avoid making assumptions and premature judgements when communicating. Remember it's just your PERCEPTION so try and respect their feelings as best as you can since you won't completely know what the deal is till you hear back from them. Good luck. Post Reply
View Profile History	Wishful Thinking Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 08:59 AM What he said. :rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	Wishful Thinking Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 09:19 PM ditto Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Wishful Thinking Posted : 12 Mar, 2010 10:48 AM I'm with him Post Reply
Prvbs31lady View Profile History	Wishful Thinking Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 05:52 PM That was some sound advice. However, always remember to pray and seek God's counsel prior to engaging in dialog. Asking Him to reveal what is in your own heart to you. Further, to be in your mouth so that the right words are delivered. Words can inflect such devastating harm to ones psyche. Post Reply