Author	Thread: Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved
Admin	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 03:09 AM I have seen alot of guys say on their profile that they are looking for "outgoing" girls that are fun to be around. Even at school the guys seem to ignore the girls that are a little more shy/queit/reserved and not so outgoing, as if there is something wrong with them. I don't understand what is so bad about dating a girl that isn't outgoing. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 10:21 AM Yeah, I've always wondered about that too! I'm quiet and shy, but I can be friendly when given a chance. I hope some of you guys will explain your reasons for preferring outgoing and fun girls to those of us who are more reserved...I'm very curious! Post Reply
View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 11:15 AM The answer my friend is "blowing in the wind". The answer is "Blowing in the wind!". Most men are not very good at conversations. The most you'll get out of them is "yeh"..."ahuh"..."yep"...etc. Also they don't know how to "entertain"...how to "pass time" with a girl. What I mean is playing the part of host. A quiet...shy...type, puts a lot of "pressure" on them, because they would have to be the one to start a conversation and keep it going. They would have to be the one "to entertain" -- to be "the Host". Most men are too lazy besides...with a shy quiet type they would be expected to "TALK" more...uuuggghhh! Now an "out going" type is a lot easier...."maintenance wise". All he has to do is sit back and let her be the "host' and do all of the "entertaining" and also carry the load of the conversation. Much easier! Also men figure that the "shy, quiet" type are "SMART" and "uuggghhh...me no like smart girl". "She confuse me...uuuggghh!" That's actually just one of the reasons...the other reasons are variations of this one, but it still comes down to immaturity and plain laziness and ...intelligence. All this is in my next series of cds entitled "Me Tarzan...you...Not Tarzan!!" (soon in bookstores near women) Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 01:08 PM Arch, you may have called me out on this one!! I'm a very shy guy and once went out to lunch with an old female friend from school...nothing to it and I still couldn't carry a conversation. My interest in a more outgoing girl is that by her being more outgoing, that in time some of that might rub off on me...besides, I do like having a good time, I just need that special someone to bring it out of me....however, I will say that it appears the opposite is true but perhaps for other reasons.... Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 01:35 PM Arch, you may have something there! And as always, you crack me up! Ya know, I'm dating a guy right now who may actually be more shy, quiet, and reserved than I am. I guess that makes me outgoing? Hehe! But really, it's good for both of us because we have to make ourselves talk, go places, try new activities, etc. And we are both smart (he's practically a genius!), so we are well matched in that area. Post Reply
View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 10 Mar, 2010 05:11 PM well to me, shy vs. outgoing is more of a personality thing. they're different but not necessarily better than the other. as long as the confidence and communication are good and balaced it doesn't matter to me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 05:54 AM BC, Intelligence overcomes all obstacles. I believe that an intelligent person "NEEDS" another likeminded individual to converse with. In the case of you two...I feel that it is perfect that you both are shy and reserved. I can only imagine the "comfort" level between the two of you is nice and "peacful" (read tranquil). If either one of you was more outgoing -- I feel it would distrub that comfort level between you. Storm...I meant nothing derogatory with my statement and I hope you sensed none. I believe that most men prefer a more outgoing woman, but the quiet, shy, more "demure" type does come off as somewhat "mysterious" and perhaps more of a challenge. Me personally, as long as they can chew gum and balance an equation at the same time...is all I need. (:rocknroll:) Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 06:50 AM Eh...I can't take outgoing people very seriously...I definitely enjoy a quiet, fun, like-minded intelligence over "outgoing" personality traits...at least in someone I'm looking to spend my life with anyway. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 01:14 PM Friends before I got married I was quite and shy.Now, well, I think you people already know I am a real character. :ROFL: I am smart in the wrong way. Smart alect, wise guy, comic :party: I do not feel like dating someone just like me. a nice shy girl would be just fine.Then I could be the life of the party. A woman just like me would be scary. :boxing: :angeldevil: Post Reply
View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 11 Mar, 2010 04:27 PM dear dg , lol man ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Outgoing vs. Shy/Quiet/Reserved Posted : 12 Mar, 2010 10:54 AM dear folks, long as she is a good woman and one i like it wont make no difference to me if shes shy or not shy.. i like em both hehe ole cattle Post Reply

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