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Admin	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 4 Mar, 2010 07:53 PM I know the topic 'nice' has been discussed, but as far as i remember the discussions focused on men. So, I want to know...can a woman can be too nice? If so, can you give examples or share experience? nyanda Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 08:01 AM Hmm...never thought about it. I've never met a woman that's too nice. Guys seem to be the only ones labeled "wimps" if they're too nice. I suppose it has more to do with the social and cultural expectations that are placed on genders instead of the actual "niceness". That makes sense... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 09:35 AM dear nyanda, hey young lady.. i think ive seen a woman or two that can sometimes come off as just too nice.. what i mean is she comes off more as put on instead of bein genuine after a point.. i dont know if im doin a good job of describin here or not hehe.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 11:46 AM Interesting. I never thought about it like that before. I suppose nice or not nice just ranks somewhere in the middle of qualities I'd like in a woman. It's just not a deal breaker one way or another. It's definitly a good thing but there are just other qualities that take precedence that will push you over the top. At any rate, being nice, or even too nice isn't unattractive at all, but it's not enough by itself to outweigh another quality that is bad or unattractive. Sometimes it's hard and thankless to be nice, and alot of times the only person to know that is the nice person. Sometimes I think people really should be rewarded for, if nothing else, not making things worse. The world needs more nice people. There is absolutely nothing attractive or respectable about being mean. Teasing is ok though. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 5 Mar, 2010 03:36 PM Hey Nyanda, I had a friend through out school and she always apoligized for everything!! It is a nice gesture but it was a little too much. Post Reply
View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 6 Mar, 2010 08:43 AM can a woman can be too nice? If so, can you give examples or share experience? yes, women/men can appear to be to nice to me but probably because I was lil bit crabby that day. jk I been apologized for small things that is over the top to much with what happened. And on another point and time in my life I been approached with others that have really had done the over the top bad things and wasn't nice enough to apologize.lol but, my point is it could be how we all handle/or take each approach. I don't do well at some and others I do very good. I always measure it as some small reaction to happen in my life at that point that must be trying to balance its way to its place. I try to keep my good tactics of being gracefully forgiven or pardon them with as good as an excuse as I can as well as my own bad day to not be as good at thinking of other's feelings and try to remember to pray for them and ME. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 6 Mar, 2010 11:43 AM Nice goes a long way, and is good to a point. Unfortunately, "Nice" girls often end up getting used as doormats, which is never good. I say: the nicer the better, but I guess that comes down to how she handles it when someone tries to take advantage of her niceness. I look for a woman with a tough side. My Aunt is the nicest, sweetest woman I know. She is ALSO the best shot with a firearm that I've ever seen. I think the two go hand in hand, as she would never dish out verbal abuse, she'd prefer to let her "skills" do the talking if things get out of hand. She called her shotgun the "smilin' stick" And to this day, she's got "smile" lines in her face, just like some folks have worry lines Post Reply
View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 6 Mar, 2010 06:42 PM thanks everyone. SWB really cracked me up with that smillin stick remark LOL, sounds alot like me....:MrT: hmm guess their's got to be a balance just like everything in life. nyanda! Post Reply
View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 6 Mar, 2010 07:17 PM Hi Nyanda! I was thinking about the question and it made me want to look the word 'nice' up before I gave my answer. So I did. The dictionary says that nice means pleasing, amicable, showing care, pleasant and kind. Well, kindness is a fruit of the Spirit. So, I would say you can never be too nice. You should just have a healthy dose of wisdom thrown in and a ear to hear the Spirit so that you are not taken advantage of. Post Reply
View Profile History	nice - revisited, again... Posted : 6 Mar, 2010 07:19 PM Whoops! I followed a link and didn't realize til I posted that this is 'ask a guy'. Oh well, my two cents anyway :rolleyes:. Post Reply