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Posted : 7 Feb, 2010 09:04 PM

I have a question since God's ideal was for the man to find a wife. Men of God how do U feel when a Woman of God flirts with U 1st? I see in so many profile where the man is looking for the woman to send a message 1st. I guess I just prefer for the Man to show interest in me 1st. Since we live in the 20th century has things changed?



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Posted : 7 Feb, 2010 09:57 PM

dear fire, welcome to the forums..

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 06:39 AM

Ruth laid down at the feet of a man and watied for him to wake up.Boaz was shocked!!!!! Flriting can be good if either party starts it.Dennis

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 08:18 AM

Hey! Welcome to CDFF.

I think it's great that you still have some ol' fashioned chivalry left in you and you want to be the one to make the first move. However, it's not bad if a girl flirts first. That's actually how I met the girl I'm currently seeing.

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 09:18 AM

dear als, welcome to the forums.

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 01:00 PM

We used to live in a society where everyone knew everyone and gossip of who was interested in who spread easily for both male and female. Going to the same schools churches and stores ect. the female had opportunity to make her winks and looks and whatever other types of hints.

In the 21st century we live in a very fast paced society, add internet dating to the rest of the issues. I not only see nothing wrong with the women making the first move. As one of the other commenters said, Ruth made the first move with Boaz. Both of the gentleman that I have dated from this site I made the first move.

The one thing even though we females may make the first move he is still the head of the home and the spiritual leader in our homes.

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 03:44 PM

Dennis,

I think you said it best!!! Good point and biblical reference!!!

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 04:57 PM

I would take that as a sign that she is interested in me and willing put forth the effort to make a relationship work, thus aleviating two of the biggest questions I have in my mind when trying to get girls interested in me. I have no problem with it whatsoever. It makes me feel like I'm not the only one putting myself out there.

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 07:48 PM

In my limited experience Christian men do not respond to women making the first move, especially winks. I've seen lots of profiles that say right in them they don't respond to winks.



So I don't send them. And I rarely ever contact a man first. That's just my experience, and it may be an age-specific. I think you should pray about it and go where God leads you.

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Posted : 8 Feb, 2010 07:49 PM

Oopppss I responded on the guys forum again. :rolleyes:

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Posted : 9 Feb, 2010 01:12 AM

This goes almost in line with the other post concerning whether or not a woman should 'make the first move....ask the guy out... and plan the date...".....



I mentioned in that post that a woman should always 'make her interest known'.......but 'subtly'...... After that, the man should be man enough to take it from there if he is interested...



Sending a man a "hello" or a "wink" is letting the man know you are interested, and is considered a subtle flirt. A woman who sees a man's profile that she is interested in and doesn't send him a small hello is actually hurting herself in the end.... for one very good reason----- He may not have seen YOUR profile.... The equivalent would be standing in a crowd when his head is turned sideways and looking in a different direction... You have to move yourself into his direction in order for him to see you. Sending him a short "hello" is the new age, electronic way for which to do so..... It is the equivalent to moving nearer to him in the crowd, turning, looking at him and smiling.... After that... again...if he is interested, he will and should know what to do. If he is not.... then it would be no different if that man did it in your direction and you were not interested in talking to him.



I understand it takes a lot to face possible rejection.... but I can assure you... the slight amount you would face as a woman is by no means EVER equal to the amount that men have to face when in the course of the mating game. There lot is ten fold compared to women's. Maybe their smiling at the wrong woman in the wrong direction. Are you going to allow him to miss the right woman in the RIGHT direction??? hmmmmmmmmmmm



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