Author	Thread: Sharing Secrets
GraceMae View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 08:23 PM How does it make you feel when a woman shares secrets with you? Do you feel empowered? Do you feel that revealing secrets to you is that confirmation of trust to you? Not just the stuff about our past, unless it'll affect our future, that may be different. I've read a few different articles and books that indicate when we women share intimate things (that we don't with just anyone...) well you get a sense that you have a special place in our hearts, which might make you feel empowered, that you are really a part a womans life. One book stated of men "Things spoken in secret allows him to know that you have confidence in his abiility to keep a part of you that is sacred". Does her sharing make you that at ease with sharing as much with her? Your thoughts? ~ GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 09:13 PM I for one almost always think 'i wish i didn't know that' Post Reply
View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 09:14 PM making us laugh or smile gets the most milage. alot of times i'm thinking 'why so serious?' Post Reply
View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 05:51 AM Intimacy = "Into Me See" It was always my assumption that a couple were supposed to be 'best friends' as well as lovers. I certainly shared most of my secrets with my partner under that assumption. I'd rather her share her dirt with ME because I know I can at least keep the secret. Now... getting a woman to stop telling intimate details of OUR life together to her girlfriends..... that's another matter....:winksmile: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 06:31 AM I do think sharing secrets would build trust. I know I can keep a secret, I've got a few juicy ones buried in here that I wish I didn't know. Some people seem to have this "I'll tell you if you promise not to tell anyone" thing going, and it doesn't stop. Pretty soon everybody knows. And I have a bad habit of holding it against people too. One of my cousins, a great friend...we were working on a roof and having a conversation about this exact thing. We were talking(gossiping probably...oops...) about someone else that I was a little annoyed with, because they had shared something I had told them with someone else...and before we started talking about it we agreed to keep the conversation "confidential". So that same day around lunch, she got angry with the "person in question" for some reason and blurted the whole conversation....in front of me and the person the "confidential conversation" was about, lol. Anyway...it was over such a small thing, but I lost a lot of respect and trust for her. If you can't keep a small secret...the odds are you aren't going to do well with a large one. And might make me love her more...but when I'm about to hand my heart to someone I don't want them , I need to trust them. Love and trust build separately I think...kinda need them to be building at the same time, but I don't think having love for someone necessarily means you trust them. Like, my mother for instance. I love her, but she is NOT too good at keeping things to herself, so I don't trust her with any "secrets". :peace::peace: Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 12:13 PM I do love it when a woman shares her secrets with me. Cause of the way that she "relaxes" afterward. I love the fact that five minutes after she shared the secret, even if it's not a deep dark one, she's looking at me differently. Empowered? Maybe not the right word, trusted might be better. It's always special when a woman shares a secret with you, as it's often the beginning, if not the affirmation of that oh-so-important trust Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Sharing Secrets Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 07:15 PM God bless you guys! You've shared so much revelation to me. It is good to know your thoughts about this. It makes me reflect about my own self. ~ GraceMae Post Reply