Author	Thread: wink?
mgnsoftball View Profile History	wink? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 06:20 PM Guys what do you mean when you send a girl a "wink"? What do you think it means when a girl "winks" at you? Post Reply
View Profile History	wink? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 06:33 PM On most dating sites to send a wink means that we're too cheap to spring for a monthly subscription. On CDFF, where everything is free, it means that we're too lazy to write a real email. Winks serve another, undocumented purpose: You can check to see if someone has logged on recently by sending them a wink, then checking back every day. Kind of like stalking.:laugh: When I get an unsolicited wink I usually equate that with the words lazy or unimaginative, and delete it without reply. I would think that this is standard operating procedure with most singles here. Post Reply
View Profile History	wink? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 07:44 PM To me, winks show an interest, and if find their profile interesting, then I'll write the person something. On a free site like this though, I wonder if winks have much use when a person can just write for free, but everyone likes doing things differently. Post Reply
liv2luvudeeply View Profile History	wink? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 10:08 PM Here's another good thread on winks: http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/forum/forum_details.php?topic_id=4406&forum_sub_cat_id=9&start=0 I never use winks for first contact, but I can see a use for them for ladies. As I posted on the other thread, I think men were created to be the initiators and pursuers, and ladies were created to be the responders and receivers. A lady sending a wink says I'm interested in being pursued by you, and I'm hoping you will initiate and make the first move. I agree that a guy sending a wink is just being to lazy to come up with something to say in the first e-mail. I will, however, sometimes wink at someone I'm corresponding with on here just to be flirty...I mean I can't exactly send flowers! T Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	wink? Posted : 31 Jan, 2010 10:36 AM I'm going to try an answer two of your post at once, so I hope you can follow what I'm saying. Everyone is different. This goes for both men and women which I'm sure you know. Therefore what may be attractive to me may not mean anything to anyone else. Me personally, I like a girl that can get a little crazy but yet is focused enough on God that she values a relationship with Him. (By crazy I don't mean drinking and going out on the town, I just mean being relaxed yet having a good time.) I also am attracted to someone who shares interest with me...yet at the same time they should have there own thing that they do as well. There isn't any list of things that a girl must check off that then puts her on the list of Univeral Attraction for Guys. Just like the opposite for men... Now to answer the "wink" question...When I send out a wink it means that I think that the girl is physically attractive and I'm hoping that by "winking" at her she may be interested in knowing who I am. If she checks out my profile then I may follow up with an email. I started this because I was frustrated with sending out emails with no responses. So I figure that if a woman sees that I've winked at her and she takes the time to check out my profile then if I'm still interested I'll email her. I think over all the "wink" just lets others know that there is some kind of interest. Post Reply
Jesusiseverything View Profile History	wink? Posted : 2 Feb, 2010 08:34 AM I think winks are a polite way to say you are interested and it gives the other person a chance to check out your profile and wink back. If they wink back, then the guy can send a letter. I think most women are not interested in most men pursuing them and this saves from writing countless letters going nowhere. There are thousands of people out there. Lets focus on efficiency. Post Reply
View Profile History	wink? Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 10:06 PM AMEN! Most girls want to be pursued, not be the pursuers. When I get a wink as a first contact from a guy I check his profile. But if he doesn't send me a message it is very unlikely that I will send him one. If he's too lazy to write me a personal message, then too bad! His loss. I know it takes guts to put yourself out there and initiate contact, but it's YOUR job! Not ours. It might not seem fair, but it kindof evens out when you think that the women have to give birth. lol. The least you can do is pursue the girl. If I send a wink to someone, I agree that it is saying "Hello! I find you interesting and would love to get to know you! Please send me a message!" :) Man up, boys! Speaking of personal messages, what's with the form letters? "Hey _____. I liked your profile and would love to get to know you better. bla bla bla." Please please treat us like individuals. When I get a note that is so general, it tells me that you probably didn't take the time to actually read my profile and retain any of that information. So my advice to you is to at least incorporate one tiny little piece of information in your initial contact to a lady that shows you really did find her interesting. Maybe mention something you have in common, or something you would like to know more about. You know how women like to talk. Ask us a question, and genuinely want to know the answer, and you've earned brownie points for life! :) lol. Anyway, sorry for my tirade, but I hope this helps a little. Trish Post Reply
View Profile History	wink? Posted : 15 Feb, 2010 12:54 PM :-) Good one Liquid...I would personally prefer to write something more detailed to a gal. The problem is that the majority of people never take the time to respond. To write an email for 15 minutes and not get a response...I will usually opt for the wink. But most gals think of a wink as quick and cheap...so it is a bit of a catch 22. Greg Post Reply