Ok here goes.. Did this once before, followed advice given and no better success.
I just changed the written section of my profile and am wondering if it sounds too negative? It was the state of mind I was in when I wrote it I suppose. I was frustrated with the whole thing. In hindsight, I'm thinking maybe I should do a rewrite. Suggestions?
My feedback is: Well, first, I don't know how long you've been on this site or tried online dating. I started about a year ago. Okay. For those of us who have been 'at it' for a while; we *know* that scammers are simply part of what you're going to get (yes, we men get them too). And, as far as getting 'results' goes; that is to say, how soon we meet new friends of the opposite sex (here), whether online-only or in-person; it seems to me that for most people it takes time. I have not met anyone in-person after a year of writing a few ladies.
So. I'd suggest removing 'the obvious' from your profile. That is, on the scammers and 'not-fast-results'. It's kind of like 'preaching to the choir' (if you see what I'm saying).
Otherwise, on the *positive side of things*, I think you did a good job on stating what your goals and intentions are. This is the kind of thing I look for in profiles --- the positive stuff --- as opposed to things we don't like. 'Hope this might help you some.
Thanks! (I'm reflecting on how I might make my profile more positive and/or affirming too! It's a new year and decade! Let's go4it)! :bouncy:
Thanks cattle and rick. I will work on rewriting it. I'll be away for a few days so it may be the weekend before i get a chance, but yeah I felt like it was more of a rant because of my frustration.
Take it from one who thought themselves "Wise" and knowledgable of this world and the people in it...COMMUNICATION is of the utmost importance, along with Honesty and Integrity.
What you wrote was your honest feelings...leave them. Those words are a genuine look into your Heart...we men need to see that. Never be afraid of being honest with what you are feeling.
Now...you've voiced your discontent with the way some of the men have acted here (and well you should) -- now add some of what your expectations are and what your desires are.
Write as if you had an audience of men sitting at your feet in front of "hanging" on your every word, because that is the type of man you should be looking for.
Expect those wolves in Suiter's clothing...they will expose themselves in time. Keep the door to your Love cracked just a bit...enough for you to make judgement calls, but not enough for that rascal to get out and cloud your thinking. Be diligent...trust in God and alwats ask for clarification of every important thing you do here online...both from the person you are writing to and fron God. Don't "fly off the handle" and regret it.
Stay with us and join in The Forum whenever you can...it is great exposure.
(Sundra wrote, QUOTE): "Thanks cattle and rick. I will work on rewriting it. I'll be away for a few days so it may be the weekend before i get a chance, but yeah I felt like it was more of a rant because of my frustration." (UNQUOTE)
Just wanted to add, "You're welcome, Sundra" and that I, too, am still considering how I may improve my profile -- (which, actually) -- can be seen to go along with self-improvement: How might I do that? It's a new year and a new decade, and I'm looking forward to whatever the Good Lord has in store for me (whether I find a girlfriend, get a date, or not)! Take care. Thanks!
