Would you forgive your girlfriend/wife if she wasn't a virgin when you met/married her? Particularly if you weren't the one to take it?
Do you expect your girlfriend/wife to forgive you and forget your past sexual indiscretions?
Would you refuse to date a woman who had ever been on psychological medicines before?
Would you date a woman with aspergers or dyslexia or ADHD? Or, do you believe those don't exist/are just sin problems and prove how ungodly the woman is?
Is flirting a bad or a good thing?
Are women expected to be asexual until marriage and then flick a switch and be able to have sex that night?
Do Christian women need to talk in soft voices, wear cardigans, be very practical and have been in a sorority in college to be desirable?
Do you all want female friends?
What behavior do you expect from a wife? What wouldn't you stand for? How much power do you expect to have over her and in her life and choices? What about her in yours?
Yes. :goofball: In a marriage it is. If you don't want to have sex, don't get married. It's better for Christians not to get married.
Would you forgive your girlfriend/wife if she wasn't a virgin when you met/married her? Particularly if you weren't the one to take it?
Yes. I would only hold adultery against me against her...but I might even be able to forgive her for that. It would depend on the attitude she had about it.
Do you expect your girlfriend/wife to forgive you and forget your past sexual indiscretions?
N/A, but if it applies in the future I would expect equal treatment. (See last question)
Would you refuse to date a woman who had ever been on psychological medicines before?
Nope...I should probably be on some myself. :ROFL::dancingp::devil::boxing::bow::prayingm::dunce::zzzz::ribbit::bunny::bouncy::MrT::winksmile::yay::eat::peace:
Would you date a woman with aspergers or dyslexia or ADHD? Or, do you believe those don't exist/are just sin problems and prove how ungodly the woman is?
Um...yes to the first. The second...no. I don't think God directly punishes sin with illness. Illness usually comes about from our parent's bad health habits/inherited traits, or unhealthy/unlucky living...which is usually caused by sin, but not BECAUSE of sin. If your parents were alcoholics/smokers...you're going to have problems. If you eat at McDonald's every day....problems. If you eat a stick of deodorant every day for 10 years you'll probably get Alzheimer's. Punishment from God? Maybe...but probably indirect. Our race has been degenerating for 6,000 in a broken world. If you're born with something it is definitely not your fault. If you have sex with 10,000 people and get AIDs...it's your fault.
Is flirting a bad or a good thing?
Probably not a "good" thing...it depends on the degree...but I'm pretty guilty of all degrees so...not pointing fingers...
Are women expected to be asexual until marriage and then flick a switch and be able to have sex that night?
I'm not a woman, I've never been married, and never had sex so...whatever. But in God's eyes you are not married until you become "one flesh". Words and paper don't mean much.
Do Christian women need to talk in soft voices, wear cardigans, be very practical and have been in a sorority in college to be desirable?
Not to me. All I need is a sympathetic soul that knows what I'm talking about...and that doesn't think I'm too insane...or boring...or ugly...but it's all about preference. Somehow I don't think you want to marry a guy that sits around drinking beer while he expects you to fix him dinner. But maybe there's a woman out there for that guy that likes to cook. Women that talk in soft voices, wear cardigans, are very practical, and have been in a sorority in college might want to get married also. You don't have to marry a guy that likes cardigans. Don't hold someones preferences against them, because you have them too. Yours might be better...but that's not the point, lol. Find a guy that you like that likes you...and get married. And try not to look down on the guy drinking beer. It's not very often that you know how he was raised, how hard/easy his life was, or how much of a choice he had in becoming who he is. Feel sorry for him, and remember we're all stuck in this krappy place. We're supposed to try and help each other out of it.
Do you all want female friends?
I suppose...I really only want one though:goofball:
What behavior do you expect from a wife? What wouldn't you stand for? How much power do you expect to have over her and in her life and choices? What about her in yours?
I won't expect anything that I wouldn't expect from myself...and I hope she'll give me the same courtesy. I wouldn't stand for destructive behavior and I would try to intervene, but it would be her choice ultimately. And hopefully we'll be partners...make the big choices together. Small choices would be our own to make as long as they don't influence our relationship in a serious way...then they become big ones.
Sounds like you're a little angry at dudes. Can't say I blame you, but there's still some good ones out there. The fact that you might be having a hard time finding the right guy might be because you're both rare. Don't give up, and don't brand us all.
You showed patience and insightfulness. I would agree with everything you said except for the "aspergers" thingy. Unless I somehow fell in Love with her(without dating?). Aspergers is difficult to cope with...I know ....my toaster has it.
It should be yes. I wish I had waited and I know alot of others that feel the same way.
Would you forgive your girlfriend/wife if she wasn't a virgin when you met/married her? Particularly if you weren't the one to take it?
Of course, but that's because we talked about it.
Do you expect your girlfriend/wife to forgive you and forget your past sexual indiscretions?
I hope so, well yes if she is to be my wife
Would you refuse to date a woman who had ever been on psychological medicines before?
No, she needs to be well before starting a serious relationship anyway.
Would you date a woman with aspergers or dyslexia or ADHD? Or, do you believe those don't exist/are just sin problems and prove how ungodly the woman is?
Those are not sin problems. They are serious issues that our world has to deal with now.
Is flirting a bad or a good thing?
Flirting is a great thing, as long as it can be kept clean.
Are women expected to be asexual until marriage and then flick a switch and be able to have sex that night?
No. No one can do that comfortablely. Women are sexual creatures as well as men. I think the right thing is to have healthy sexual conversations before marriage. Try to keep it as non graphic as possible. But also there is an amount of exploration that takes place in a relationship. But remember modesty and the you are a Christian.
Do Christian women need to talk in soft voices, wear cardigans, be very practical and have been in a sorority in college to be desirable?
NO
Do you all want female friends?
Sometimes they are better then guy friends.
What behavior do you expect from a wife? What wouldn't you stand for? How much power do you expect to have over her and in her life and choices? What about her in yours?
I think women in general, married or not should conduct themselves as a lady. Men as gentlemen. I propose to wield no "power" over my wife. We are equal, I take on the responsability of "Man" not boy and use this title to lead our family not control it.
I will answer your questions differently than the others.
I had seizures as a child.My meds stop them.So, I need a woman who can read me.If I am having a problem with my driving a car she can say pull over,I am going to drive.She has to be willing to take charge when she sees my meds causing me problems.
This should answer your questions on power in the household. I want a wife with good sound judgement.
My ex was married before,I had no problem with it.She failed in the part to support me.When the going got tough she flew the coop.So, I am looking for a commited woman who is well grounded in the faith.
I like to flirt,I keep it subtle and clean.ladies like to tease also, I flirt on this site by talking about my cats.It gets humorous comments from the ladies.
Uh yeah. Sex is a big deal. Think I read some statistic that the average 30 something male thinks about sex every 37 seconds or so. I think by the time he's 70 it subsides to every 5 minutes. Most ladies I know who have been married think about sex all the time as well. It's normal. I do however believe that lust is a huge factor in our society, and abstinence is possible and required.
When the disciples asked Jesus how many times they should forgive, He said 490 a day and I'm sure that was figuratively speaking, so that answers those questions. However, when trust is broken, it's more complicated than just forgiving...there has to be a time of proving and re-earning trust. Even then it's nearly impossible.
Meds? Have the underlying issues been identified and are they being dealt with?
Flirting is a great thing for single people and a very bad thing for married people.
Women need emotional connection to be sexual...the challenge is to have that emotional connection which builds anticipation, and be celibate until marriage!
Women should be exactly what God created them to be, and be able to be equal to their partners, yet be able to submit as much as he submits to her.
I value my female friends more than ever this year, but I acknowledge how hard it is to keep it platonic.
And again, mutual submission is the key. Neither husband nor wife should make choices that affect their spouse or families without the consent of their spouse.
