Hey guys, this is just a random question I had floating on my mind. If you were at a Christmas party and you saw me (or any other single lady) standing under the mistletoe by myself, would you walk over to me and kiss me, even if you didn't know me? Ha ha! I'm just curious what your answers will be :)
A risky question to ask especially, if taken out of the wrong context. In the right light, it sounds like you seek some sincere, affirming, and encouraging words of what men on here may think of you, in terms of your attactiveness. On a more serious side of the same note, would it really be appropriate for a Christian woman to solicit expressions of physical lust at a party? Or indirectly on a site? And would you really want a strange man kissing you? It can send out the wrong signals in lots of different ways. However, I suspect you are a lady of virtue, and meant no harm by making your inquiry with the deeper understanding that your thread wasn't an advertisement for promiscuity.
Yeah, I meant nothing impure by it . . . the question is all in good fun. And by "kissing" I don't necessarily mean on the lips, it could even be on the cheek - or perhaps a guy would just go over and talk to the girl. And this question was supposed to be more general, not just for me - I just didn't word it clearly. Affirming is good, of course, but my intention was not to seek affirmation - I've got plenty of that. Thanks for the perspective :)
Your answer was very gracefull and mature. It shows of your virture well. Your thread was "innoncent" in your intentions as you explained, but leading, subltly provocative, and suggestive in its nature. It definitely could open the doorway for non-G rating responses in your private email, and promote an environment of lust-fillled flirting on here in the public, which wouldn't be good for either gender.
I saw that Ole Cattle was flirting with you, and potentially, many guys could follow that example. A mediator, female and male alike shouldn't be flirting with the people who participate in the posts even if it's in "fun". It will taint the mediation and promote double standards of doing so.
If a guy asked that same question that you did, posted the same thread that you did, Ole Cattle would be quick to point out the error of it, the inapropriateness of it, and what not. If wouldn't be righteous to have this thread be O.K. for one gender and not the other.
You're an intelligent woman, though. I've noticed several of your other posts. Your input is valued!
dear folks, you dont even have to be under the misletoe to give one another a kiss of love..and to be following biblical guidelines.. now how bout that
1 peter 5:14 Greet one another with a kiss of love.
eternal, as for you, you had no right making such implications as you did to this lady, and i did say lady here.
also you continue to question my integrity and honor and continue insulting me . all this even after admin has asked you kindly not to abuse me in any way here.
if someone can read between the lines , in most everyone of your posts since they asked you to stop youve been taking mostly subtle digs at me ..
you continue to play the innocent victim..
accountability is a big word.. not continued justification and playin the victim.... youve been asked to leave it be how many times? and all this after i even spoke up for you and even asked folks to give you a clean slate to begin anew..
after your apology offered up repentence... i dont believe that was ever the case as repentence means to turn away from what you was or are doing ..
"Greet each other with a kiss of love" is a great verse, but in the Pr. 31 post, it would be the improper context for it. She wasn't asking her brother, mother, grandparents, or best friends for a "kiss of love". She was asking if men saw her at a party, would they give her a kiss...a real kiss even if only on the lips.
If any guy posted that same thread that asked all women on here "would you kiss me if you saw me at a party" would that be appropriate? Would you let the men on here do that? You didn't clarify that?
Would it be righteous for any mediator male and female alike to flirt with members of the opposite gender. Innocent flirting is no more right than blatant flirting.
You didn't address that?
You were quick to point out that I haven't "reformed" my ways, and tookpride in letting everyone know that you turned me into admin., but my "ways"were misunderstood in the same way that many people on here,male and female, alike can and will do in regards to her thread or if anyone else would post something similar.
My questions were righteous, fair, and honest ones to answer no matter who asked.
Wow, I had no idea I was going to open up a whole can of worms :)
EternalHope, I do appreciate your perspective and I can see how my question can be taken the wrong way so I will be careful how I word them in the future, but I agree with Ole Cattle. I've read many of his posts and he is clearly a man of integrity with pure motives. Thanks Ole Cattle for standing up for me!
EternalHope, you said he was "flirting" with me in his original post - umm, first of all, I didn't take it that way and second of all, there's absolutely nothing wrong with flirting. I understand that in today's culture, flirting can be misunderstood sometimes and so we have to be careful, but to a lot of people who have pure minds, flirting doesn't always mean "I want to sleep with you," it is clearly understood as a kind gesture of friendliness and a polite way to show interest - nothing wrong with that at all.
1 peter 5:14 Greet one another with a kiss of love.
that dont specify its gotta be your brother your mother your grandparents or your best friends. we may greet everyone with a kiss of love.. now theres your context.. and its biblical..
heck, if you was under the misletoe id even give you a kiss of love .. smile
you ask if the question was innappropriate..?
when tryin to determine that question.. appropriate or innappropriate..
first i ask myself is it biblical? was it something we were told it was ok to do in the bible or is it ok for us to ask others about in the bible.. or was it something that was only preached to us about , not told for us to do...
then i ask mysefl,, is that a question a man would ask their mother or not.. or a question a woman would ask her dad about..
then you have how was it asked ,worded etc..
so yes if my mother was standing under the miscletoe i would give her a kiss of love and id flirt with her too.
now to me if youd been so misunderstood youd of let it go along time ago..after i spoke to you, after admin spoke to you and after your clean slate was started .. and just enjoyed the forums here.. yet your personal vendetta here against me has turned into you taking it out on innocent people here. and your insinuations to this lady here were very uncool. i answered your questions this time..
i will not answer anymore questions from you.. if you have a problem take it to the admin here.. but dont use the forums to continue to bait me or question me or the admin here.. as thats not kool either..
youve been given way more chances here than anyone ever has. so i suggest you start makin good on em.
A female is at a party, she's single, and seeking to be kissed by a single man she has never met.
I'm glad you understood how your wording was suggestive as it would be just the same if a man had posted the same thread.
If this were a family event, I'd would greet my relatives with a "kiss of love", but be not so quick to do so with people I didn't know as well. Some people are more comfortable doing that. I respect that you and Ole' Cattle are.
To other people who aren't as familiar and friendly with each other as you and Ole' Cattle are, seeking kisses and greeting each other with a "kiss a love" of can send out mixed signals and making some people uncomfortable. After all, this is a dating site.
