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Posted : 18 Dec, 2009 10:04 AM

background; i met someone on another site who asked me for my msn addie, since my free trial was going to be up that day i gave it to him.

The first conversation on msn went like this (continuation from the other site);

me- hello

him-hey

me-i wont keep you from getting to work, as i am cooking right now too, will see you online later :)

me-oh, i didnt catch your name

him-are you able to text?

him-********

me-i have not tried, have to buy credit first. but i will try when i do

him-sounds good catch you later can you email me some more pictures to *insert email here*?

i said ..ok, convo ended.



A little while ago i he messaged me via msn, and said he had not seen me in a while, i went on to explain that i am studying for exams, he said ok then told me i forgot to email the pics. I replied, not really, and told him i think we should get to know each other better before that, he proceeded to ask why to which i explained that i feel uncomfortable sending my pics to someone i do not know. And further expressed that i would not mind chatting with cam once exams are over and i have time.



My stance; i will not be sending a STRANGER my picture, i do not care if you claim to be at the feet of Jesus 24/7...365. I live in the Caribbean, i'm studying right now also. My priorities are in order, i do not know where i want to live yet but for sure i will travel once my studies are over.



I can see the issue with someone misrepresenting themselves in a picture, but is it the first thing you would ask for once communication is established? Guys?

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Posted : 18 Dec, 2009 10:22 AM

addition; I don't believe he was requesting 'unholy' pictures.well i hope not...



Nyanda

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Posted : 18 Dec, 2009 08:20 PM

Nyanda,



Technology is a wonderful thing. It is making life easier for all of us and enables us to communicate as we are now. The problem is that it also bring new issues of security with it.

By giving someone your e-mail address and a photo of you...you have given them half of your identity.

If they send you a photo of themselves...you have to open that e-mail aand download that photo. Doing so may open your computer to theft.



Someone who wants your photo that quickly would have to understand your hesitancy in not doing so and honor your request. If he does not....walk away from him.



Anyone could "copy" your photo and use it as their own somewhere else...with your name.

We need to be very careful and very sure before you allow anyone into your "home". Your computer is your "home".



Safeguard it!



I'm proud of you Girl! Ice Cream is on me!!



Peace

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Posted : 19 Dec, 2009 12:13 PM

dear naynda, hope i spelt that right hehe.. forgive me if i didnt..

i look at it this way , if i met you out on the town. the first thing id see would be you.. so no need to ask for one then..

but if im on a dating site looking for my love of a lifetime then id expect the same.. the first thing id see would be you.. and then find out about you if i was interisted just like out on the town .. id never be interisted in anything more than friends from just words on a page.. thats just me though..

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Posted : 19 Dec, 2009 05:48 PM

That's a good question Nyanda. Trust me when I say my opinion on this kind of thing does not represent every other guy. In fact, I know a lot of men who would want to see a picture of a girl before talking with them.



While it's not an abomination at any stretch for most guys to want to see you before talking to you, in my opinion, it's just too pushy. One picture can't fully describe who you are.



If a guy doesn't get the picture that you don't want to send him your picture(catch the pun? LOLOL), then don't be afraid to say so. If he truely does have a genuine interest in being your friend or a possible date, then he'll respect your decision that you want to focus on your studies. It's just harder for some guys to care about you for you and not your physical appearance.

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Posted : 19 Dec, 2009 07:39 PM

i should have made it more clear. i have no problems of him seeing me, i do not mind webcam, and i have many display pics on msn, but i am not going to SEND him any pics. you see the difference there?

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Posted : 19 Dec, 2009 08:09 PM

dear nyanda, i see what youre sayin there.. remember never do anything that makes you uncomfortable.. that is your right.. and i dont see anything wrong with you not sendin him any more then..

ole cattle

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