This is already based on the assumption that you want a wife who is a genuine woman of faith, is completely sold out to Jesus, has a strong foundation on His Word, and desires to live for His Glory.
With that said, how do you honestly weigh these elements?
1. The amount of money in her bank account
2. Worldly status,position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation)
when you ask how do I honestly weigh these elements? Are you wanting to know what "weight" I give each one of them? In what order do I place them by "weight" (or importance?). Well, ...I would say nthat the last one that came to your mind is the one I would give the most "wieght" to, but the One Thing with me and the REASON I am on this siteis.....drum roll please!
Her walk with Christ! I think it is telling that you did not think of that....JIM?
1. The amount of money in her bank account
2. Worldly status,position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation)
All these things were what I was using as impertant before I realized that without God Right Up Front.....they were WORTHLESS!
She could be the Riches woman in the world -- Prime Minister of England -- Ms. Universe (well...maybe...nah!) -- we could have exactly the same Goals...dreams and be as compatible (emotionally, mentally, spritually) as two Democrats trashing Republicans ..... ----- but without God as the Focus... it is all for naught because at the slightest trouble or temptation or hardship or whatever...the relationship will be DOOMED!
I know from painful...costly experience.
Good Thread Jim....I'm getting to learn a lot about you and how you think. made me think about stuff too.
Hmm. Well, all things being equal and her being a strong Christian... listed in order of importance:
1. Compatibility/connection - emotionally, mentally, spiritually: This is what's going to last. This is what's going to matter when everything else has faded into nothing.
2. Physical appearance: Yeah, call me shallow. I wish this were a little lower on the list, but, I know myself too well. I need someone attractive.
3. Common goals/dreams for the future: I know these can change based on experience. This is why I'm putting a limit of age around five years. I will "fudge" a little for the right person here. It depends a lot on their maturity level.
4. Worldly status,position, power (i.e. job/career/vocation): Frankly, don't care. The only reason this gets a bit higher on my list is because of the "geek" factor.
5. The amount of money in her bank account: This ranks dead last, cause I don't care. The one exception that I can think of is if there's a long term medical condition involved.
Well, Well, Well what do I say.Money is not an issue.I do like my women smart,ok.Kindness is important and the love of christ is in them.I had an average looking wife the 1st time.Now I want a good looking one.I know it is a worldly thing, I am not to picky on looks.If she keeps her self up that is ok.Dennis
In marriage you become "one flesh" so it's important to be of one mind in areas of priority (granted that's open to interpretation) but especially in the big areas like faith, purposes for living etc.
If both are walking in Christ, display fruits of the spirit that are evidence of a life in christ etc. earthly things are secondary or rather put in perspective. Of course, discussion, compromise are important.
those topics you listed are important, where one stands on each is a reflection of where their prioritis are and what 'god' they serve (if you know what i mean). but shouldn't be sole determinors in and of themselves.
