Author	Thread: Which kind?
Admin	Which kind? Posted : 7 Dec, 2009 08:48 PM So lately, I've found myself between two stereotypes. I am currently a hairdresser but am going back to school to get an A.S. (to further my resume, not necessarily to switch careers). I have heard that I can't be a hairdresser because I am smart, but also that if I really am smart that I shouldn't be a hairdresser. I have no career dilemmas because of this and know I am right where God wants me at this point in my life. This has, however, caused me to think that perhaps this paradox is why I am still single. Do guys want an intelligent woman, or are they intimidated by that? Do they want a career-successful woman or is that not fulfilling the role of a woman in the home? Do guys want a woman to be "Vogue" gorgeous or hang out in blue jeans? I can't figure it out, so I have yet to change my routine. Men with morals seem to have a huge problem even telling a woman very indescriptively that she looks nice....and I'm not even referring to romantic relationships. Meanwhile, men who want to "get with" a girl all too often bypass the intelligence (or lack of) and go straight for the outer shell. Which kind of woman (I know the cliche answer is to say "both," but work with me here...) are men looking for? And why do you guys seem to have a hard time admitting it to the girl? I think I've rambled on long enough (maybe THAT'S why I'm single.... :laugh:), so if you're still reading and can make sense of this, please give me some insight. It's something I think about often.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 7 Dec, 2009 11:11 PM dear morton, welcome to the forums.. i dont mind a woman bein smarter than me as most all women are smarter than me hehe... specially with my ole memory its terrible nowadays.. so thatd be a good thing. ive never had any problems tellin anyone if i liked them or not. so cant help you there. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 7 Dec, 2009 11:35 PM Do guys want an intelligent woman? Well, I can't speak for ALL guys, but I can speak for this one. The answer is... YES. Be yourself. I hate phony. Most other guys do as well. And I really don't have a problem admitting this. Looks are nice, but they aren't the end all and be all of marriage. Smart money is on the intelligence, frankly. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 8 Dec, 2009 12:07 AM Which kind of woman (I know the cliche answer is to say "both," but work with me here...) are men looking for? One that can enjoy herself and enjoy being herself. Having passion, enthusiasm, and happiness outweigh all the education and career 'success' in the world. and just having something that makes you happy that you can share with others. Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 8 Dec, 2009 05:48 AM mmorton65360 -- well put!! "outer shell"! I am really interested in the replies from guys on this one. Men keep expressing please. GraceMae Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 8 Dec, 2009 07:29 AM All I've ever looked for is someone that views that world like I do. I believe physical attraction plays a large role in a marriage...and while I do look for one I'm attracted to, it's not the most important thing to me. "Successful" wouldn't bother me as long as it doesn't pull her away. Not a big fan of "vogue", I'd rather have jeans. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 8 Dec, 2009 03:07 PM Ms. Morton, Ask Vidal Sasoon if it was a poor choice becoming a hairdresser. The only thing that can be considered "stupid" about a career choice is not giving it 100% effort. Ask Wayne Hueizinga (he drove a garbage truck -- now he owns thousands of them) about career choices. So you just do whatever makes you happy and it will show in your work and your pocket. As far as intelligence goes, some men relish intelligence in a woman and then some men can't even spell the word; guess which ones are intimadated by intelligence. Then there are those that are not "book learned", but place more emphasis on "common sense" than smarts. When you start talking about "careers" you get into dangerous territory. Many women (and men too) have found themselves alone with their "careers" -- having spent more time on it than everything else. I think balance is the key word there. I don't think there are any Vogue women. They are creations of Madison Avenue for show purpose only and don't live very long. Case in point: Do you know of any that are still alive in their fourties? I do believe that we men like what you women like -- and that is someone that cleans up well when they have to and can "Put on The Ritz" every now and then. Men your age have a distinct disadvantage in that they are young and inexperienced. They FEAR looking foolish and therefore come across clumsy and "Foolish". Bear with them. Ignore the "basic instincts" guys and cultivate the shy insecure ones. And to finally aswer your question -- I believe most men want common sense over intelligence and that if they are reluctant at first to compliment eventually they will get around to it -- even if it's a side of beef and flowers (it's the thought that counts). Peace I think age is a very high price to pay for maturity. Tom Stoppard Post Reply
deepndaft View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 9 Dec, 2009 12:11 AM Do you like cake? I do :) Sounds random, I know, but in dating terms, I approach women in the same way I do food. When I'm out on my lunch, wondering what to eat, I'll be in a cafe or restaurant, and it goes like this... My eyes make a choice My head agrees I buy the food My eyes often wander to the cakes. Thankfully, my head says "don't be silly, try something healthier". It does this with lots of the fatty, unhealthy foods that my eyes always seem attracted to. On the other hand, I'm sure there are lots of things I could get which I would never try because they don't look appetising. My head would consider them good, but my eyes don't give it a chance to make the choice. In terms of a relationship, my head and my heart have a lot to talk about with any choice my eyes make. They consider all things, like spirituality, likes and dislikes and, importantly, intellect. If I can't have decent intellectual conversations with someone, then they'd reject any choice my eyes make. After all, I can have good old reasoned debates, and share my 'acquired taste' sense of humour, with lots of my friends. My eyes don't want another friend, though - I have plenty of those. They're looking for more. Post Reply
david3by9 View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 9 Dec, 2009 10:00 AM Be yourself, and let the man who is attracted to who you are see you for yourself. It is a terrible tihing to be dating someone you think is being real and than after being involved find that they are totally different. To thine own self be true. Not scripture, but how about this. We are His workmanship created in Christ Jesus Unto good works. You were created with a purpose and destiny by God himself, so find His will for your life and you will find the man who fits that destiny, cause your seeking God and both of you will be at the right place at the right time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 9 Dec, 2009 02:39 PM I rather like this seemingly simple analogy. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Which kind? Posted : 9 Dec, 2009 02:40 PM Sorry. That was kind of ambiguous, I suppose. The above comment was directed to deepndaft. Post Reply

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