Author	Thread: Guys, why does a woman's age matter?
sdsurfgirl View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 12:30 AM Hello all you guys. I have a question and I'm seriously curious so, please, please, please respond. I have noticed that almost all men who are interested in a relationship are not interested in anyone in their own age range. However, these same men are fine with dating women 15 or more years their junior. If you are 50, or 40, or 30 then why do you only want to date women at your age range or younger? I guess I'm really very curious because women will allow for relationships with older men, but I haven't seen any men with older women. Please enlighten me. C Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 01:10 AM Hi Surf! Welcome to The Forum. Simple truth is we men are.....drum roll please...SHALLOW! We have been treated like Kings for so long that we feel we are entitled to act like Kings and Kings always get the sweetest part of the roast and the freshest fruit and their beer brought to them ice cold in a little thermo cuppie thingy. The King likes his clothes fresh and new and his harem replenished often. Not all men are that way. There are some who have been married for many years and they see their wife as being the same woman they married. Those men were and still are in love. When you see those -- think about what their priorities are and where the younger bride fits in with those priorities. Just pass them by -- they will never know what they missed. As for me....well...I have a doctor's note that says I have to have a younger wife by at least 25 years or I will die. Really!...I'll show it to you. Peace Wow! I think I see a mob of men carrying torches and they are headed right towards me...!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 01:48 AM hi surfgirl, i think it's just a case of "it is what it is" and began long before we came along, all down and throughout history. possibly is it that women may seek an older guy for security, stability, supposed maturity levels? What do you look for if considering an older guy? while a male may look for a younger lady may be somewhat more carefree about love, spontaneous, even dependent? i guess some men after a failed marriage feel they need to make up for lost a youth or want to get that youthful feeling back by dating a younger gal. heck i don't know... i've known and do know guys who are like that, as for me i prefer it being a little closer to my own age and don't mind so much 3-4 years older as a possibility. but then again, i ain't 50 yet, the biological clock is tickin away..so this may change.lol Post Reply
Tarasye View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 06:01 AM Hi Sister, and welcome to the forums. I understand you completely. I love having friends of all ages and genders on the forums here, but a serious interest? A serious interest is someone within ten years of my age and close enough to date. Sorry people, it is what it is as jjar said I guess, which means all the old guys that keep hitting on the young girls probably aren't going to get the favorable response they want, unless its like arch says, there are shallow reasons attached, cuz face it guys if you aren't interested in a gal twenty years older than yourself, why should we be.....okay, you know the real answer there so if you want to tell yourself we are more evolved and don't care as much about imperfections as men, keep telling yourself that but you don't see the poor old men with the hot young chicks either. I personally like to stick to my ten year rule as I like someone I can keep up with, that can keep up with me, and can comprehend what I am talking about when I describe things that I remember growing up etc. I once seriously did date a guy a little older than that range once, but was left heart broken when I figured out he was seriously dating two other women (and how many more not as seriously, I am not sure) and all were younger then me. I came to realize that the entire thing was pretty sick and disturbing. Thank the Lord our God is not one to give up on us, for I was really hopeless and pathetic back then, and so very naive. Wish only that I had known then all the things I know now and that my faith had been there to save me from myself, but praise God I have that now, and am better for the scarred badges of courage we all acquire along the way. Tarasye Post Reply
david3by9 View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 08:37 AM I once heard someone say, that people who want to be with someone much younger than themselves have confused marriage with adoption. In some cultures, like in Asia and Eastern Europe women desire a much older man. So in our culture it is a stero type of a man or woman (they call them cougars) who has something wrong. In other cultures woman see an older man as a positive benefit. Even in the biblical account Ruth was much younger than Boaz. She became His benfactor. Often times younger woman can still have children and some men want children. Most older woman that have children don't want any more or cannot have them. Me personally, I have a daughter who is 23 and a mom who is 72. I would prefer to keep within my age ranch. Don't need a daughter and I don't need a mom. Both of them have been a blessing to me. So I put about 10 years younger and a few years older. Not to much older because women live longer than men in most cases, although my grandfather outlived two wives. I do have friends that are more than 10 years younger than I am but if something would develop I would have to know that God was leading that way, not just my own selfish desires. Hionestly it is not so much the age as who the woman is and what she is about. I want someone who has a hearts passion for Christ, not giving full indulgent to selfishness and has a heart for others. When I see a list as long as my arm about what a woman wants and nothing about what she brings to the table, I walk the other way. It takes a godly man and woman to make a great relationship, not just one person being what they need to be. So I say, become everything you were meant to be in Christ and folllow Christ. He knows who is best for you and the age will be according to His good pleasure and His destiny for you. My question is why do some woman want a man with money that will support her. Post Reply
david3by9 View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 08:49 AM To continue with my question. Why does a woman want a man who will support her? If it were a man asking for that, it would he would be called lazy. So when a woman is seeking a man to support her, it is ok. Is there something wrong with this or is it just nature? A woman naturally looking for a man to take care of her. Maybe independence is better. You tell me. Especially when the woman is grown and has her own children grown and she doesn't need someone to take care of her as an adult. Yet often we hear of woman marrying a man not for love but for money. There is even a dating site for beautiful woman who want a man who makes more than 100,000 per year. So the rich men get the beautiful woman? LOL. Maybe that is the answer to the question you have asked. The rich man is older and he can look for a young attractive woman because she wants money and he is looking for beauty and can pay for it. Agian I prefer to let God direct my path. Money and beauty are all temporary. God is eternal. We need money in this world and beauty is nice to look at but where will my beautiful wife be if I run out of money. I will take faithfulness and godliness, thank you very much. I had one marriage where she left because of hard times financially, even though I worked all my life. In my book and I read it in another BOOK, marriage is a lifetime based on His will. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 12:15 PM dear folks, i myself have always prefered an older woman.. but if there was a younger woman interisted in me and i liked her id surely not turn her away.. just cause shes younger.. ive seen a few profiles where the woman was looking for younger men.. its either a preference or if you leave the age range open then its whoever you fall in love with.. long as its legal i dont pay a whole lot of attention to age.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 5 Dec, 2009 06:03 PM True, there are women looking for a man to support her. They want their daddy, just as many men looking for a younger woman want to adopt. "Support" comes in many forms, not just money. Money (like hair and weight) can come and go. Focus on the things that really matter, and that matter to God. IMHO. Mo Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 6 Dec, 2009 04:09 PM Hold on people.It is different circumstances that decide.some of you woman need to think a little.What is the guys background? I have no kids.My 1st wife and I where married for about 5 years. I married late in life to a oman my own age.I was 37,ok. It is not too late to have a kid or 2.So,I am looking for a woman much younger or someone my age.I am considering both.See my point.My grandfather had his last kid at 48 years.My grandmother was 10 years younger.I would like to have a kid yet.But if I found someone my age that is ok.I have no problem with dating a much younger woman.Look at the case not your preconceived ideas,ok. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 6 Dec, 2009 07:26 PM dear dennis, dont worry my friend , its not unbiblical for a man to have a younger woman as his wife.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys, why does a woman's age matter? Posted : 6 Dec, 2009 07:37 PM Hey Dennis, i was married 17 yrs and she was 7 younger than me...that never had anything to do with our marital problems. i hear where you're coming from man, can't go lumping all guys into one pile cause circumstances ain't the same for all. Post Reply

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