Men, I understand God made you visual, and of course, we ALL like to see who we are talking to. That being said, sometimes on the forums I notice people dressed in a somewhat seductive manner to say the least. Both men and women do it, but mostly women I think and mostly young people, but occasionally some are really not that young either. I know what I think when I see this, but obviously opinions on this must vary from what I can tell. I am not asking for what the Bible says on it, for those that are obedient in the Word know, and those that are not apparently don't care all that much. So here is the question, when you see a seductive woman's picture on this site, what are your thoughts on it? And do you want to talk to here or run from her? Is this working for you, or are you wishing someone would say something, but you really just don't want to be the one? Be honest, now, its only fair to defend what your honest feelings are here, so women will know one way or the other. Nobody is perfect, an not one among us is without our vices.
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised." Pr 31:30.
The seductress will try to usurp the 1 Cor. 7:4 authority God gives women over men. But I do not think that is what happens here. I have not seen these seductive profiles. Send me the list and I will check them out myself, LOL :ROFL:
Seriously, men are to flee fornication. Know when to hold them,
Know when to fold them,
Know when to walk away,
Know when to run...
These attack women are out there. This is when wives can protect the husband rather than accuse him.
I think I know what you are saying, because I too have seen those profiles. Some are subtle, perhaps even subconscious attempts to use �sexuality� as a means for popularity or acceptance. I know that for the younger generation (and for many of the older generation also) acceptance is extremely important and paramount in their thoughts and actions � leading to or doing whatever will enhance that goal.
Sexuality is HAMMERED in to their minds constantly and is made to appear as a �necessity� in life and thusly it is used. Only time or experience or Godly Mentors will change that.
Others that I have seen are blatant � barely disguised, attempts to impress others with their worth. Those I have to pray for, because some of them (while not being Possessed by the dark one) are Obsessed by the dark one into this form of seduction that only leads to heartache or worst. If they only knew that they (and those that are lured) are chasing a �veneer� of superficial sensuality that is bait on the end of a �Hook� that will snare them and lead them down a dark road.
These types may also be doing this as a way to gain �control� over another. As a means of gaining �power� over them. All this can also become a type of co-dependency. There are many pitfalls with this type of behavior.
And thank you Tarasye for bringing this out into the light for perhaps some of these souls to see.
Everything God created was and is good. The human body is good (no matter how depraved some think man is). How we use our bodies can be bad. The key word (I believe) is Dignity.
We should treat everyone�s body with Dignity and the Respect it deserves and conversely our own body; just as we treat The Body of Christ will Respect and Dignity.
In my opinion, if we filter everything we say, do or think through those two Ideals � that of Dignity and Respect � we will see a decline in every negative behavior of mankind. I�m sure someone can find Scripture that speaks to this. This is something that is intrinsic to most of us and I believe stamped on our hearts, but covered by mankind�s refusal to bend to God�s Commandments.
I do not think that pointing them out individually will do any good and may drive them off of this site. This is probably the best way (other than prayer) in hopes that our comments are read.
dear folks, i agree with arch here, dont point out folks individually by name or be a reference leading straight to them when speaking of things in general that bother you..
i dont see that on this post but have seen it on a similiar post.. so lets all be careful ..
Sexuality is a part of who we are and is how we determine if some one is physically attractive or not.
The physical is a part of who a person is. It is an indicator of how one esteems themselves. Sometimes it will lead to something more and sometimes it won't.
Honostly I don't know what it means to flaunt ones beauty, I always appreciate a pretty face and think it's a mistake to make assumptions (whether positive or negative) about who they are based on how they look and present themselves before getting to know them.
Looking attractive is what makes people want to get to know each other.
I tend to view photos on sites such as this in much the same way as I view someone's behaviour in 'real life'.
For instance:
1: If a girl dresses like a hooker on our first date, I wouldn't come for a second. This should give you an idea of a profile photo that would put me off. Having said that...
2: I'd dress myself as well as I could for a date. I'd have a shave, dig around my room for a hairbrush (I know I have one somewhere), and generally try to look my best. Of course I would - who wouldn't? I'd expect my date to do the same. In the same way, I've tried to treat my photos like a first date - this is me at my best (I know, try not to laugh). If a lady's photos show that she just doesn't care, then I'm not impressed.
3: Unfortunately, this means that if I turned up on a date and the lady wouldn't show me her face, I'd probably make my excuses and leave early, so I'm sure you'll understand my generally not being interested in anyone who has no profile photo.
People dress according to who they want to draw. If a gal dresses in a sensual way she will draw a man who is tuned into what she is advertising. As I read profiles, I do notice if someone is dressing a certain way and how their profile reflects their desires. It is all important and I am looking for someone is attractive to me, yes, but I am not looking for someone who wants to share bedroom behavior with the whole world.
Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of our minds.
We cannot know why a person does what they do, but we can see the fruit of their behavior. What is the end result.
So I want to be apart of those who have fruit that will give me not the world's opinions and ways, but refllect the loving care that Christ gives. Chances are if a person is selfish and looking to gratify their own indulgences now, they will do so later(unless of course the Lord helps them to become more in His image. I also think that we should minister to those who are caught in such traps, but not become snared ourselves.
From my perspective, I have to say this... I don't want to "seduce" anyone. I think when it comes to appearance, what I project in person and here on this site should be respectful to all... ( I guess I'm just not only old, but old-school!) I feel like there is something special about me, that if God presents that special man as my* husband*, it's for ** his eyes ONLY ** . Everything good, sexy, whatever you want to call it-- about me, is not for everybody to see. I feel very strongly about that.
When we were young in the world, some of us not in Christ, others were, we knew of or practiced the carnal way of doing things which does attract, but most times ALWAYS attracted more than what we bargained for including drama. But being in Christ, we learn to, as scripture says "put away childish things*. There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end.... death. So we must consider, take time to evaluate in all that we might want to pursue... Satan comes to kill, steal and destroy. It's not flesh and blood, but spitirual wickedness, as the word of God tells us, and we cannot take this lightly as we dwelve into relationships. Satan uses the basic of things to take us off course. We take a step forward in our journey, then he comes and throws something to us we can't possibly resist (because we took off our spiritual eyes) and wallaah.... two steps back! That's how it works, even with something as simple as looking at a picture on a profile.
Didn't want to hold anything back, so forgive me if I got raw with it. *GraceMae
Tarasye wrote (QUOTE): So here is the question, when you see a seductive woman's picture on this site, what are your thoughts on it? And do you want to talk to here or run from her? Is this working for you, or are you wishing someone would say something, but you really just don't want to be the one? Be honest, now, its only fair to defend what your honest feelings are here, so women will know one way or the other. Nobody is perfect, an not one among us is without our vices (UNQUOTE).
A) I have my formerly "wandering eyes" pretty well trained in RL (real life) and have them pretty disciplined while browsing the main pictures on profiles. If I'm watching a football game, e.g., I *always* switch channels during commercials (to avoid half-dressed women in commercials). On this site, I can "switch" also. However, "unwanted images" can't be controlled in the same way I can *totally avoid TV them commercials* --- I get "quick glimpses" of profiles ---and have to move on fast!
B) On another dating site, which I learned was not Christian owned, I got a message from a complete stranger. In seeing her pics for the first time; she was dressed in lingerie, lying on a bed. I wrote her back saying, "You should be ashamed of yourself." She took me off her favorites list, to which she had added me, and never wrote back.
C) Some of my "first thoughts" of the variety that I try to avoid at all costs! have been: "It is better to marry than to burn. God, help me find a wife (cf. 1 Cor 7:1-6 and the rest of the section)." "This woman's definitely NOT for me." "I wonder how many 'porn addicts' have viewed her profile?" "I wonder if she knows just how hard it can be for we 'visual' men?" "I wonder if she cares? It seems apparent she doesn't!"
I've posted on this topic on another thread. And since I "try not to think about it" (that is, sexuality, more than I ought to or is godly/normal); that's all I have for now. Thanks.
