Author	Thread: Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it...
NKCofNC View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 03:56 PM Why is it that I have no more faith in men on any of these dating websites? I seem to have the word "I'm a sucker for being deceived online" written on my forehead. I am close to getting and staying off this kind of medium. I do want to meet someone "real", but I just seem to attract the frauds. Any suggestions? Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 04:19 PM dear nk, welcome to the forums. first off dont be naieve and believe everything someone tells you right away.. cant say it enuff take your time, let your discernment have time to speak to you.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 04:20 PM NK, The type of people that lie online would most probably lie offline; though it is easier online. I would be willing to guess if you ran a poll of both women and men (here online) whom have been disceived or misled, you would be surprised as to how many. I have. That is why it is so difficult for me to stretch my safe zone out and take that "leap of faith". Don't give up. But do go slow and steady. Time will be the main indicator of genuine interest. I think these forums are a wonderful way for everyone to display whom they are and to "see" more of someone you might be interested in. I have a feeling you are made of stronger stuff. Get back on that skateboard. Over in "Ask a Girl" they're looking for one more person to help judge a "beauty contest". Come on and join in. Peace Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 04:35 PM dear folks, arch you are so right.. youre gonna have to deal with the same whether online or off .. and nk i believe it was.. there is a small consolation you can take from all this.. if you wasnt a good person you wouldnt of been decieved.. as you know the sayin it takes a crook to catch a crook.. hehe ole cattle Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 24 Nov, 2009 06:11 PM It's not just you. I have been contacted by several guys that I'm pretty sure are frauds...one I knew was a fraud based on his profile, and the others just broke too many "rules" to be legitimate. I am very cautious on here. I don't give out my name, phone number, facebook/myspace info, or even my personal e-mail address until I have exchanged many e-mails on here and spent a good bit of time IMing with the person. I give each bit of info individually based on how much I trust the guy. In fact, I've only given all of that info (over a period of time) to one person I've met online...and it took a LONG time for me to do that. I know I've hurt a few feelings, but I would rather be safe than sorry. Don't give up...there are some great folks on here. I agree with the others -- the forums are a good way to get to know people, and you'll pick up a lot of useful advice too. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 28 Nov, 2009 12:26 PM dear bc, i totally agree your statement here Don't give up...there are some great folks on here. I agree with the others -- the forums are a good way to get to know people, and you'll pick up a lot of useful advice too. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 29 Nov, 2009 02:51 PM It takes awhile to get to know people.On the internet it should be slower.Do not rush into things.Get to know the person.Dennis Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Do I have the word "Sucker" written on my forehead? Sure does seem like it... Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 08:11 PM Nk... Use this site to get to know "you" again. Know that you have something to offer. You aren't really dating here but exchanging personalities and with spiritual eyes, taking the time to see as you go along if the people you are "meeting" are really who they *write* they are. I agree with the others that you can learn new things here. People through the various forums ask and answer questions that are pretty informative. That in line with what you know about the Word of God will teach you. The spirit of God in you will help you be discerning about the people you *meet* here and to know what and when to divulge to whom. It'll come easy, but it will take a practiced discipline and control (your part) to not take things too far too soon. Just like *in-person* relationships. Don't set expectations on people here and you are less likely to get disappointed. Scripture tells us to "guard your heart with all discipline, for out of it comes the issues of life".... Be blessed and continue to pray for the Lord to guide you and let you be a blessing to someone else here. *GraceMae Post Reply