Author	Thread: Where Have All The Cowboys Gone?
Admin	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 03:20 PM I will say growing up in Arizona, in the country with a very gentlemanly father...I saw at a young age what a gentlemen was supposed to be. I think all girls can say that the idea they have of the cowboy includes him protecting her, defending her honnor, keeping her safe, killing the food, chopping the wood...you know the cowboy basics, you can pick up the manual at any Barnes & Noble. Today I was so disheartened to see the complete and total lack of chivialry in the world. :dunce: I noticed I had a low tire and decided to go to my local QT to fill it up. Now my father in all his infinant wisdom taught ALL 5 of his daughters how to work on cars, i.e. change the oil, check all the fluids, brake, transmission, oil, so on so forth. Change out spark plugs, brakes and tires. He gave us the knowledge so that we would not have to depend on anyone if we ever got stuck on the side of the road. I pull up to the air compressor and see there is a line. The lady in front of me is next. She gets out of her car and is in a mini skirt and cowboy boots. She is a very physically attractive woman. I am not going to lie and say that I wasnt a little impatient as I had a lunch date with my sister that I was already running late to. I am watching this woman struggle to fill her tire. I then notice about every man in the parking lot checking her out. She is getting flustered because she obviously doesn't really know what she is doing. I watch 6 different men notice her, see her struggling and just look at her butt. I decided at this point from the look on her face that she is really stressed. I get out of my car and ask her if she needs some help. She initially said no. I asked her if she was using a tire gauge and she looked at me as if I was speaking a foreign language. I asked her again, are you sure you dont need help? She looked at me with all pride thrown aside and said yes, please help me. So I show her what a tire gauge is. Show her where to find her PSI on the sidewall of her tire. Show her how to get the air compressor hose to not roll back on itself. She was now empowered so to speak. The problem I have, is why didn't one of those guys at least offer to help her. They certainly found the time to check her out, but didn't have enough respect for her to ask if she needed help. So again, my question is where have all the cowboys gone? Are men so desensitized to the needs of woman that we can pretty much just expect to be looked at as play things, but not have any intimacy? I know this does not pertain to all men, but I see this decline in my generation and those born after me that seem to have no clue as to how a LADY expects and deserves to be treated. Would love some opinions on the subject. Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 03:30 PM dear song, we are a dyin breed.. that wouldnt of happened here where i live.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 03:35 PM But Cattle, I do believe it would. It's not so much the issue that no one other than another female offered to help her, as much as in society as a whole, we are becoming so PC that we don't pull over if we see someone stuck on the side of the road. You can have someone live next to you for years and never know them. It is just a common lack of courtesy for one another. A lack of Christ like love for one another. That bothers me...alot. In this particular case it was a beautiful woman that needed help and her inner beauty was overlooked because of her outwardly beauty. It gets old after a while. Especially when you realize that men are so visually stimulated that they can't see past the physical. Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 05:18 PM dear song, you have a point .. all i know is my family any of em and our neighbors here will stop and help anyone in need.. even before i was saved and even now for alot that aint saved here.. i think if folks are raised up on the bible or manners and old fashioned values they tend to not forget to help those in need.. in this community here we help each other out.. and whether that woman was beautiful to us or not wed still help her right away.. southern hospitality ya know ... ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 06:06 PM Well that is the thing. My mother is from Arkansas. I grew up with southernn mannors on top of having a gentleman as a father. So it is very discouraging to see the lack of love for one another. I think as this world gets more and more engulfed in corruption, the more the decline of values & morals goes down. It is just sad. I used to teach high school in an inner city district. The kids, all be it I adored them, lacked so much couthe. It saddens me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 08:55 PM Ms. SongBird, I agree with the Cowboy. The smaller the town the less it seems to slide away from God. You can guage on a chart the rise in crime and the decline in Chivalry back to when prayer was taken out of the classroom. TV, Magazines, Movies -- "The Media" just fueled the bonfire. The majority of today's younger generation (I hope I am wrong) has no idea of what sin is and what "Lady" means. Peace Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 09:52 PM I couldn't agree with you more Archimedes. I grew up in a very small town. We knew our neighbors, swapped sugar for eggs. Everyone waved as they passed by. The cars knew to slow down for kids and horsebackriders. When I first moved to Phoenix at the young age of 18, I would wave and hold doors open...the response was dirty looks. I lived in the city for over 10 years. I hated it! Now I'm back in the country and love that I get the waves and smiles. The little general market, you have people that are friendly and hold doors open. I love the lack of big city lights, so I can gaze at all the glorious stars He created. I live right at the base of a mountain range that I can sit on my porch and watch these amazing Arizona sunsets. Its just so peaceful and refreshing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 7 Nov, 2009 01:12 AM Are you sure the title of this shouldn't be 'why can't every one live up to my expectations?' Post Reply
Happy2222 View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 7 Nov, 2009 04:43 AM The Northern girl says men are all alike The Southern girl says Ya, men are all I like too! I would think the guys were checking you out also. You are very cute. And you can change the oil too. You are a keeper. Shalom Dan Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 7 Nov, 2009 06:54 AM Remp, I understand that posting things for public viewing can lead to criticism or insults. I will not attack you back, but I will clarilfy for you some things. First if you read the whole thread you would see at the bottom of my first post that I understand that this does not pertain to all men. Second, if expecting a man to be a gentleman is "high expectations", then I will stay single until I find one. I would rather not be ogled and treated as a peice of property or meat. I didn't realize wanting to be treated as a lady and have a man love me for Christ within me was too much to ask for. But you are entitled to your opinions, just as I am. It just shows a lot about your character. Take care, Mary PS thank you Dan, I appreciate your kind words. Post Reply
View Profile History	Where Have All The Cowboys Gone? Posted : 7 Nov, 2009 09:51 AM Ms. Songbird, I also do not understand some of the reactions you are getting. You posed a very legitimate question and arguably perhaps the core of societies problem. Men by default have been made the leaders and policy setters -- which at one time was God centered (the Founders of our country), but has deteriorated over the last fifty or so years. It is a shame that some of us men cannot see past the flesh and act like 9 year olds who either giggle and point or lash out in frustration. I wonder if being blind is not such a bad thing -- perhaps. Ms. Songbird, please do not let any criticisms deter you from voicing your opinions or concerns. Peace The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt within the heart. Helen Keller Post Reply

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