Author	Thread: Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you?
Rebecca_S View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 3 May, 2025 06:03 AM Men, when it comes to relationships, would you prefer a partner who quietly supports your lead, or someone who brings her own perspective to the table, especially in decision-making? In other words, do you appreciate a ‘yes babe, whatever you say goes’ approach, or do you lean towards a partner who lovingly challenges you and keeps you on your toes? Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 3 May, 2025 06:18 AM If you approach a relationship in this manner " a partner who lovingly challenges you and keeps you on your toes" then you're almost certainly dooming the relationship. Do you challenge your relationship with Jesus in the same way? Post Reply
Rebecca_S View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 3 May, 2025 09:41 AM You're off the mark Handyman. I gave context of what I meant by the word "challenge". The context being, a different perspective, and to be kept on ones toes. Not the definition of 'questioning authority and truth' As to your question of challeging Christ in my/our relationship with him. I'm aware you missed the crux of my question. I'm positive that you know the relationship we have with Christ is unique, and while somewhat relatable with person to person relationships, it is different. If the question is still of interest, revert to it and the first paragraph of my response to you. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 3 May, 2025 11:40 AM The perspective you brought was that you would quietly control your husbands decisions. Not gonna happen without it causing a lot of noise. That is unless you married a simpy man that you can control. There are many available but most women don't find them attractive. The reality is most men aren't looking for someone to control. Most men want a wife that understands her place in the marriage. We also don't mind working with our significant other when making decisions, but being manipulated by her is out. But that doesn't stop modern women from thinking it's OK to manipulate men. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 3 May, 2025 10:52 PM Thank you Rebecca for the question. I don’t believe it’s preferable in any healthy relationship to have a partner who “quietly” but grudgingly supports the role of the other partner. I’m assuming it’s this kind of approach to the relationship you have in mind when you characterize it as a “yes babe whatever you say goes”. or someone who brings her own perspective to the table, especially in decision-making? In other words, do you appreciate a ‘yes babe, whatever you say goes’ approach, or do you lean towards a partner who lovingly challenges you and keeps you on your toes? Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 3 May, 2025 11:34 PM Whoops sorry. That one got away before I was ready, please disregard my last post. I get a weak signal sometimes out here in this untamed wilderness that gives me an unsteady hand when my screen shifts around. I must have reached for a different note when the send button shifted in its place. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 4 May, 2025 12:14 AM Ok, let’s try this again. Thank you Rebecca for the question. I don’t believe it’s preferable in any healthy Christian relationship to have a partner who “quietly” but grudgingly supports the role of the other partner. I assume that’s what you have in mind with a “yes babe whatever you say” relationship approach. Conversely, or as they say, two minds often work better than one. Even as Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” One partner keeps the other partner alert or “on his toes”, that’s called being a real biblical “help meet”😃 A “loving challenge” is most certainly in keeping with the Proverbs maxim as each partner in a relationship “lovingly” contributes something of value Post Reply
JamesEG View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 6 May, 2025 10:46 AM In my view a female who always defers humbly to her husband/fiance/boyfriend is erring unless he is perfectly correct 100% of the time. That is humanly impossible. However, to "challenge" his views is I think an overly aggressive term. Humbly offering a different view with logic to support is it certainly appropriate. If God is the center of the relationship, two persons ideally can learn from God, others, and each other by listening, seeking guidance, then prayerfully coming to agreement on important issues while agreeing to respectfully disagree on less significant ones. Often in a relationship one partner will have more expertise in some areas, the other partner in others. Over time, the two can learn to defer to the better qualified of the two, as I see it. But this is just my personal opinion, not God's, though I hope I am writing "the truth in love" to quote from Ephesians 4:15's instructions about "speaking the truth in love." Post Reply
rbj66 View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 12 May, 2025 07:02 PM Good question, and would like one that keeps me on my toes, and in line. I can get a little animated 😁. Be your own person. Poke some fun at me. Challenge me but don't be my boss. Any woman who loves GOD is cool, but the one that wants to be chased is a bonus. By that i mean after marriage. I think i can keep love alive, but reciprocation is better. Make me want to love you. We are a team after all. Post Reply
rbj66 View Profile History	Agreeable or a healthy challenge – what works for you? Posted : 20 May, 2025 05:57 AM I just watched a short video of a woman who dated an athlete. She said she challenged him because she thought that is what he would want. His reply was "why would i want to be challenged?" That kind of clears some of it up. I can tell you when i worked a 14 hour day i did not neeo come home to a challenging atmosphere. Men need a little TLC just as the lady does, though some may be too macho to admit Post Reply