Author	Thread: Friendship First ???
Admin	Friendship First ??? Posted : 23 Oct, 2009 04:38 PM I would like to hear your view on �Friendship First�. What does friendship between a man and a woman mean to YOU? Most of us state on our profile that we seek �friendship� first and how important it is to have that established in the relationship before exploring a deeper committed relationship. Ok, so then what doses �friendship first� look like to YOU? Is flirting appropriate between �friends�? Do you feel there is a time factor for the �friendship first� stage? How and when do you know to take the �friendship� to the next level? Basically, share what ever is on your heart regarding �friendship first�. Thank you for your input friend! :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 23 Oct, 2009 05:17 PM a friendship is the same regardless of sex. we want people that support and encourage us, make us laugh, want to go out and see and do things with. some one that's there for you, makes you happy, that you look forward to seeing at the end of the day. i think alot of girls see this site as a job interview though. Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 23 Oct, 2009 05:29 PM dear mic, i dont put that much thought into it. i believe in talking and letting things go naturally instead of holding back or forcing things.. just talk and if you connect then youll both know it and go for it and see how you do.. maybe i should spend more time thinkin hehe i believe either the chemistry is there or not ,,ya know.. i think of everyone as a friend to begin with and then itll either be wanna be more than friends or it will stay friends or they will go on their merry way and i go mine hehe.. ole cattle Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 23 Oct, 2009 09:27 PM I personally think that a good marriage is built on a good friendship. I don't think that love is warm fuzzy feelings all the time...it is a daily choice. That choice is made easier if there is a solid friendship to fall back on when the warm fuzzies aren't there. Also, being friends first allows both parties to get to know the other person without the pressure of commitment. As I meet people on here, I'm finding that it keeps some of the emotions and feelings out of the picture for a little longer so that if it becomes apparent that the couple is not "meant to be," there is no emotional baggage to take away from the relationship. I think that it's fine to flirt with a guy (or for you guys, with a girl) who is "just a friend". After all, this is a dating site! I think that even if people want to be friends first, we are all looking for that special someone. And who knows when that special someone might be just a friend. That's just my humble opinion, though...I might be the only one who has those kinds of thoughts! Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 10:29 AM Flirting can be dangerous depending on how the other person takes it. Single friends sometimes get mixed messages from flirtations. Most married people would not care for their spouse to flirt with others because flirting is a type of foreplay. Flirting may not lead to sexual intercourse but it is certainly a form of emotional / intellectual intercourse. If you want to have an emotional affair, it starts with flirting. And a good emotional relationship is basic for a good marriage. So it depends on the person and what they want. Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 10:33 AM If you study the word of God - you will see that the mighty men of God spent almost no time at all in most cases in chosing their wives or developing a friendship with them first. But in order for it to be wise to go straight into a marriage its essential that both persons be strong people of faith. Most Christians by far - are not strong in principles of faith. As my favorite Bible teacher says "we are almost all baptised in unbelief." I can and always make an instant friend of a true woman of faith. Does she have spiritual gifts and the ability to operate in them and the Holy spirit? If not she's not what I would call a true woman of faith - although she may be a good Christian woman and possibly someone I might look at as a wife candidate. But my simple advice would be to look for a spirit filled man of God who is well trained in "faith" principles from God's word. Post Reply
aceets View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 12:09 PM I agree with cattleman and pianogirl on this one. I would just add that the friendship stage is also meant to establish tust and to create an atmosphere for a more open conversation and sharing on a deeper level without the fear of being mocked or abused. Aceets Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 01:53 PM Thats certanly true for a lot of people, but unless a person is insecure those are not issues anyway. A persons sense of self worth should be good and without fear of what others think because they know who they are in Christ. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 03:39 PM I think friendship is important...at least for me. I want to actually "like" the person I marry, instead of just "loving" them. I suppose it doesn't matter what order they come in though. Commit first, love first, friends first...if you're going at it the right way, you'll end up in the same place with all of them. I'm not going to marry someone JUST because they love God. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 04:03 PM You can't love someone if you are not more than a friend to them. I guarantee anyone I would love as a wife would also be my best friend regardless of the period of time involved. Post Reply
View Profile History	Friendship First ??? Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 04:06 PM Clarification: I meant you can't love them as a wife unless they are more than just a friend to you Post Reply

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