Author	Thread: Is he into me - what do you think?
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 05:52 AM I need a guy's perspective . . . (sorry this might be long cause it started year ago). I attend seminary and I have a classmate who I've been very attracted to since day 1. I met him a year ago when we had a class together. During that first semester, we started becoming friends, but we only saw each other at school. Sometimes he would do things that I interpreted as flirting - like "accidentally" bump into me in the hallway or pretend to trip me if I was walking by. But then I thought, maybe I'm looking too much into it and perhaps he's just teasing me like a brother would do to a sister. So . . . anyway, I'm very shy around guys that I like so I would NEVER have said anything to him, but I did share my feelings with my sister. Well, my sister's boyfriend overheard the conversation and he looked up my guy friend on FB and sent him a message explaining that I liked him! OMG! Shortly after, my guy friend told me about the email and asked me if it was true. I certainly wasn't going to lie, so (with a very red face!) I acknowledged that it was true. He told me that he thought I was attractive, but that he didn't really know me that well and he wanted to get to know me as a friend before considering dating. I absolutely agreed - but at the same time, I think if two people are mutually interested, then they can get to know each other as friends while they're dating. So . . . I think we had different ideas of how relationships work. During the spring semester, our friendship grew slowly over time and I became even more attracted to him. He's a Christian with good character. He respects women. He's a gentleman. He's funny. He's good-looking. The list goes on . . . I'm drawn to him like a magnet! The "flirting" continued, but he never made any kind of move. After a few months, I couldn't take it anymore and so I came to the conclusion that he just wasn't that into me so I started pursuing the online thing. Over the summer, he and I didn't keep in touch a whole lot, but he would text or call me every now and then to say hi. And then I met someone online about 3 months ago and started dating him. The third weekend of dating the online guy, I ran into my friend from school and he asked me out to a movie - except he "covered it up" by saying that he didn't want to go by himself and he wanted someone to hang out with - so it was like he was asking me out on a date, but not really. I turned him down since I had just made a commitment with the online guy. So . . . time goes on and the online guy broke it off so now I'm single again. A couple weeks later, after school started again, my friend from school asked me how things were going with the other guy and told him we broke up. The guy stood by my side and defended me and agreed that the other guy didn't treat me right . . . So now we're back to where we started. I see my friend regularly during the week at school, but we're both incredibly busy and don't really see each other outside of school. I've invited him to "hang out" with me and our other mutual friends, but his schedule always conflicts (he's not making excuses - he really is very busy). The "flirting" continues, which makes me think he's interested, but perhaps now just isn't a good time for either one of us to date (school, work, and church are very demanding). So I've decided to just let it play itself out and trust the Lord. It's hard, though, because I want to spend time with him outside of school, but sometimes I feel that he really wants to do that and sometimes that he doesn't - it's kind of confusing. What do you think? Should I just continue to "go with the flow" and see what happens? Could it be that he's interested, but isn't ready to date? Should I be hopeful or just forget about it? Post Reply
View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 09:44 AM I speak from a guys view point.If I like a lady I will ask her out. What are his hobbies?Do you hav the same?Does he sing in the church choir?Does he work with young people?I assume you both are christians.Relax. A guy who really is intersted and wants to keep you will make time.If you 2 have a hobby that is the same plan to do it together.Spend time doing thinhs you like.A guy must make time.If not find someone who will. Post Reply
Happy2222 View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 12:09 PM It is hard to believe someone as pretty as you would still be single. I would have a hard time controling my passions that long. It is certainly God's plan for you to marry. If you were hungy, you would ask for food, so now you need to be more agressive in asking some good men. Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 01:10 PM dgrimater - he and I have some things in common - he wants to become a youth/college pastor and I want to work in youth ministry, but right now we're both involved at two different church youth groups and there's no possibility of that changing anytime soon. As far as hobbies go, that's a really good question - I'd never really stopped to think about it. We both enjoy basic things like going out to a movie or out to eat, and swing dancing, but we don't get a chance to do those things together due to our schedules. I'd like to spend more time with him, but I've been hesitant to invite him to do things because I didn't want it to come across too strong. However, I'm learning that it's ok, especially in the "friend zone" to ask him to hang out with me - I just need to find something we both like and plan it when we're free - maybe something will open up soon. Happy2222 - thanks so much for your flattering words! You make me blush :)- Post Reply
View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 16 Oct, 2009 11:48 PM Make him dinner. I did that so other "A" students and I could "study" together, but we ended up just talking and having a good time. College students love coming over for a home cooked dinner. He won't be able to refuse and a quiet evening together just to talk will show you if there is any chemistry. PS And make something really, really good. Broiled lemon/pepper chicken is easy (but baking it in a convection oven is glorious).. Post Reply
buringirl View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 19 Oct, 2009 06:29 PM If a guy is really into you he will find time for you..simple Post Reply
View Profile History	Is he into me - what do you think? Posted : 19 Oct, 2009 07:00 PM dear buring, i totally agree. and welcome to the forums.. ole cattle Post Reply