Author	Thread: What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating?
SamaritanWmn View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 20 May, 2008 08:22 PM I'm just curious what Christians men think is a good time line on on-line dating. As far as how long do you exchange e-mails then go to chatting then exchange phone numbers. I know it probably depend on the circumstance but I remember exchanging numbers with someone who I chatted with for a week and he referred to someone he only chatted for one time and she was asking for his phone number which lead me to think, what is considered "fast" on-line. Obviously, you wouldn't make arrangements to meet with someone you just met on-line but what do you think would be a safe guide-line?? Also, keep in mind, I used to (BC days - before Christ) be addicted to on-line dating and I thought it was the best thing since sliced bread. But I was the one who got excited if someone did want to meet the same day since I was SO spontaneous and all of course there was never a love connection and fortunately God was watching over me and I was never in danger but I can tell you this one man (personal trainer) trained me a couple times and we went out on a couple dates then I rec'd a phone call from his wife. Yes, guess what she was a very spiritual woman with whom I told everything to. Yes, God intervened fortunately I did have serious feelings for the guy but unfortunately I think it was the end of his marriage as it was the 3-4th time she caught him cheating. Anyway, I just thought I would share that bit of background. So since I am saved I let God guide me and use discernment but would like to hear what others have to say about the subject. He lives, Samaritan Woman. Post Reply
kidvid711 View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 22 May, 2008 07:35 AM Maybe a year or two. ha ha, just kidding. possibly a few months. I guess it all depends on your presentation. If the guy likes the presentation, sometimes it might just happen fast. Remember, the first presentation always have to be good because there isn't no such thing as a second or third. Or it might be this... If two people are shy from asking each other out and don't get to the chase, than nothing will eventually happen. Sometimes, thats just the way it is.. If both of you didn't ask each other out, this means that both of you were uncomfortable about something and it wasn't meant to happen eventually. Unlike the other girl, having the confidence and were comfortable about (asking for the guy number) taking the next early. If its not that then I guess you didn't reach a certain level to trust him enough to reach the next step. Likewise for the other guy. Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 14 Jun, 2008 12:59 PM id say a few months as well before a lot of the other exchanges started taking place. The internet is the one place where a person has to be extremely cautious, because even if the person seems great in the beginning, it may only take a month to realize you arent really interested, and so giving out your number just puts in jeopardy of another random person having it. The last thing someone needs is a person with attachment issues trying to contact them over and over even though person A already said they only wanted to be friends. Post Reply
MiraclesHappen View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 24 Aug, 2008 05:24 PM Fabulous question. This has been a big issue for me. I personally consider it an insult if a woman is reluctant to give me her phone number. Yes, there are dangerous men out there and no doubt not eveyone on this site is a born again Christian - or more to the point - following God & his word. I recently had a phone conversation with a woman on this site about this same issue - and I talk about this issue in my profile. But I think that fear over giving out a phone number is mainly paranoia. To me it's just kind of silly - especially if you are talking to someone out of state. It would be extremely difficult - even if you did get a :devil: for them to get personal information like where you live from either a phone number or email address - regardless of whether or not they live in your area. Also, if you were to get a fatal attraction type of guy who will just not give up - you could always send his call to voice mail when he calls. You could block his email address, etc. Nothing is 100%. And especially when we are not focused on spiritual things its easy to be deceived, but this is true even when we know someone a long time. In my opinion most of the fears women have about this sort of thing is paranoia. A little common sense, intuition and wisdom is worth a lot. But I think that many women take the privacy stuff way too far. And for men like myself - this is very insulting and demotivating. I don't have time or patience for that kind of nonsense. Personally, its hard for me to see how a guy puts up with that. The enemy is happy when he can make people to live in fear & paranoia. Congrats' to you for not falling into paranoia Post Reply
MiraclesHappen View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 24 Aug, 2008 05:37 PM Funny, I really missed your question - only having read as far as the phone number exchange. I think it depends entirely on the person you are talking to and using a little wisdom helps. But I would ask a lot of very well thought out questions before you go on a date with someone or let them know where you live, etc. Your home address should usually be the last thing they get. Ask them probing questions to find out what their values are. Most men won't mind. Find out where they go to church & who their friends are. Find out as much personal information about them as you can. It would be a great idea to go to his church before your first date. But I personally think that the amount of time you have known a person is not important, but using wisdom is - when it comes to dating. Post Reply
GinoB View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 10:56 AM Interesting that I would come across this forum since this is something that I had implied to someone today,lol. My take on this.... if we are "truly" following Christ, we're filled with His holy spirit. Therefore, each believer is lefted with with a descerning spirit. Those that are luke warm and cold is lefted out in the cold. For me, as I go through the profile on this site, I can feel God's presence upon the pages of the true followers and when I come across the ones that are sitting on the fence, my spirits lets me know as well.To sum it up, we are to ask Jesus to direct our paths and direction, not acting on what "we" believe is right, but His will and not ours. Post Reply
waze View Profile History	What do men think is a good time line for on-line dating? Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 02:29 PM :applause:Yes dear Jacob,Boaz,Yes, we are a mate!!!!!!!! Praise the Lord! I can feel the Holy spirit when I read anything that you write!!!! Praise the Lord that we are not cold neither luke warm, but full with the Holy Spirit!!!!!!!!!:hearts:Take good care of yourself!!!!!!:hearts::waving:God bless you Rute!:bouncy::yay: Post Reply