Author	Thread: Distractions
Admin	Distractions Posted : 12 Oct, 2009 04:21 PM Sometimes I'll be in a social situation, but in my mind i'll still be in 'online mode' and wonder if the girls there will respond to me the same as the girls on here (which is poorly). alot of times that ends up not being the case, but it's still a distraction i have to work at getting through sometimes. anyone else like that? trying to figure out if this site does more harm than good when it comes to maintaining a healthy respect for myself and women. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 12 Oct, 2009 05:21 PM dear remp, hey bud, dont let others dictate how you feel about yourself.not by the way they speak to you or dont speak to you here.. one important thing to remember here is online you have no real idea who it is behind that profile.. it can say man ,yet be a woman, it can say woman ,yet be a man. they can say single or divorced and yet be married, it can say christian and yet not be a christian.. you really dont know. and anything said in a profile may or may not be true.. and any pic on that profile may or may not be them. or may be them years ago.. the only way you really get to find out if they are for real or not is if they allow you to get to know them.. emailin ,then iming, then phone calls, then cam, then meet.. and even then it will take you some time to make sure as ya can they are who and what they say they are.. so if you dont even get the chance to get to know em then surely dont let that affect how you feel about you.. cause only you knows excatly who and what you are.. and sides they may not even be real.. and youre bein down on yourself for that? nawww , always feel good about yourself.. if you do the very best you can to be the best person you can be then theres nuttin wrong with you.. so dont believe that.. just cause others may not answer you.. concentrate on the ones that do. and even then take your time with your heart.. ive watched your posts here and you seem like a nice young man. although you come off gruff sometimes hehe.. you always think about what you said and come back and apologize for it.. ya see now that is respectable .. youre alright bro.. hang in there and keep your head held high.. itll come in time.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 12 Oct, 2009 05:36 PM man, thank God there's people like you on here cattle. i really needed to hear that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 12 Oct, 2009 05:42 PM dear remp, cool bro. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 07:40 AM Great advice from Ole Cattle. Agreed with "everything" he said. But to that I would add that you should be careful to pay attention to what the ladies say they are "Looking for". A lot of my frustration has come from not beeing careful to do that. My approach has been kind of retarded at times. I start to lose focus if I let myself get frustrated. I'm smarter than that. My guess is like most Christians on this site - you are looking for a wife - and also most women here "ideally" want a husband. But do not make the mistake, like I have in the past of thinking that they all are looking for a husband. Look for women who want A Marriage Partner. At this point I am staying away from any other category. The worst one, in my opinion is a Date, secondly> Long Term Relationship (trust issues, at a minimum) - . Of course one thing that it helps me to keep in mind - and almost everyone has had that experience - whether you are talking about here or live and in person, just because she's "a Christian", she's nice looking and has a pleasant personality - does not mean that she is anything you want to get involved with. She can still have a whole host or mental and emotional problems which could make your life a living Hell. Or she could also just be stubborn or rebellious - which would also make you miserable.l I have to remind myself of these things from time to time, Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 08:25 AM that's good advice too. always good to hear from you miracles. Post Reply
Forgiven4ever View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 01:10 PM Brother thank you so much for sending messages out to other brothers! Women need men like you to encourage and instruct other brothers! Continue to be an encouragement, and teacher! Iron sharpens iron. Bless you! Cindy Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 01:40 PM Thanks Cindy! You are exactly the kind of woman I was talking about in SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT SOMEONE> AND WOMEN OF FAITH! Might have to chase you:glow: Hang in there Remp. You're a bright guy. Get powered up with the word. I recommend www.awmi.net to everyone. The link Admin sent to to Crosswak.com is a great tool also. Post Reply
Forgiven4ever View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 01:57 PM Thanks also to Cattleman for encouraging other brothers and Remp for saying what is on your heart! God Bless you brothers! In His Love, Cindy Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 10:54 PM I have to make a complete retraction of the contents of the first two sentences of my last post - in the interest of later developements and my conscience before God. Post Reply
View Profile History	Distractions Posted : 13 Oct, 2009 11:03 PM I am not going to go into detail, but the honest guys with a little sense (and you are one of them Remp) know exactly what I am talking about when I say - if you were getting along really well with all of the women on this site - something would be seriously wrong with you. I still get tired (sick to my stomach) of people that tell me I need to be something I'm not to cater to emotionally ill women. I don't buy it for a second - and its NEVER going to happen. People can take that to the bank! Post Reply

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