I love to write, which is usually where I pour out my feelings, instead of just saying them to a friend.
It is hard to find men/guys that are willing to share with me or anyone for that matter.
This is a battle that has raged since God created Man, as Adam felt lonely but I do believe He didn't tell that to God (correct me if I am wrong, I haven't read the dialogue in a while), but God knew his anguish, and created his need.
So, us girls/women, we are not God, we can't read your mind men.
Can you please either, A) clarify why this is such a problem with most, so I can help work around it?
Or B) Please explain to me what exactly the reasoning behind it all truly is?
Those questions sound alike, but they really aren't if you read carefully :)
I'm a thinker too, and I think I know what you are talking about. It is very hard for me to find others to share thoughts and feelings with at the same level.
There are many possible reasons as to why a person does not share thoughts and feelings. Here are some I can think of:
1. people can be shallow, selfish, and self-centered
2. some people were taught by their culture, family, or friends to not share a lot about themselves.
3. that is just the way some people are, and they do not find discussing thoughts and feelings interesting
4. some people do not feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings; if attacked, they may feel as though they are being attacked, rather than their ideas.
dear jumps, i think its good we have thinkin people such as yourself and spri and others im sure here. thinkin people are needed..
each person you encounter in life. well theyll have different things to them that make up their personality and who they are..
some folks will be more of a detail oriented folks. who like to think and then plan out every minute detail..before they act upon it. theyre cautious folks..
then youll have those who do think but think to themselves and then just go do it and get it done.. not talkers as much as just doers..
then youll have the folks that are more people oriented and are good at expressing themselves and can be very entertainin..very talkative. interisting and insperational people..
then you can have those that are caring and nuturing and sensitive..
then folks can have any combination of these different traits. but one will usually be the dominant one..
each one can talk about their feelings ..but its important to know which ones you may get along with better.. if you need to have a talker then the doer isnt much of a good match for you.. hehe.. and if you are with the one thats more of a people person.. well you might get a talker but yet still one that doesnt really tell you their feelings.. you will prolly do better with either the kind and sensitive person or the detail oriented person.. any could tell you their feelings but some more so easier than others.. pends on how much you gotta have it and how much you really wanna have to work at it.. hope that helps ya some..
To be honost i said that because that's the message i get everywhere i go and that's the first thing i thought of when i saw feelings. i've been pretty glibe on here lately. sorry.
The question is really vague. we guys do like it when people want to know what we think about things.
Some random reasons: sometimes we just feel down and we'd rather move on and give ourselves something else to think about by goofing around or talk about something else with you instead of having to relive/dwell on it.
sometimes it comes off to us as whining and we hate listening to other people whine, so we follow the golden rule and don't whine to other people.
sometimes we need something with more substance than words.
and other times it can be too frequent or too serious and in our minds we're like 'why is she asking this? is she out to get me?' or that they're looking to judge or hold us accountable or quiz us which gets irritating and causes resentment especially when it isn't followed by support and encouragement.
If we trust you we will tell you when we're ready. It's just part of the process of getting to know some one.
