I often pray, �Lord, this is what my heart desires, but what I truly want is your will in this situation.� Other times I pray, "Lord, I am not certain of your will, but I trust you will do what is best." In many instances, God's will is clearly revealed to us. The more we know Scripture, the more we can be sure of God's will when we pray. But the fact remains, we are human, imperfect, weak. We won't always know God's will. His infinite thoughts, ways, plans and purposes can't always be understood by our limited minds... So,
dear pretty, when you are still happily married and youre burying them.. hehe
you cant know 100% for sure. but you can do your best to figure out if someones right for you or not.. but theres no guarentees... folks are people and people can and do change on us all at times.. and some dont change so much as kept some things hidden good for awhile.. my thoughts on a good formula for a mate is this, first be equally yoked.. and thats christian to christian.. then someone who believes very close to your beliefs about the bible and what it says.. then find someone who loves you just the way you are... and find you someone you love just the way they are.. thats just a few thoughts bout it.. hope that helps ya some.
But i let myself explore and take chances for the sake of love and ask God guidance and sign if this man is the one He prepared for me even if we are not in the same faith/belief or religion. I tell God that I love this man so please help me to bring him into your kingdom and able to share Your words on him. But Your will is always reveal so whatever happen I'm ready to accept it. Coz sometimes God let us do mistakes and face trials in able to remind us that He is there.. coz sometimes we just depend on our own capabilities.
I do believe that not all saved christian will go to heaven and there are other non christian that changed by God and repent on their sin could go to heaven.
One of the gift from God is our freedom to choose.. but just don't forget that He is your partner in the journey of your life. So we always need His approval.. and be ready for His purpose why He let things happen..
Hope my advice don't confuse U.
Just enjoy your journey together with the presence of our God.
There are a lot of Prince Charming's but there is only one Prince of Peace.
A lot of women that I know are looking for their Prince Charming, their one true love or their soul mate. They are looking for that one guy that God created especially for them. They are living in a dreamworld.
Let's assume for one moment that God created on person especially for you. Or to get beyond this self-centered theology let's assume that God designed two people exclusively for each other. Then, because God gave us a free will, what if that other person chooses not to be the person that God intends for them to be? Are you always the person that God intends for you to be? What if this person get's into drugs? Then even if you were to actually meet (which is statistically improbable) you would dismiss him because he's a druggy.
And then you are left exactly where you are now, wondering when you'll find your one true love and unfortunately your one true love is a druggy, or he's a different denomination, of he drinks, or he blonde hair when he's supposed to have brown hair.
Now let's assume that what Proverbs 31 says about Charm, Beauty and the fear of the Lord is also applicable to guys. Would you really want Prince Charming? Because in that light his real name is Prince Deceitful. and while we're at it let's also point out the fact that Prince Charming rode off into the sunset with both Snow White and Cinderella... What's with this guy?!?
Anyway, not that I'm telling you what to do or anything, you should look for a good guy who fears the Lord and has a similar life direction as you. Marriage consists of dropping your desires and picking up those of your spouse. So if your spouses desires are similar to your desires and he both fears and loves Jesus SNATCH HIM UP!!!!
If you ladies have anymore questions that you need answered both rationally and objectively feel free to drop me a line.
Dave, Thank You. You help put trust, for us, back into ladies who have been scorned.
We can't be perfect just similar to it.
Ladies, need to allow themselves to be loved. Not all men, are going to fit your "Ideal" list of what you think your soulmate is. If you spend your whole life looking for that one man, whom has Blue eyes, brown hair, is exactly 6 ft tall and 175lbs. You'll probably be disappointed. You let too many fellas pass you by that could possibly be the best you'll ever have. I agree with Dave that Prince Charming was WAY OVER-RATED. A fairy-tale is just that a Fairy-tale.
However, God may have one soul-mate for you. When the time is right he will present him to you. Along the way, he opens the doors to many other possibilities; to prepare you for that one lasting love.
Just always remember, Stop looking for him and quit asking God for him. Put all your trust and faith in God, and your prince will show himself, in the least of places.
Till you find him, God Bless you and keep you all safe. Your Brother in Christ, Lance
I'd have to agree "mostly" with Dave. I believe God has a perfect "type" of person. But I think I still believe there is one person in that perfect type that God has seen that would be the perfect one that is possible for you to meet up with. Since He can see the future He knows what to influence to get you there without interfering with your choice. As long as you have already chosen to be in His will. Maybe. That's a little complicated though.:ROFL: Like Dave said, look for the type of person that fits you best. Don't be so arrogant as to expect perfection in a imperfect world. I know many people that say that God brought them together, and I don't doubt them because they are still married....but they definitely do not have a perfect marriage. I don't think it's possible. What they do have is a perfect commitment, and a vow made under God is not one that should be taken lightly. The spouse you find may not be perfect, just make sure their vow/commitment to you and God is as perfect as possible. If you can find that then I'd say it's a safe bet you found one God wants you to have.
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of the Lord.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your husbands as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of of the wife,even as Christ is the head of the church:and He is the Saviour of the body..
Therefore as the Church is subject unto Christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church,and gave himself for it/her.
That He might present her to himself a glorious church,not having spot,or wrinkle,or any such thing;but that she should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.He that loves his wife loves himslef..
We forget that this starts off with mutual submision vs 21,then progressing into the man laying his life down for his wife vs.28-33
To many of us, both men and woman, we want the other to be in subjection to to us,yet the Lord says that both are to be in subjection to one another,in the fear of the Lord..
Without both being in subjection to the Lord,this loving subjection on the part of both,will not happen.
The woman is to submit herself unto her husband,as unto the Lord..
Remember the Lord said to Eve"And thy desire shall be to thy husband,and he shall rule over thee" Genesis 3:16.
This would be great but remember,the Lord earlier and later pronouced everything to be under a curse,because of their disobedience Gen.3:14-21
This sounds good in english,yet in the Hebrew it says,your desire will be for your husbands position.
This is why the Lord says for the woman to submit to her own husband,in obedience to Christ;even as the Church is subject to Yeshua.
We also forget the great responsibility that is placed upon the man.
The husband is to love his wive as Jesus loves the church.
This is a tall order,without the Holy Spirit this is impossible.
How does Jesus love the church?
He showed the church her importance and postion with Him,when He laid His life down for her. John 10 1-18;John 15:13-17;
Jesus made her more valueable then she knows,by exchanging His life for hers at Calvary.John 10:11
Everything that belongs to Jesus and every righteous act that he did,has been imputed to the Church;Romans 8:17
He protects the chuch;Psalm 23; John 10 1-11
He provides for her;Psalm 23;Philippians 4:18-19
He heals her when wounded,both spiritual and physical wounds,James 5:16;1st Peter2:24;Isaiah 53:4-6
He loves the church unconditionally and will never leave or abandon he,Matthew 28:20
He corrects the church; in love of course,this is not to abuse or ridicule the church,rather to bring about change.
Hebrews 12 :6-11
He lifts her to a postion of prominence John 4:21,Jesus calls this lady"Woman".
In those days and even today in some parts of this life,woman are considered no higher than a slave or even cattle.
Jesus lifted this lady to a place of prominence calling her woman.He did the same for Mary;John 19:26
Jesus seperates the Church from the world unto himself
John 17:17-19;
Epesians 5:26
Hebrews 10;10,14
1stCorinthians 6:11
The woman has been set apart from all others to be with the man,he publicly shows this by placing a ring on her ring finger,and continues to show this throughout his life,especially with public displays of affection,and complimenting her publicly.
I could write more,yet I think we get what the word says,the man has a tremendous responsibility first with the Lord,then to his wife,and family.
If the woman is not willing to be under her husband and his position over her,than there will be strife..
If the husband is neglegent in his responsiblity to love his wife unconditionally,there will be strife..
There is going to be some strife and quarelling anyway,yet lets not add gasoline to those fires.
None of this is possible without both parties FIRST being in subjection to the LORD..
