Author	Thread: Talking about Family
Admin	Talking about Family Posted : 14 Sep, 2009 09:34 PM All the men i have emailed and / or talked on the phone never talk about any family members (been communicating a few months). I'm not even sure if they have any. Is that common for men not to talk about siblings, parents, etc., in routine conversations? I'll share in a conversation if i go and do an activity with a relative, or visited, talked to a sister, etc., or if they have a shared interest that a relative has (like fixing old cars) ... all to make conversation. But i've recently notice that relatives are never mentioned. I realize i come from a big family, very close to three sisters and mother, and talk to my children all the time. Another thought... MEN, call your sisters and ask how they are doing or at least what they are up to... as i have to call / stop by to visit my brother, he never calls/visits me... is this what i am talking about? Is the fact they don't randomly talk about relatives a sign that they aren't into families and that type of relationship model? or is it as simple that it doesn't occur to men to actively maintain these relationships since women do it? I'm very curious on your thoughts of some of the points presented -thanks. Post Reply
Praisebassist8706 View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 15 Sep, 2009 12:01 AM Most of the time guys are afraid that the women they are interested in will judge them based on their families..your classic scenario of a woman changing her mind after meeting the future in-laws and freaking out at the thought of holidays and birthday gatherings with these people that she must act like she loves and cannot stand at all. Many times this has to deal with when either person is comfortable having the other meet their parents. The guys you are conversing with may want you to have a strong grasp on who they are before you get a glimpse of where they came from. While I love my parents dearly and have a wonderful relationship with my Mother and Sister, as a grown man I'd have to say I don't want someone to meet them without first knowing that the person I'm dating will like me no matter what my family does. ...that and mothers NEVER want to let their boys go without a fight lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 16 Sep, 2009 08:45 AM dear golden, ive always been a right private man. so unless you asked me about my family i may not talk about them so much.. ole cattle Post Reply
atlfan27 View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 19 Sep, 2009 10:41 AM @cattleman2011...Same deal with me. But I don't mind meeting her family. I got nothing to hide since my life is very well planned out so looking forward to that one and one bond with her dad. Post Reply
atlfan27 View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 19 Sep, 2009 10:46 AM @Praisebassist8706......I am coming from a good family background, I'm very picky on who I want in a girl but my mom tends to look down on people sometimes although she does look very friendly. Post Reply
View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 20 Sep, 2009 10:56 PM Being the only Christian in the family tree (but for one sister in a seeker church), I just do not have much to share. But you know, they gossip, drink a lot, smoke, gamble, act really irresponsible at times, and have only their selfish desires to satisfy each day. [It could be worse as they do say some good things sometimes, don't go to jail, act nice to your face, and work]. But still, I prefer to tell about my real family at church. The home groups, ministries, evangelism, conferences, etc. It is so much nicer to have really good things to share! Plus, I am attracted to someone who is excited about their church family and what they do for others and for eachother. It makes for great story telling. Now if their family is saved, it is wonderful to hear all those details too. Post Reply
TaxMan View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 25 Sep, 2009 05:18 PM I've rarely made a point of bringing them into a conversation, but I dont avoid it either. Dsterna: What's a seeker church? Post Reply
View Profile History	Talking about Family Posted : 26 Sep, 2009 12:16 AM go to biblebb.com and do a search for rick warren, bill hybels. basically it is a church with a diluted doctrine in order to appeal to the most people thereby having rapid growth. the problem is that they don't save anyone. bill hybels learned that sorry truth after 8 (?) years of being the pastor of willowbrook church in chicago. he repented and is making proper changes. Post Reply