Author	Thread: I Don't Get it....
Admin	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 10 Sep, 2009 05:04 PM hello my fellow brothers and sisters! i'm confused and need your counsel. I've went on two dates with this guy. on our third date, i called and cancelled our dinner plans because i wasn't feeling well. he called and asked if i at least wanted him to bring me something to eat. i said, yes and thank you that was very considerate of him. then i asked if he had any visine at home. he said no, but that he would stop at wal-mart to get some. again, i said thank you. twenty minutes later he textes to say that dinner is on him, but that i would have to reimburse him for the visine (which is less than $2). i was stunned, shocked, etc. and thought maybe he was kidding around. he gets to my house with the food and hands over the receipt for the visine. well, again i was stunned and shocked. nevertheless, i gave him $5 and he gave me change. i don't get it. he was gonna spend more money if i had not gotten sick and cancelled our dinner plans so why did he charge me for the eye medicine???? is he cheap? was he angry i got ill and cancelled on him? is this the norm when you're first dating someone 'not spend too much money on them' type of thing? what??? btw, i haven't went out with him since the incident. he calls and i make up excuses because i don't know what to do or think about this incident. thanks and God Bless, Zoe :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 10 Sep, 2009 06:11 PM not really sure what happened there, but it is pretty funny since it's so petty. sounds like he just handled it badly. if it wasn't a joke, if you can, make it into one or give him a chance to put it off as a joke and maybe you two can have a good laugh about it and move on with no hard feelings. Post Reply
ian777 View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 10 Sep, 2009 06:11 PM ....ooookay then! That is indeed very bizarre. However - be careful calling up and making excuses, you might scare him off when in fact he may be a keeper (just a keeper with rather bizarre behaviour?) - just trying to be gracious here. Whether I knew the person or not, I'd be bringing that up pretty quick to try and figure out what on earth was going through their head. Like, I'd be asking. Now mind you, maybe that's exactly what you're doing - is this a red flag, or just a stupid mistake on his part? Something that can be overlooked? It just seems it'd be a shame to kill something this soon over something so silly which may have just been a stupid mistake on his part, y'know? Like, there was something else to the story that he didn't know how to explain to you?? I must admit to being just as baffled as you though - that is really bizarre. Does he have a specific budget for dating, and can't afford something else? :rolleyes: Any other time I can be of absolutely no assistance to you, you just ask away there Zoe. Ian Post Reply
myhopejeremiah29_11 View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 10 Sep, 2009 06:29 PM Hmmm definitely different but he probably just wasn't thinking. I would give it another shot and see how things go and if something like that happens again end it. But in the end, it really depends on what you think of him other than that..you can't, well shouldn't, judge a person on one mishap like that. Post Reply
Linnie41 View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 11 Sep, 2009 01:30 AM I feel for you, and I'm not trying to be insensitive at all, but I can't stop giggling. That is one of the weirdest things I have ever heard. It's one of those shake your head, giggle and have that confused look on your face all at the same time moments. I can completely understand why you keep making excuses. But please, because if nothing else - we're all wanting to know, ask him why he charged you for the visine. That is just too, uh...funny? Bless you- Lynn Post Reply
View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 11 Sep, 2009 01:55 PM okay guys, i'm going to ask him why he charged me for the visine. i'll give you all an update soon. thank you for your responses so far. i greatly appreciate it. God Bless, Zoe :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 12 Sep, 2009 12:11 AM hi zoe i know what is exactly going throu his head, because i have a roommate just like him. in his past, he had bad experiences (in his mind where he felt women were just looking for someone so they can be supported and quit there jobs). so out of the pain from the losses of those relationships, he is gunshy about spending extra money not part of the prescribed plans he had devised. if he says dinner, that's all he will provide. i think that whole thing is nuts, because a man ought to want to meet the needs of those he cares about. but these guys got a little money and have fallen in love with it- more than their need of a love from a woman. i would really question if he has a regenerated heart. a real Christian knows all comes from God and would not blink at providing other needs for you (God's daughter). if you like him, play it tough and tell him how insulted you were. you will quickly see his true colors! God bless! seems like God was revealing his heart condition to you. feel very blessed. David Post Reply
View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 12 Sep, 2009 08:01 AM my dear brother david, thank you so much for your response. it makes perfect sense. i strongly feel that the Lord is revealing his heart to me. i texted him two times yesterday asking politely why he charged me for the visine and he did not answer. yet, he texted me saying to check out his new business website and to pass it on. how rude is that? he completely ignored my need for an answer, but wanted his need (the website) to be met. i consider these things as red flags. i am no longer interested in this guy. i thank the Lord that he is watching over me at all times. again, thank you david and the rest of my brothers and sisters who responded when i needed counsel. God Bless you all :angel: zoe Post Reply
Hayley2020 View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 12 Sep, 2009 11:44 AM Aaaaah yes. Run far away dear one. I can see you already know this though :) Hayley Post Reply
tristan07 View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 13 Sep, 2009 12:54 AM zoe, you think that is something, you should hear the strange stuff my girl puts me through, every day.... i'd pay for the visine, that would be easy. I always always pick the most difficult woman in the world to fall in love with, fool that I am. thats a no brainer, if ya like him, go for it, if not, move on girl. Post Reply
View Profile History	I Don't Get it.... Posted : 13 Sep, 2009 04:47 AM alex, i'm moving on... Post Reply

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