Author	Thread: A question on friendships
Admin	A question on friendships Posted : 8 Sep, 2009 08:08 PM My question is simple, though perhaps stupid, and one I have heard many women answer in ways that only make me despair: How do I become friends with a Christian fellow?! Seriously. Is it rocket science? Why don't I get it? I mean, with a non-Christian guy I'll strike up a conversation, not be polite enough to let him be distracted by someone else, ask him what book he's read or a tv show he likes, ask him for a facebook or phone number, then I might shoot him a message online and chat later. Vu-a-la. Friendship. Or, the beginnings of it. Later, if we hit it off we might meet and do something, perhaps with a friend or two, or maybe not. But, it's not a date. It's just friends. And, it's great except that they think I'm kinda weird for being a Christian. So, how do I do it with Christian guys? I've been told time and again that I'm not to be alone with you all, that I need to let you all take initiative, be leaders. Does that mean I can't say you're cool or flirt a little? Does that mean I can't facebook friend you? Can't call? Can't invite you out? I'm pretty introverted (I'm friendly enough, I just don't "come alive" in groups). I don't normally hang out with my girlfriends in groups of more than three. It's unrealistic to expect me to consistently hang out in large (bigger than 4) groups of people (I never initiate it myself, and people rarely invite me to big groups, except for Bible studies), and even less likely that I'd feel comfortable or relaxed or be myself or be able to connect with another person in such a group. So, I'm confused. Can you only have male Christian friends (and the potential for a husband) if you're an extrovert? Do I need to wait to catch the attention of one of you all and hope for an invitation to something friendy? What? help? Post Reply
View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 8 Sep, 2009 08:28 PM dear brio, just be yourself .. just like you was with the non christian friend.. be yourself and if folks dont like the way you are and wanna change you then keep lookin for the ones that do like you the way you are.. cause to me youre doin it alright.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 8 Sep, 2009 10:33 PM speaking for all christian guys i order- nay command you to make no attempt to appear fun or interesting to any christian guys whatsoever, EVER. ::devil:: totally just kidding. think of how silly that sounds though and there's your answer. hang in there champ. Post Reply
View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 9 Sep, 2009 05:01 PM remp i love your response. :laugh: funny!!! Post Reply
Koinonia87 View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 9 Sep, 2009 11:32 PM "So, how do I do it with Christian guys?" Just like you are describing. I see no real difference. It sounds like you know what you are comfortable with, so just be true to yourself and put your best foot forward. Any guy, Christian or not, should appreciate that in a friend. Post Reply
Praisebassist8706 View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 15 Sep, 2009 12:10 AM Well most Christian guys are so happy to find a nice, decent woman that most of them want to pursue a dating relationship with her before somebody else snatches her up! lol Just be honest and make sure you don't send the wrong messages... i.e. - flirting and the like. Post Reply
View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 17 Sep, 2009 09:03 AM um...what qualifies as flirting? Post Reply
View Profile History	A question on friendships Posted : 22 Sep, 2009 05:22 PM any thing really, if you put it out there that you like said guy, he sould pick up on it, if he dont pick up on it he just might be shy. but you have to make it clear to him, us guys are not mind readers. Post Reply