Author	Thread: Is it all about looks?
Admin	Is it all about looks? Posted : 27 Apr, 2008 01:17 PM I wondered if anyone here felt the way I do about something. I did not put a picture on here... on pupose. I am not really looking for anyone to "hook up with" and just sort of wanted to chat as friends. I wanted to experiment and see if anyone would actually speak with me without a picture. Guess what, not much happens when you dont post a pic. I am a pretty good looking woman (I don't say that proudly)and I bet if I posted my picture the mailbox would have messags in it. Isn't it funny how very superficial we are? As I get notes to things I have posted on, people always say, good luck in your search. I am not searching lol. I have found the number one man,,,,,JESUS! If god sends me a human to fill the void of a mate, then He does. If He doesn't then it's okay. I just found that intertesting and thought maybe someone else might have some input. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 28 Apr, 2008 04:31 AM Lol! I hear what you are saying!! Are men really like that? Who knows for sure BUT one thing I have noticed in my 41 years on this planet is that men are visual. Women are most definitely emotional and need connection with a mans' personality/emotions. If he's easy on the eye as well, well that's a bonus: ) LOL. My opinion only...:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 30 Apr, 2008 01:27 PM "Superficial"? Perhaps. I can tell a lot about a man by his photo, other than just what he looks like. I've seen men with a photo that showed a bit of his home (behind him), and it was a wreck. Duh. Sorry, but if he isn't cleaning his house, I'm certainly not going to do it for him. Also, I love to read body language, and there is a LOT that you can tell by a photo, in that respect. For instance, here's a really easy one: if a guy is posing suggestively--guys, you know who you are--then, click on to the next one. Yes, even in here, they do that. "Talk is cheap", and there are things that non-verbal clues tell you too. I appreciate the thought, though. I would prefert o not have a picture, as well, but I'd rather a guy know what I look like than to get a glimpse and run away. (God gave us eyes, for a reason.) NOT that it's everything, but it IS something. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 4 May, 2008 04:53 AM May the peace of the LORD be with you, Redeemdone. Allow me to comment on your subject with gentle love. Have you ever been to a book store and browsing you noticed a book that just caught your eye? You picked the book up, looked inside and decided if you liked it or not. OR have you purchased a vehicle without looking at the appearance before driving it? Here's one you might relate to; you walk in a stranger's home and noticed how messy it was. what would your impression be of that person? Yes, us guys use our eyes to bring us to the point of contacting. You girls help out by the makeup, hair color and apparel you wear. It's called attraction but it doesn't stop there. It's only the begining until we get to open that book, or drive that car, or you visit my 'lived in looking' apartment.:ROFL: I pray this sheds some light on your subject and I pray you have many good conversations with the flowers on this site, both male and female. GOD bless you abundantly. T:goofball:mie Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 4 May, 2008 07:37 AM Well, thank you all for your insight. I guess it pretty much is that I really am not "looking for love" as so many here are. So, I will digest everyones insight and perhaps you are correct. Thanks so much, and May the Lord richly bless and keep you all, and may we all realize what a Wonderful Lord we all serve! Post Reply
kidvid711 View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 5 May, 2008 07:48 PM At first I decide not to take looks as high priority and find a random girl online. I decided to take a unbeliever and chang her around to be a believer. Even if it was a sin to date a non believer. I find out it was a guy fooling around pretending to be a girl. Looks is a bit important now after that had happen. The guy switch from a unsaved to a believer now. Second it was a waste of time. He had me going for 2 years. He had another guy going for 4 years. I forgive him, the other guy didn't. I didn't meet him because I felt something strange. It was a waste of time, but it taught me a lot. He was telling me what girls would actually do to ya. The second reason I take looks seriously because my owned mother said that she has to look pretty.The bible said I should Honor thy mother and thy father. One thing for sure.For non Christian guys. It is definitely all about looks. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 8 May, 2008 01:46 PM Hey Kidvid, GOD be with you, my brother in Christ. I don't mean to laugh and I'm at the situation and not you.:ROFL: But I had the same thing happen to me. I was interested in this girl that turned out to be a guy. for the sake of the story, I'll use the term 'Shem' cause I don't know which gender to use and they don't know which gender to be. Anyway, we were emailing each other for about 2 weeks then 'shem' dropped the bomb on me. 'Shem' told me 'shem' was a 'shem'. Like you, I was angered but felt some compassion for 'shem'. I asked why 'shem' was the way 'shem' was? 'Shem' replied, "I'm confused". I told 'shem' if he was confused to look in 'shem's' pants and 'shem' wouldn't be confused any more. 'Shem' never did email me back. I think I failed more than you did, kidvid. You done the remarkable by bringing this person to the LORD. That was great and not a failure. GOD bless you and I pray GOD sends you the right one soon. T:goofball:mie Post Reply
GodsGrace2000 View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 12 May, 2008 04:23 PM Last time I checked this was a "Dating site" What difference does it make if people write you or not.. It seems to me, if they did write you anyway (because of an interest they might have in you) would be a waste of their time? Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 14 May, 2008 08:16 AM Yes, this is a dating site. But, it is also a single Christian site. Not everyone is ruffling throught profiles to find that person who "completes" them. It's called fellowship. And, my idea is, anyone can put anyone elses pic up here, and you would never know the difference. Anyone can type words and sound so wonderful, and then, well, it was just an experiement. Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 14 Jun, 2008 01:22 PM *lolz* It's sad how few people use the message board here. Sidenote aside, I want to try to put some sympathy on the guys' side. It's a biological thing that we are more visually stimulated and drawn than women are, it isn't something that we sit down and have a moral discussion with ourselves about and then come to the conclusion that we must have an attractive mate. Second, at least for Americans, beauty is so ingrained in our culture that it has pervaded our minds to set an even higher standard of beauty than we might naturally on our own. Since we are raised from the time we are babies on this kind of nonsense, it's another reason why it is hard to retrain our minds to lower our desires and standards. It would be like trying to retrain your arm to take your foot's place after having it as an arm for so long, it would take a lot of work. Third, guys dont have to be willing to go out with every single girl they come across. God created beauty, I don't why it's too much to ask to be able to live with something that you think is half-way decent. There are plenty of guys who find different looks attractive for many of the girls to find a match, it's just a matter of them bumping into each other. All of this is not to mention that looks can be altered and improved by effort, and also that a person who is overweight by choice (not exercising or eating right at all, though they have a normal metabolism) should be less desirable because they are causing health risks to themselves that could cause many issues later, so it shouldnt be the guys to blame if they arent interested. As for me, a picture isnt everything. But i want to have a wife that i can honestly wake up and say "hey beautiful" to. Women do like to hear that? I think it would cause both in the relationship pain if she knew i was saying it only half-heartedly. Im not asking for a supermodel (many of them are wayyy too skinny or stereotypical), just something that my biological ticker says is agreeable. Post Reply
Gourd00 View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 14 Jun, 2008 01:35 PM Hmm.. and since I can't seem to find a way to edit my last post, I might add there is a quite large christian chatting forum with all sorts of topics to talk about. It also has a singles section, though it isnt a dating section. If someone is interested, they can message me and I will send them the address; most dating sites like this dont like advertising, otherwise i would just post it here. Post Reply

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