Author	Thread: phone calls???
Admin	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 03:15 PM Ok Guuys here is a question for you that is on my mind. since being on this site I have gotten emails and messages asking that I call a man on the phone. This makes me unconfortable unless I get to knwo someone via Email or messanger first. Is this something that you guys think is acceptible? That I am wanting to take time to get to knwo someone before calling on the phone. Or am I way out of line asking for that time and opportinity? so let me have it..LOL GBU all bethany Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 03:47 PM Always look out for your safety. Although the phone can make a legitimate connection easier, it also exposes you more than e-mail does. I prefer to suggest neutral locations after exchanging pictures. If we connect in person in the neutral location, then providing my number and getting hers is a no brainer. If we don't connect, then neither of us needs to worry about crazy stockerishness. Admittedly, this prudence strikes some women as being too slow and others it strikes them as being too fast. Either way, it makes me feel the safest, and helps me feel that I'm respecting the woman's safety too. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 04:24 PM Yeah...I've had a few women try and give me theirs also...but it just doesn't seem like that's a good idea....you really should build some kind of email/IM relationship and get to know the person before you meet/give out phone numbers... Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 06:16 PM dear folks, id rather talk by phone.. and if theys a stalker you can always change your number for bout 20 bucks hehe.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 06:52 PM Ladyizshy, I feel the same way about the whole phone situation. As mark stated, I feel uncomfortable about talking on the phone, especially if they ask for a number the first time I speak with them. It's not like I hand out my phone number to anyone and everyone. More than a few of my friends had to have their numbers changed out because of people calling them constantly who they really didn't want communicating with them. I say, the best thing is the play it safe. I believe you should atleast build up some sort of relationship, and get to know a person, know their traits, before you just start handing out numbers. The person you give it to might not have bad intentions but they could easily give your number out to an individual who does have bad intentions unknowingly. This day in age, you can never be too cautious. I find it as a major conversation killer on the internet if someone just IM's you and the 3rd question they ask is if they can have your phone number. I mean doing that, is worse than someone coming up to you on the street, asking a few questions and then asking for your phone number. Hey, atleast they got to see you face to face right. I would feel uncomfortable in both situations. All in all, do what makes you feel safe and secure. I also wouldn't suggest any handing out their phone numbe without getting to know the person, and then, still be careful who you give it to, the world isn't all that nice. And a phone number could be an avenue for a predator to find out more information about you. I don't think this affects men as much as it does women, but still, you need to watch how you give out your information. God bless. Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 07:18 PM Bethany... I learned a neat little trick. Get an At&T calling card. I have one from way back and it is like 4 cents a minute. (not sure how much they are now days) Yes it will cost a little, but it works until you get comfy talking to whoever it is your talking to. The calling card will give them a location on their caller id like Nebraska, or Texas, etc. Your number won't show up on their caller ID. I put my number out there recently for the first time and I though I was nervous, I think it is safe to say he wasn't a stalker but a very nice man. :dancingp: But I do agree you have to protect yourself and anyone that ask you to call him should understand your need to protect yourself and just be patient until you are ready. It will cost more than 20.00 to change your number if by your number they found your name; street address; place of business etc.... amazing what you can find on google if you type in a phone number. Some cases google will show a man right to your front door. It is wise to be cautious. ~Lisa Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 10:34 PM thanks gang nice to know I was not off base.. i have had 3 men in 2 days ask me to call them. with NO communication of any substance.. 2 of which were in the first emails..i realize I am a bit of a prude but I live alone with my teenage daughter why would i take that risk with a stranger? yes you can google about anything.. GBU all bethany Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 4 Aug, 2009 11:25 PM HI BETH. NO WAY, YOU ARE CERTAINLY DOING THE RIGHT THING BY WANTING TO GET TO KNOW THEM. I UNDERSTAND THAT EVERYONE HAS THEIR DIFFRENT METHODS OF COURTING AND OR TRYING TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE, BUT PERSONALLY, I THINK THE GUY�S IN QUESTION, MAY BE MOVING A BIT TO FAST. IT IS TOTALLY ACCEPTABLE THAT YOU ARE WAITING BETH, IN MY VIEW, YOU HAVE DONE THE RIGHT THING, SOMETHING WHICH GOD WILL BE PROUD OF. GODS TIME IS THE BEST.:angel: Post Reply
ian777 View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 7 Aug, 2009 02:42 PM Yes - don't forget, in this age of cyberstalking, once they have your phone number, they can look up your ADDRESS. Naw, be safe. I've only ever given one lady my number, and I told her to feel free to use *67 I think it is - whichever turns off caller ID anyway. Ian Post Reply
View Profile History	phone calls??? Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 09:30 PM Ian, that is so great. You are the only one on here I have ever seen offer that. I am truly impressed and deeply grateful that you would think enough of a lady to do that. God bless you! And thanks for understanding us looking out for our safety and helping us to do it, too. Wow! Gloryshine Post Reply