i've spent the whole dating time being stood up, cheated on, and just led to believe that i was special. it's gotten to the point where i'm constantly saying i'm worthless. hey, it's true. and worst of all, everyone keeps saying how pretty i am and i can't see it. because the only relationship i've had was a very abusive one and no guy has ever treated me like i'm pretty or special. so, why should i even waste time thinking i am? especially since i was recently stood up by someone from here. i actually may never trust another guy again. but i don't want to be that way. i want to get to knw you guys, i truly do. i want to form friendships and MAYBE someday find my better half. but i'm just so scared. i'm actually just getting used to my cousin, who is 21 and very cool. so, i'm even scared of my own family members. can you guys help?
Praise the LORD and SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST and peace be unto you my dear sister.
Trust in the LORD and you'll be ok. :)
Remember that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I have found a woman to be attractive when another person may not have and vice versa.
Remember you are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Ps139:14) - Focuss more on having a pure and loving heart before the LORD and HE will give you what is good.
I have also found that a woman's inner beauty can cause a man not to focuss so much on her outter appearance.
I recommend that you read I Peter chapter 3 and pray about it. GOD Bless!
Welcome to the forums - and thanks for sharing your heart and your fears.
First of all - YER 19!!! Egads - imagine how I feel, having never been married and I'm 40. ANd it aint been for trying! But I also know that even when I was the reason I wasn't married, that was not a knock against my value, or what I was, or my attractiveness.
Please don't let other people's behaviour determine your value. First of all, you are pretty - whether or not a guy tells you that or not is irrelevent.
It is crucial that you understand your value in Christ - otherwise you will have self-esteem problems your entire life. I speak by experience here. I "Crashed" at your age - my separation from the Lord took its toll, I had zippo value in my own eyes, I became horribly suicidal and depressed.
By merely restoring my relationship with Christ, I saw my value - why? Because MY CREATOR says I am valuable. And your Creator says you are incredibly valuable - whether or not your are pretty, whether or not other guys like you or not.
I'm sorry that guys have treated you poorly; first of all, they're not ALL like that - but frankly, the important guy to focus on here is Jesus Christ.
But you need to understand - I walked away from the Lord because people treated me poorly. What I didn't know was that I was walking away from the one who actually does give me value, in hopes of being accepted by those who didn't value me, and wouldn't value me anyway!
I already see many good qualities in you - one of which being brutal honesty. That is one of the strongest characteristics you can have in life, because you will find and know the truth. Notice how often Christ referred to the importance of truth - and that He was truth. Brutal honesty means you're not going to lie to others, but most imporantly, you're not going to lie to yourself.
Anyway - I'm on a borrowed internet connection at the library - keep posting, let's chat. I'm glad you're sharing, let's see if we can help you get you confident with guys again.
I'm a nice, friendly guy! (No, I'm not hitting on you - I don't want to make you scared in another way now! haha)
first and foremost, one mans mistake, should not account 4 all mens characteristics, i dont think it is fair, deep down, do you?
i'm sorry bout the courses of action which took place during ur previous relationship.
quite simply, the battle begins in ur mind, i know ur hurt,scared, but u need 2 firstly, cease from thinking that all men are the same, trust me, we are not all the same
i believe that prayer is the key and is the only course of action that will undoubtedly remove u from ur current source of pain
u r healed and surely delivered my sista, remember, we are not all the same.
i hope the bible verse below can help u
Matthew 7:1-5
�Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, �Let me take the speck out of your eye,� when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.
im sory if u are offended by the above verse but it has been quoted directly from scripture.
in addition 2 my last message, u are most definately beautiful, due to the fact that we were all made in gods image.
if u refer back to genesis chapter 1, on more than 5 occasions, including when god designed man, he would always claim that all he did, he did it or created it and it was GOOD.
so therefore, u and i and every 1 else, we are also good , beautiful and handsome.
God does not want you or anybody else to put yourself down!!! our Lord is so great He even put a song into solomons heart just for YOU!!! the lyrics are written in the Holy Bible, song of solomon!!! read em and you will agree with me, they are written just for YOU!!!
i hope you enjoy reading!!!
take care and God bless :purpleangel:
diana
walk straight and hold your head up high for WE are HIS KIDS!!!
