Author	Thread: Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are?
Admin	Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are? Posted : 14 Oct, 2017 04:13 PM I am finding this to be true for me... ahhhh... personal growth is not, always, without 'growth pangs' but perhaps we can stand just a little bit taller in the end for having grown - no matter how small the growth may be... : ) Share your own thoughts on this if you'd care to... Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are? Posted : 14 Oct, 2017 07:26 PM Good question. I suppose that several years ago, looking for a relationship on the internet, the rejections would have caused me to look at myself. Now I am content with who I am. It is the relationships that I already have, where I know people face to face that reflect back to me who I am and I can then see the blemishes that reveal that I am still on my journey in growing in Christ likeness. Not to be argumentative or snarky but the one, real relationship that I am looking for more of Jesus. Post Reply
View Profile History	Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are? Posted : 16 Oct, 2017 08:46 AM agreed... on all points... and who we are in the Lord is everything, really... if we profess to be the children of God... then we must walk in that understanding of what life is meant to be, in.... and through... the knowledge of Him... have a great day! Post Reply
View Profile History	Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are? Posted : 16 Oct, 2017 08:47 AM agreed... on all points... and who we are in the Lord is everything, really... if we profess to be the children of God... then we must walk in that understanding of what life is meant to be, in.... and through... the knowledge of Him... have a great day! Post Reply
View Profile History	Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are? Posted : 17 Oct, 2017 12:32 PM for me the question would be do I evaluate who I am regardless of looking for the one and I think the answer would be yes, after all we are called to examine ourselves, but having said that I am aware that I can be very introspective and not all people are like that, well not naturally, but I would say that filling in ones profile should help one to question who we really are and what we want, this brings up a larger question for me, is what we want what we really need ? or is what we want good for us ? I have preferences and I know what will make me happy but can that be found in one person ? personally speaking I value intelligence and an ability to question regardless of emotional fallout, but then they are also my own characteristics, a help meet isn't a mirror image, we are supposed to compliment one another, ie I'm bad at paperwork but she isn't I'm good at cooking but she isn't, what we want and what is good for me might not be the same animal, I can only measure myself against the yardstick I'm presented with, so with some ladies I might score highly...in my own regard and with others I might come in a miserable fourth... you pose a hard question that in some respects can't be answered except in the doing...however a more direct response to your question would be, it ought to and if it doesn't why not ? Post Reply
View Profile History	Does actively looking for that one, real, relationship - prompt you to also evaluate the person that you are? Do we better understand what we are looking for in others, when we are more honestly willing to deeply consider the person that we are? Posted : 18 Oct, 2017 12:50 AM How can you know where you need to go unless you know where you have been? Same thing with needing to know yourself to know what you need to add to ballance out the chaos.... and whether they want to admit it or not everyone has chaos they cannot mannage by themselves. In general people are attracted to people that are like them but different enough to not BE them. The less wise give in to the allure of "the stranger" who is as far removed from them as possible and inevitibly it ends in tears, great fire burns without control until nothing is left. On the other hand how can you be honest with someone else unless you are first honest with yourself? Post Reply