Author	Thread: Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'?
Admin	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 30 Sep, 2017 07:45 PM If you had the fullest of confidence in the person/persons that you had deligated to find you a perfect (or as near-perfect), a wife for you... through discussions with the prospective brides' designated ones (such as close family members)? Understanding that there would not be any obligation to wed the selected bride - but in knowing that those who 'in having known you the longest and therefore - know you best' might have a more 'unbiased' idea of what you would find most 'perfectly suited in a marriage partner'? Feel free to explain the logic and reasoning behind your decision... : ) Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 30 Sep, 2017 08:45 PM I don't see why not. I mean if "arranged marriage" means that both of us can say "no," then there can be no harm. I would be opposed if it meant that someone would FORCE me to marry whoever THEY picked for me. But as long as we both have free will, then it's just like a first date. You go there, get to know each other and then make a decision. And it can be either a yes or no. I like the idea of an arranged marriage, because it's kind of like going to a car dealership to buy a car, and it's like someone had already paid the downpayment on a car for you. So, you are a serious buyer. You're not going there to just kick some tires and look around. You're going there with the intention to buy a car, and all you have to do is decide if you like the car or not. And if you really like it, you buy it. Of course, I am oversimplifying here, but you get the point. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 1 Oct, 2017 02:01 AM Given the fact that no much how you delude yourself while in love you only really KNOW someone after years of marriage, simply living together means nothing since there is always an escape hatch keeping both "partners" from ever really showing their true selves. I continually see long "courtships" with years long engagements all the while the two idiots are fornicating like mad. The current romantic vision of the "perfect" wedding this little play concludes with where no one owns anyone but the man needs to give up whatever the woman demands is a farce that half the time ends with a quick divorce anyway. The lies everyone were forced to grow up with are falling apart but everyone is BLIND to it. One of these (rather hysterical at times) lies is that arranged marriages are always bad and always anti-woman. Arranged marriages can only work when society at large supports it and condemns frivolous divorce, the only non-frivolous divorce being when one of the parties betrays the marriage itself in a manner rendering it terminally ill. Simply "not being happy any more" or "this is not what I signed on for" is excusing cowardice and oath-breaking. You marry someone you permanently seal up any escape hatch or you never really married at all. If done properly and honourably arranged marriages CAN be a viable alternative to the current whishy-washy disaster that leaves broken people in it's wake. Of course this means matching people up by personality for a harmonious future instead of the traditional narrow-minded "business deal" type of disaster where what benefits the "family" is the end goal. It's not like what we have now is SO great after all. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 1 Oct, 2017 02:30 PM Marriage was at first and still is God's idea. His plan. Adam and Eve had an arranged marriage. A marriage whether performed before a pastor, a priest, a judge, etc.. has been and always will be a binding covenant with GOD. It is the idolatry of ourselves that decieves us into believing that we can break that covenant. I would not turn down and arranged marriage. Having an experienced person who is objective and seriously desires the best for all persons involved would be preferential to being young and foolish, making decisions based upon hormones. A match maker that seeks to do God's will would be preferred to hormones. Frankly if marriages were decided upon according to Biblical standards there would probably be fewer marriages because immature people would not be allowed to marry. As long as society despises marriage and the church patterns itself after society instead of God's plan, we shall continue be witnesses to broken marriages and families. To be clear and restate: Yes I would agree with an arranged marriage but only as long as Biblical standards are placed paramount. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 3 Oct, 2017 12:10 PM Well said! I liked the analogy, actually...'simplified' is good, at least as a starting point for some beginning of deeper contemplation... I liked your answer - thanks for taking the time to answer Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 3 Oct, 2017 12:12 PM You're answers always stand out... : ) I like the style in which you lay out your thoughts... and I like the thoughts you expressed... I agree. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 3 Oct, 2017 12:28 PM I totally agree that society has taken a good, Godly covenant, which had specific, (and stated goals), and totally shipwrecked it! I once had a friend whose daughter apparently professed some form of 'I am-a-Christian... I-am-saved' philosophy... She made a choice to elope with a guy she had once, barely knew in highschool...Her mother and I spoke of 'religious/spiritual/biblical' things on a pretty regular basis... when I said something to the effect that 'God expected her marriage to stay in place and that she wasn't going to be able to just call it quits when she got bored'... her mother mentioned this to her... the poor girl nearly lost it - from what her mother said... Turns out she thought the idea of - (aargh! I can't think of the term they have for it, now!) - was a good idea... It's a term that basically means a 'training wheels' kind of 'marriage'... and I use the term 'marriage' loosely... Where the couple just sort 'get their feet wet' and learn a few of the things relative to marriage, have a kid or two and get a divorce, and move on looking for 'a real marriage'... Apparently people go into these 'first marriages' with the full understanding that they will divorce after they've 'learned the ropes' and feel 'more qualified to be married'.... Excellent reply you've shared - thanks. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 3 Oct, 2017 01:01 PM 'training wheels' kind of 'marriage..... THIS is why kids should not be left unsupervised and certain hippy "teachers" should get beaten up on principle.... no person in his/her right mind could POSSIBLY think this is a good idea in the long run. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 3 Oct, 2017 05:18 PM I do remember that several years ago it was said that the young people of the time considered marriage to be something that changed with the seasons of their lives. In this concept they would find a different spouse for each season of life. I have wondered for years how many times a person needs to be remarried before they realize that they are just using the illusion of marriage to justify adultery. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 4 Oct, 2017 10:06 PM Rambo: I really enjoy your posts... : ) If you have a blog 'out there' in the great sea of '1s and 0s' - please let me know... seriously! : ) I would subscribe... : ) Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you... or would you not, consider the idea of 'an arranged marriage'? Posted : 5 Oct, 2017 05:50 AM Nah, for a while I posted my rantings on a news site but it was wasted effort in the end. Almost one listened honestly, the usual baseless accusasions and insults were thrown at while completely ignoring my ACTUAL arguments... I got too worked up over the rampant idiocy of it all and it just wasnt worth it. My problem is also I tend to swipe aside the bush and go for the throaght of a problem without much ceremony... or my ridicule of a situation becomes a work of art that never should have been painted at all for the sake of the safety of everyone involved. If something annoys me enough I sometimes am compelled to "teach out" but I try to keep the dangerous compulsion to a controlabble non habit-forming minimum especially since if I get too carried away I start spewing the most chaotic nonsense similar to a ever expanding maze as my blatherings take on a life of their own.... you might have noticed I can get rather mentally gymnastic at times, well the joints simply bend too far if I bend too much. Post Reply

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