Author	Thread: Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions?
Admin	Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions? Posted : 25 Jul, 2017 06:20 AM I keep meeting these guys who they are glad I have convictions, but then when I state my views strongly, they say I'm judging them or being pushy. Why is that? Do you want a mouse? Now don't get me wrong, I believe feminism is evil. It breaks families apart. But God made us women with emotions and firm opinions, and it isn't wrong to say them if we are tactful and godly in how we express ourselves. Especially on spiritual issues. So why is it so many guys I meet say that I'm either too definitive, too pushy or judgmental? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions? Posted : 25 Jul, 2017 07:46 AM Not knowing you I can't guess why.... I can only say that it's not what you say as much as how you say it that matters... and yes some guys (& gals) actually have no proper convictions of their own and get irritated when someone pokes or prods those usually merely cultural convictions. They can't actually defend their convictins so they attack... but that's just me guessing. Said another way if you have convictions on proper foundations and actually dare to defend them publically people will dislike you for not falling in line along with them. Sheeple are as sheelple do, ironically it's usually the idiots that scream the loudest that have thunk their convictions through the least but that's another matter... empty cans making the loudest noise and all that. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions? Posted : 26 Jul, 2017 08:34 PM If you are speaking about people on the site I would say that from my experience most people come onto a Christian dating site not because they are seeking someone who has strong convictions and a stable walk with Jesus but because they want a "nice" guy (or girl). There are those who come to Christian circles because they believe that Christians are more gullable and are easier to take advantage of. In the world of face to face there are few people inside or outside the church who really understand their own world view and how they came to claim that world view. If you are strong and have the foundations for your own view understood by yourself, then it will convict others of their own house of cards. By all means, own your views, there will be many who are offended by them and will attack you for your views. Maybe they just need time to mature their own views. As long as you agree with God and His word you cannot go wrong. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions? Posted : 26 Jul, 2017 10:43 PM I've looked at your profile, and my first impression was that you are quite opinionated and picky and perhaps the word "judgmental" might also be accurate. For example, you wrote, "NOTE: I HATE RACISM, so if you are racist, don't waste your time on me!!! I also refuse to talk to those divorced or separated from their wives." Instead of that, you could write, "I am looking for someone who is never married." and later on mention that you are looking for someone who is not racist. Why do you say that you will not talk to these people? It's unnecessary. Your words project rejection and sound hurtful. It doesn't hurt me, because I am very picky just like you (or even more so!) But at least, I try not to sound like it. You could visit my profile, and you might not be aware that I have a list, and I have almost 100 dealbreakers on my list! I don't share every one of them on my profile, because I have learned that it just drives away people and creates a bad impression. At first glance, you want to create an impression that you are very friendly, non-judgmental, and kind. Why? Because people get scared if you start your profile by scaring away potential friends. You might say, "But that's the point! I don't want to talk to bad people." Okay, still, it's better if you are nice to people. You don't know who you are talking to. Your profile is your message to the world. Don't assume that every single visitor is a bad guy! Friendliness and kindness is something that makes women attractive. So, if you don't sound friendly and kind to strangers, then you might be also pushing away the very people that you are looking for. I have never talked to you in a private message, so I don't know what you sound like in your messages. All I could see is your public profile, and I tried to tell you what my impression was. I don't think it's a bad thing that you are picky. In fact, it is a very good thing that you know what it is you are looking for (it makes you appear mature and smart), but don't dump all your requirements or dealbreakers on strangers all at once, because that scares them away. And even when you do mention what you are looking for, try to do it in a kind voice. That's my advice. :-) Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions? Posted : 1 Aug, 2017 08:11 AM I don't. In fact I've had women ignore me due to my strong Christian beliefs ex: Jesus is God in flesh. Just seexas saving your time instead of wasting it. Post Reply
Obediencetotheword View Profile History	Why do so many men feel threatened by girls with opinions? Posted : 19 Aug, 2017 12:51 AM I had to read this forum to get some good insight. Well said silver. I love to speak my mind, too and sometimes, how I think may not necessarily be how I exactly convey it. The verse that taught me to be mindful of what comes out of my mouth or what I write is... "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." Matthew 12:34. It takes some introspection, and guidance from the Holy Spirit to have our speech be transformed. Post Reply