Author	Thread: Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences?
Admin	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 17 Apr, 2017 05:31 AM Hi, I'd like a guy's view point on this matter. When meeting and getting to know someone, would you just go with the flow or use that time to evaluate how compatible the relation can be? I obviously mean after praying over whether to accept the invite in the first place. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 17 Apr, 2017 07:28 AM Online chatting is for getting a measure of mental compatibility, chatting in person is for getting a measure for chemical compatibility. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 17 Apr, 2017 12:00 PM Nicely put, thanks for your reply. What would you consider deal maker in deal breaker in terms of both mental n physical compatibility or lack thereof? Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 17 Apr, 2017 08:07 PM "When meeting and getting to know someone, would you just go with the flow or use that time to evaluate how compatible the relation can be? I obviously mean after praying over whether to accept the invite in the first place." Short answer: Yes I evaluate the other person every minute of everyday. After the wedding, I would say to myself, "This is the person I am going to be with for the rest of my life, so whether she is good or bad, I will have to make this relationship work." But as long as we are not married and we are not wearing the ring, it's evaluation time. Sometimes people discover dealbreakers in the last minute. It's a possibility. Anything is possible. But after marriage, you don't separate even if you discover something horrible. So, that's how it works. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 18 Apr, 2017 04:00 AM You will have to rephrase/explain the question better. It's at the same time too vague and too wide a net being cast as it stands. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 19 Apr, 2017 06:06 AM Ty for your input. It does make sense to keep evaluating, however it does seem rather standoffish. The lady will also be evaluating and might think the cautiousness makes you rather cold and uncaring. Just a thought.Hard to find the balance I think. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 19 Apr, 2017 06:10 AM You mentioned two types of compatibility. Was just wondering what would be a deal breaker in both cases.Just whatever pops in your mind, doesnt have to b precise.nice to have a guy's viewpoint is all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 21 Apr, 2017 01:16 AM Even some women gauge men's knowledge and capacity to be a man. But this should not be the basis in order for anyone to like anyone, because if it were, it will always end up to argument. In some cases, you may agree, in some you may disagree but what a manly guy should do is to let the lady finish and say amen. Pray. I notice some changes. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 21 Apr, 2017 02:33 AM It's not something that's easily applicable to everyone, we are all too different. You cannot describe what it is in a specific woman that makes your blood sing (physical compatibility) because as soon as you make one rule another woman serves to break it. The same for spiritual or mental compatibility... the only real rule of thum seems to be someone who is simmilar but not the same as you, you need someone that ballances you out not a exact opposite or clone. The best thing you can do is describe your true self (not the mask you show the world) honestly and share the things in a perspective partner that you personally would not be able to handle. This approach though seems to take a certain courage that most woman (personal experience) seem to lack... if nothing else it scares off the chaff and weeds and sometimes someone remains that MIGHT be the right person for you... it's a pagmatic timesaving thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 26 Apr, 2017 10:51 PM If you go on deeper to His word and see that there are no given examples that women and men are alike, it is pointless to try to overanalyze someone's capability. If you don't like the person, no one can push you to like someone you don't like as a partner. You can't go partner with darkness if you are aware of where you are. Language is a barrier, and some people who want to show off people they are great, speak nonsense even use high fallutin words, to make them feel good about themselves, which was never taught in the Bible. It's more like saying, "Hey you know what, I'm greater than you are."It would have been more sensible if they use exactly the words Jesus had spoken in parables. "If someone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceive himself." Galatians 6:3 Post Reply
View Profile History	Cross that bridge when you get there or overscrutinise points of differences? Posted : 30 Apr, 2017 05:32 PM You send a message- a) You get no reply, that is a polite no thanks, probably b) You get a reply, that is an "I'm curious" response You message for a while to make sure they are a real person a) They cannot sustain a conversation, time to move on b) They intrigue you with what they say, I give my e-mail address You e-mail for a while a) You find some sort of critical problem, move on b) You find that they sustain your interest and you theirs, you ask for a phone number You talk on the phone a) You find that their ability to converse is limited. move on b) The sound of their voice makes you want more, so ask for a date By this time, you have invested time and energy and should have an idea how they think. The rest is the chemistry thing previously mentioned. Then its baggage handling time if you are in my age bracket. Thus, I am still looking. Post Reply

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