Author	Thread: Intimacy
Admin	Intimacy Posted : 25 Feb, 2017 03:18 PM Hello Men, I am wanting to know if there are any males truly OK with waiting to Marriage. I truly believe that a man will not buy what he can get for free... My question is intimacy the foundation of a good relationship? Post Reply
JamesEG View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 25 Feb, 2017 08:00 PM I strongly believe that sexual abstinence until marriage is best. Ideally, I think relationships should begin as friendships, with any type of romance coming later. It is hard to evaluate someone objectively when one's hormones are racing. If one can wait until the minister states "you may kiss the bride" at the wedding to even have the first kiss, I think that is even better. Even kissing can arouse emotions that lead to more intimate contact. So, my personal advice is to develop friendships first. Then develop a closer friendship if you share common morals, goals, and interests. Take romance very slowly. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 25 Feb, 2017 11:44 PM The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak... as soon as a relationship gets to a passionately in love stage physical desire can become totally overpowering, especially for men which is half the reason people start behaving completely illogically. Long courtships are just plain impractical unless you keep them calm or give in and satisfy the the beast inside that the other person awakens. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 26 Feb, 2017 04:36 AM Amen Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 26 Feb, 2017 04:38 AM Thanks JamesEG! Be Blessed and Prosperous! Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 26 Feb, 2017 04:40 AM Thanks Rambo919! I never thought about it that way! I see what your saying in regards to Long Courtships. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 26 Feb, 2017 03:30 PM I never kissed my first wife until after I proposed to her. We never touched each other intimately until our wedding night. Yes, this is God's design for us. Anything else is sin. Fornicating won't take away your salvation, but you have to be honest with yourself and acknowledge that not only are you sinning, but you are also enabling your "hopefully" future spouse to sin in the process. We must live in truth and reality according to God's standards. Along Rambo's theme, I proposed on December 31st as the fireworks were going off for the new year, and we married April 6th. Once you decide to marry, what's the point in waiting? What are you waiting for? If you love them enough to tell them that you will marry them, do it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 27 Feb, 2017 08:03 AM DavidsPsalms Wow, that is so Beautiful!!! thank you so much for sharing. Your life experiences and words remind me of my Dad. He waited to have his first kiss... Post Reply
Aaragorn View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 5 Mar, 2017 03:36 AM I am okay with waiting for marriage. In fact, I am determined to. I have yet never kissed/been-kissed romantically, and I intend for it to remain that way until the �you may now kiss the bride� moment! As for your question, is intimacy the foundation for a good relationship, the answer is a firm No. JamesEG is right, that it is harder to evaluate someone and think logically with hormones racing, and the Biblical principal is definitely to wait for marriage for physical intimacy. And the wisdom of this is backed up by sheer statistics: the single biggest factor for predicting divorce is pre-marital sex. DavidPsalms is right about fornication not taking away your salvation; before God sin is sin. But it is immoral, and like anything that goes against God�s created order, it is just plain dumb. The perfect way to diminish your chances of future happiness. Post Reply
View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 11 Mar, 2017 08:40 PM Yes, there are guys out there that believe in waiting until marriage. If you're talking about physical intimacy, I would say it's a component but not the foundation. The foundation is love, and you know it when it hits you (thinking about that person all the time, doing everything you can to spend more time with them, putting them ahead of you without even thinking about it, finding them utterly fascinating, etc.). You still need to have physical intimacy (holding hands, showing affection, looking into eachother's eyes) - if that's not there then something's wrong. That doesn't mean going past the line though (not showing, looking at, or touching areas that are off-limits). If you've got a guy who is STRONGLY Christ-first, you might find him very physically affectionate without going past the line who is even more about waiting for marriage and hard limits than the woman is. Hang in there and don't give up - there are decent guys out there who are trying to do it right too Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Intimacy Posted : 13 Mar, 2017 07:33 PM Yes I believe in intimacy before marriage. The problem is that our culture confuses intimacy with sex. Many people will even live their entire married lives without having both. I have been involved with a para church organization in the past that dealt primarily with sexual issues and I have talked with sex addicts of both genders and read the supportive literature to help them and be informed. There are people who have had sex with over a 1000 people and they can attest that intimacy was never involved. I would not wed a person whom I did not know on a intimate emotional, intellectual and spiritual level first. Very few marriages that I have witnessed truly have known what intimacy is even. That I believe is why so many couples end up in the same room with miles between them. Few people are willing to be vulnerable enough on a consistent basis to be truly intimate. r Post Reply

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