Author	Thread: What stops you from contacting a woman?
PapillonDivin View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 20 Aug, 2016 02:08 PM Pretty much what the title says. Perhaps you are shy or simply don't know what to say but I am wondering from the woman's perspective if there is something that turns you away from contacting her. It could be that she has not said enough about herself or maybe she said too much? I have been told in the past that pictures can be intimidating. Is that true? I am new to the dating website world and am just trying to figure out how to better my chances of finding someone real. I pray you all find how God has intended for you. Be blessed. Post Reply
View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 22 Aug, 2016 08:28 AM Obviously I can't speak for all guys, but the very first thing that would prevent me from contacting a girl is that I simply don't find her physically attractive. Some people might be able to look past the physical, but I'm not one of them. I don't expect a model by any means, but I at least have to be attracted to her. Beauty is literally in the eye of the beholder. I'm too old to be shy. Maybe the younger guys are too shy to contact someone, I used to be, but not any more. I think confidence comes with age too. I checked out your profile. You have shared a lot of personal information at the beginning. I don't have a problem with that. I want deep, meaningful conversations, and you've provided a lot of substance to make that happen. Some guys might be turned off by that though. We're not all the same. I like lots of pictures. I prefer pictures that are not from a studio though. I want to see the real person as much as possible, even some with no makeup. Along those lines, I don't care for pics with various types of graphic editing done to them. I only see a couple of those on your profile, so that's fine as long as there are several others without the editing. One thing you didn't mention that will force a guy not to contact a girl are the restrictions they have placed in their profile. That's a function the creators of this site set up. The point is that by limiting the age range or other criteria like smoking and drinking, we will prevent some people from contacting us. Like all these points, it's a personal matter whether or not you want these restrictions in place. So there's my opinion. It's probably what you paid for it. Post Reply
GlennP View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 23 Aug, 2016 06:54 AM Besides lacking deal breakers and having a pleasant look, I want to see interest in practical living based on the bible. As Christians, what else do we have to base a successful marriage on? The roll of the dice? Not related to your question but the catch-22 for me is that a woman with hard-fought beliefs may be unwilling to surrender them to God should they conflict with her husband's theology, even though I believe God asks that for good reason. Post Reply
View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 27 Aug, 2016 11:21 AM Photos are probably the #1 killer for contact with me. However, it is not necessarily looks, its what in the photo or lack there of. Post Reply
Champions_You_Are View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 28 Aug, 2016 02:14 PM Personality. On this site, the faster way to get to know someone's personality is in the chat rooms--where you can see how the person interacts with people-in real time. Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 4 Sep, 2016 10:42 AM If her photo shows to much skin. If she is a drama queen on the web site I visit. If she says that she is not a regular church attender. I want date someone that goes to church on a weekly basis. Post Reply
30andVirgin View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 18 Sep, 2016 01:30 PM In many cases, simply the settings of her profile (mostly the contact from abroad, and/or the age limitations). Another issue, is the lack of a profile photo, that actually presents the owner of the profile. And the final issue, is writing just a single sentence, like "wanna get to know me, drop me a line". Some don't bother to actually write something meaningful, that could attract a man, and make him curious about the profile and it's owner. Post Reply
View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 23 Sep, 2016 03:20 AM Too much makeup, tattoos, drinking and smoking, low church attendance etc.. Post Reply
TC2c View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 26 Sep, 2016 04:57 PM When you've been on these sites a long time, you come to the realization most won't reply. So at some point it seems to become an effort in futility. So, sometimes I do, and most of the time I don't. Post Reply
dance2cedm View Profile History	What stops you from contacting a woman? Posted : 1 Oct, 2016 09:51 PM The #1 thing that keeps me from contacting a woman is lack of information in her profile. This is a problem I've seen on CDFF, Connecting Singles, and Christian Mingle. This is the reason I like OKCupid best -- women tend to write longer profiles that actually help me to get to know them. When profiles are too short, as most are on CDFF, there's nothing to entice me to write. I want to know what the woman is about (interests, tastes, what's important to her, etc.) and I want to have a sense of her personality. Two or three sentences doesn't do it. I can't speak for others, of course. Dating expert sites all say keep your profiles short. I guess it depends who you want to attract. It won't attract me. I will not even consider writing to someone who doesn't have a picture, and the more pictures, the better. There should always be at least one full body shot. I have abided by this in my own profile. Pictures are important. A woman doesn't have to be beautiful, but she has to be someone I feel is my type. Hairstyle, clothing, and all of that are clues to how much she may be my type. Post Reply