Author	Thread: Help with profile
Admin	Help with profile Posted : 8 Jun, 2016 12:53 PM Hello all the CDFF gentlemen. I have several men that view my profile but no one hardly ever sends a message. Is there something wrong with me or is it my profile. Any help will be greatly appreciated. God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	Help with profile Posted : 8 Jun, 2016 02:28 PM I see nothing wrong with your profile as far as I'm concerned. I've been on here for less than two weeks now, but I've learned from others posting here that the whole "online dating" process is very hit and miss. Just hang in there. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help with profile Posted : 9 Jun, 2016 01:39 PM Remember you asked for suggestions! There is nothing wrong with your profile, you may want to consider how you can improve it: You might want to resize or re-crop your picture. I can't really make out your face. Consider which of your features are the most attractive and make sure your picture shows that. Men are visual creatures. Consider broadening your age range. You don't have to talk to everyone. Are you open to international conversations? Some of my best chat buddies are in far off lands. I almost never hear back from anyone local. I think you may want to add a little more to what you write about yourself. Your statements do not stand out as having spark or creativity. Say what you are saying... but with more detail. "Hanging out" can be replaced with "cooking a home-made meal of beef tips, fresh asparagus, and mountains of mashed potatoes" or whatever. Post Reply
View Profile History	Help with profile Posted : 23 Jun, 2016 05:03 AM If you want honesty, the three problems with your profile is that you are divorced, you have kids, and you need to lose some weight. I know, you cannot undo the fact that you are divorced or that you have children. But you can do something about the weight issue. It's not something that defines you or something that is stuck with you. At least, do mention on your profile that you are committed to work out and exercise. And if I were you, I would put on a very loose and comfortable black dress and take photos with that from an angle that doesn't make me look fat. Perhaps add a colorful had for accent. Pay attention to the background too. If you have a solid color in the background, the attention is on you. However, if you have a nice scenery behind you, people see not only you but the background as well. It divides the attention of the visitors. So, never underestimate the value of a good photo!! :P Post Reply
View Profile History	Help with profile Posted : 23 Jun, 2016 05:04 AM *hat Post Reply
JamesEG View Profile History	Help with profile Posted : 12 Jul, 2016 10:07 PM I see no major problems with profile, snikkers. I think the right person for you could see enough to appeal to them. You provided several interesting and appealing details about yourself. Some potential negatives for you at least with some people could be (1) you live far away from them geographically (2) you are a social drinker and they abstain from alcohol (3) you are divorced and they wonder about what led to it, what you learned from it, etc. , (4) having children is a potential negative with some persons. My closest friends are persons like me, who, for example, abstain from alcoholic beverages. I certainly have friends who are "social drinkers," but my most of my best friends are like me abstainers. But, even among Christians, I am in the minority. I don't see "social drinking," if it is in moderation, as a significant obstacle for you. Divorce could be a bigger factor with some Christians. But there are likely many persons on this site that are divorced. Still, it might be good to explain briefly in a positive way about your divorce, either (1) what led to it, and/or even better (2) what you learned from it, and/or perhaps better yet (3) why you are now ready to move on from it to a new relationship. Lots of divorced men are probably on this site and even never-married single Christians in many cases would consider a serious relationship or marriage with a divorced person who is now on the right path. Having children is a negative with some people, and for better or worse women often end up with custody after divorces. But lots of divorced men and women have children. A divorced man can perhaps better address the role of children in dating than someone like me who is single without children. However, persons may wonder how custody issues, adding a "new dad or mom", etc., will affect a parent-child relationship and a potential second marriage. I think it is important that a prospective mate get along at least reasonably well with your children. Overall, I thought your profile was reasonably well done. Perhaps the biggest problem is that there are not enough persons active on the site, but I don't know. I pray for God's perfect will for you and your family in the future. Post Reply