Author	Thread: Leave her hanging
Admin	Leave her hanging Posted : 24 Sep, 2015 04:43 AM I have a couple of questions 1. Why do men almost immediately ask for personal contacts like phone numbers and email addresses, and when you suggest to them that they wait, they disappear on you? 2. Why do men lead women on, only to leave them hanging? 3. Why do men in their 40's look for girls in their 20's? What is wrong with women in their 30's? Post Reply
View Profile History	Leave her hanging Posted : 7 Oct, 2015 03:07 PM I pose this question to Christian gentlemen on here. I have a question pertaining to this topic, I met a Christian man on here almost a year ago and because our interest were the same after several months I agreed to go offline of this sight and started communicating by phone. He was gracious enough to call me back on his nickel, we would talk for hours about the Lord, our kids, our desire to be married to someone, that would love us as Christ laid out in His Word:) Seems seemed to be going so well all this time, he was in-between jobs for about a month and a half, I had some health issues but, he was very supporting and on board with my natural healing process. A dream come true, so compassionate and understanding, so full of Jesus:) We prayed together in the AM before I went to work, in the evening when I got home, we'd share how our day went, in the PM he was my night time prayer partner. Then 3 weeks ago he dropped a bomb in one of our conversations casually mentioned he had been married 3 times, I was ok with that sorta, but it was the attitude that followed in his divulging such important info. I knew about wife one from the get go, but he made me believe she was the only one, hr said and I quote the other two didn't count I was only married to them for a year and a half each, and they all cheated on me. For the record I never cheated on my 2 husbands no matter how terrible things were. I made a vow before God and that was it. Anyway back to this recent situation after hearing this I swallowed hard, but kept it as a matter of prayer, but the terms of endearment exchanged between he and I were fewer, believe me I was more cautious because one has to wonder if you keep this hidden for almost a year then what other skeletons are you hiding. Plus he would get very angry on the phone when referring to current events etc. Just the littlest things were setting him off. I became scared because my ex was abusive and I've walked on eggshells way to long to go back to that again. In the mean time I lost my job due to some injustices . He gets his and that evening he's asking all kinda questions he should have been asking earlier, do I want him to come down and visit, I ask you this? Months before he was supposed to come down here he has an RV and a concession stand that he built, I had already secured a place for him to stay and had contacted the city to find out what requirements there were for his concession business. Because he was planning on coming down here in September to meet me and my church family, then decided to relocate to a possible job opening, in Tenn. all the while telling me he'd be here during the end of the Christmas holidays, we had talked about marriage numerous times throughout our friendship, which had turned into a very Special online relationship. Now he poses the question to me do you really want me to come down, cautiously now I say yes, in God's time it will be, in His perfect will and way. And from that I get a txt the nxt morning which states Something has happened between us your attitude has changed, you have used Christian lingo to somehow change what relationship I thought we had which leads me to believe that there is someone else:( Gentlemen I propose to you that there has been no one else not a wink in the eye to anyone since we started corresponding a year ago. But with that txt he said God Bless and good bye tonight makes a week of no calls or txt. Everything I shared with him was from a sincere <3 because I have my precious Lord and Savior to answer too. And I just don't believe in lying to anyone. Or being unfaithful to them. So why may I ask you did he leave me hanging. Because gentlemen I was truly the greatest gift God had for his life. I understood what my role was in being a Godly loving wife in every sense of the word, and a caring and loving mother to his children and a help-mate and a prayer partner who would gladly be by his side in the Ministry that God had called us too:) I would appreciate sincere input from Godly gentlemen of where I went wrong in this relationship? Post Reply
View Profile History	Leave her hanging Posted : 7 Oct, 2015 03:32 PM I so would have loved to ask that last question to him, where did I go wrong? I was painfully honest with all my hopes, dreams, desires etc. and the only profile that was sincere had been his after visiting this site off and on for 2/3 yrs. His was the only one worth answering because our Christian interests and Ministry goals were the same. I wish he would have given us a chance to work things out, there were times if I wasn't home exactly at the regular time when I got off work that he would question my where about, Maybe this was a red flag? I knew he had trust issues with all the terrible ways his ex treated him after a long standing affair with another man. The only one I knew about all along. My <3 would break at hearing how she had hurt him and turned there children from him. He was so devastated about her doing that. No one should needs to ever go thru so much shame, and humiliation or abuse like that.:(I wanted to be there to make everything alright in his life, and happy again, and complete again. I wanted to be that good gift God calls me to be to my husband one day Proverbs 18:22. Post Reply
View Profile History	Leave her hanging Posted : 8 Oct, 2015 05:12 PM to the first question, You may of been approached by what is known as a "love scammer" they prefer to communicate off site so their weaseling can't be monitored. In any case, I'd keep your phone number to yourself until you have at least met said person. Giving an email address isn't that big of a deal, but i'd recommend using a secondary email address, its easier to burn the bridge, if you are willing to delete email account if needed. For the most part you are both asking, why are men scum buckets? All i can say say is they are sinners just like women are. Why, do they lead and leave? I'd don't know really, poor communication skills would be my guess. why would guys in their 40s look for women in their 20s? Idiots that are only interested in looks. They can try....but most likely they will fail, I wouldn't be bothered by it, you don't want to date someone that stupid anyway. Where did you go wrong? I have a short attention span, and it took me a while to read your post, but I'd say you went wrong in being to optimistic and trusting, you probably should of asked more questions about his previous relationships, however I wouldn't say the experience was your fault, he kept things from you he should not have, and its not your fault you were in communication with a liar. Post Reply
antoniobradiano View Profile History	Leave her hanging Posted : 20 Feb, 2016 07:01 PM I have a couple of questions 1. Why do men almost immediately ask for personal contacts like phone numbers and email addresses, and when you suggest to them that they wait, they disappear on you? Cuase most will want sex and leave. 2. Why do men lead women on, only to leave them hanging? Sweety Women lead men on as well. Like wanting to know how much money u got etc get me this and be closed.(Basic gold digger). Seen it. They left the guy hangin (no pun) man was at alter she did like that old song. Take the money and run. 3. Why do men in their 40's look for girls in their 20's? What is wrong with women in their 30's? Like women as well. People are human and full of sin. Post Reply