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osol_letse View Profile History	pore over Posted : 19 Aug, 2015 03:16 AM I'm thinking about why some men are saying that sometimes it's good to be bad guys than good because ladies don't like them if they are too good. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	pore over Posted : 21 Aug, 2015 06:22 AM That's been my experience, however, I'm not sure women are actually looking for "bad" or "good" in those cases. They're look for strength/confidence/leadership, and "bad guys" have false strength, assertiveness, and charisma because they're arrogant a-holes, where "good guys" have been emasculated by society and told that they have to be "agreeable" and "nicey-nice", and if they don't cave in to whatever a woman wants, then they're chauvinist pigs. However, it's possible to be strong and confident AND good, that is the mandate for any man following Christ. Know your purpose. Move forward in that purpose. Build your strength. Build your confidence. Here's the hardest part, do NOT let any of that cause you to become arrogant or aggressive. :prayingm: :peace::peace: Post Reply
1mountain View Profile History	pore over Posted : 1 Sep, 2015 11:25 PM @ Mark Yes I think you're right. Has anyone heard about the studies that show that loudmouth people with hot opinions that are wrong will lead groups to their side over people who are actually knowledgeable? It's sad but I have experienced such things at work, where my voice is outvoted because another will talk persuasively and then they find out I war right. Post Reply
Hark View Profile History	pore over Posted : 5 Sep, 2015 10:42 PM I was dating a woman who was just as sweet as can be. She dumped me. I know the last two guys that she dated; and I don't even like to associate with them. I couldn't understand what I was doing wrong. I'm a kind loving person; and I often have trouble competing, for the attention of kind loving women, with guys who are far from kind and loving. Let down again, I sought the council of a very educated lady. I gave her many details about my approach, and how I conduct myself. She told me that I wasn't doing anything wrong. She said that my problem is that I'm too nice; and that is too bad. She told me that many women come from a family with an abusive father; that they want a good man as a husband; but that they somehow relate to the abusive man as the male role; and so the cycle continues. I'll just have to be patient enough to wait for the woman who will accept me for being the best that I can be. I wouldn't want someone to love me for who I an not. Post Reply
lizamari58 View Profile History	pore over Posted : 14 Sep, 2015 10:29 PM @ Hark....Blessed is the lady who wins your heart. I've been a single parent half of my life because they say...." I was too nice ...too devoted and too loving " that my ex thought that whatever I did was a routine and saw nothing else special. I see many" bad women " out there who abuse their husbands verbally, who are lazy Mom's, who gamble and live in the material world....and yet their husbands remained faithful. These ladies told me....."This is how you keep a man .They want to be challenged . Being so nice and devoted wife to him is boring." Maybe...same story goes with the women looking for bad guys? I lost my husband being too nice.... but that is what and who I am. If ever I find a new love...am sure will do the same. Post Reply
View Profile History	pore over Posted : 15 Sep, 2015 02:31 AM I don't think you were to good...the simplicity of it is s this..... When we have equal spirits there is NO problem, because each will realize and exercise love....true love. Love is an action and most importantly...A CHOICE!....these ppl who choose "BAD" over "Good"....are clearly not of us!....we know good, and we love good...bad intales...unfaithful, mean, abusive, untrustworthy, a liar, angry, disobedient deceptive etc.....now if someone feels lead to someone like that!!....and leaves me....:waving: Bye bye!:nahnah:.....happy to see them go! They are never at peace in the end....adulterers. Post Reply
osol_letse View Profile History	pore over Posted : 18 Sep, 2015 12:58 AM i think for me.. "bad guy" "good guy" are Post Reply
antoniobradiano View Profile History	pore over Posted : 20 Feb, 2016 07:08 PM Sweety that good guy that wants to be the bad is like the suicider who never kills themselvs. Attention. The bad guy doesnt wonder. Like Augustine helped the person who wondered if they was saved. He told the dounting person If you wondered then that was the work of the HolySpirit. The Sinner doesnt question. Post Reply
osol_letse View Profile History	pore over Posted : 19 Nov, 2016 01:58 AM uhmmm.wondering how one can say a man is good or bad..whats the basis of those..and how can bad guy be good as partners? Post Reply