Author	Thread: What is the message a woman should get from a man when?
Admin	What is the message a woman should get from a man when? Posted : 10 Aug, 2015 10:11 PM Hi, Okay, so here goes nothing. Over the years I have failed miserably I guess at picking up on the hints of guys. Now, I had no problem picking up the sexual tension and flirting but taking note of appropriate flirting in a church related setting I missed. Either that or I am completely unattractive to the opposite sex. Over the years I would like guys who were friendly and when I couldn't take the wondering if they liked me and would say something like I am interested in you, they would run like I had the plague. I have had my heart broken so many times because no man of integrity ever really wanted to date me - or admit that they did. I said all that to give you the preface for what I am about to tell you. I am not dumb. I know that a lot of men base their selection of a woman they wish to date on physical appearance. I have also made not of that there are men attracted to bigger women like myself. Okay, so after having yet another man tell me he wanted to be just my friend I had closed ranks and was licking my wounds so to speak. There was a man at my church who behaved in such a way that it began to be obvious to others that he was being VERY friendly. I tried to ignore it. I tried to pretend he was just a nice guy being friendly but over time I couldn't deny his behavior any longer. After 3 years (and I am not getting any younger) I thought the dancing around each other had gone on long enough so I said to him the stuff I knew about him I liked and I would like to get to know more. Well, you can guess - he freaked out and has avoided me like I have cooties. Here is a list of a few of the things he did that got my notice (and the notice of others): He saved me seats in his section (he is an usher at my church) every Sunday for over a year. He watched me come in and leave the building He asked me to attend a recital of a mutual friend (she is a piano tutor) and in so doing sat so close to me on the couch, even though it is a 7 foot long sofa and I was the only one sitting on it, that I felt the seam of his jeans through my skirt on my thigh (this got a lot of other peoples attention) He went out and hunted me a deer (my landlord is a master butcher and has been doing it for over 50 years) drove 1 hour and 15 minutes out of his way to bring it to me and then went on to his parents He would go out of his way to tell me I looked nice sometimes as many as 3 times on a Sunday. I would like a man to tell me how I was supposed to interpret this behavior. This doesn't bring to account the times he would seat me directly in front of him during the service and would pick up anything I dropped. Or the winks (in real life not virtual ones) and touches he did. Could someone help me to know what I am doing wrong? I haven't dated seriously very many men in my life and I never married. So I figure I am doing something wrong. Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	What is the message a woman should get from a man when? Posted : 13 Aug, 2015 01:27 PM go figure men. I can't! However, you have a very pretty face, and look clean and attractive. Maybe men have a "chaser instint" and telling them you like them puts them on the spot; who knows? Men, advise please. Post Reply
R123 View Profile History	What is the message a woman should get from a man when? Posted : 14 Aug, 2015 03:36 PM He sounds a little strange (sitting far too close etc) and a bit controlling - he saved you a seat, which appeared like a kindness but it meant you sat where he wanted you to sit. He was maybe quite happy at the level of giving you compliments and attention but when you tried to move it on a stage he probably felt like had lost control - so he 'ran away', thus revealing more of his true personality. Post Reply
View Profile History	What is the message a woman should get from a man when? Posted : 14 Aug, 2015 11:35 PM He sounds like he has issues, there is probably something he is just plain not telling you. Post Reply
Hark View Profile History	What is the message a woman should get from a man when? Posted : 5 Sep, 2015 11:33 PM I'm clueless. If I had invested that much time trying to get a woman's attention; I wouldn't throw it all away when it finally started to pay off. Most guys really aren't very complicated. I'm kind of shy; and I have trouble asking for a chance; but if she offers me a chance; she made it easy for me. I think that Rambo might be right. This one might have problems. Post Reply