Firstly, trust is earned, not bestowed. It's based on history. In a Biblical context, we learn that we can trust God because of His history in dealing with His people, bringing them in baby steps closer to Him. In a relationship, whether Platonic or romantic, it starts with, "I trust that if I leave my wallet on the table you won't root through it and steal my credit card." Trust builds as we see evidence of the other person's integrity and see that the other person's words and actions are one and the same.
In the context of an online relationship, I find it difficult to say I "know" someone and "trust" them without having met them. There's only a sense of familiarity and knowing some things about them before meeting with that other person. I can only talk about myself in this context, though. Everyone else may have totally different feelings about this.
When you have true trust, you don't feel the need, let alone the temptation to check their contacts on their phone. You don't question when they have to postpone a date. Real trust doesn't check the veracity of the story, and real trust is shared mutually on both sides of the relationship. I'm sure I missed some things in there, but hopefully this gives some foundation from which to build a good discussion.
The definition of trust is the willingness to commit something into another's care whether it be physical or emotional. Trust is easily lost, hard to earn and even harder to regain. One of the desired attributes a man cherishes from a Proverbs 31 woman is the, husband's heart doth safely trust in her that he have no spoil and she will do him good and no evil all the days of "her" life.
The chapter says that the proverbs woman is very hard to find and therefore her value is far greater than rubies and gold, but in today's society with the no fault divorce law, and with 80% of the divorce being the woman's decision, men have even a greater challenge and difficulty in finding a woman that is worth the risk. I mean, really, in this day and age, because of the liberal ideology, it has caused men to be cautious of all women, unfairly forcing proverbs 31 women to prove their "trustworthiness" before recognizing and respecting them as the proverbs 31 women that they know they are. But, once that trust is gained or earned, his heart safely trusts in her until she gives him reason not to because of harm or emotional hurt. So, I am sure a woman can see how important it is to protect this trust once it is earned. It may very well be the cornerstone of every loving marriage relationship.
I couldn't disagree more Covenant it is unilaterally given by the trusting party. Once lost it can never be earned again, the only thing that can restore it is the trusting person deciding to give it once more. Much like respect and love there is nothing that can earn it.
All my life I have at times attempted to earn the respect of my father. All my life he has belittled my accomplishments and rare indeed are the times he has admired a single thing I have done. I could build a space capsule and fly to Mars or discover cold fusion and he would find ways to pick fault with my accomplishments. No matter what I do that might earn respect falls on blind eyes and deaf ears, and until he decides to give respect he won't respect me.
Trust is a recognition of love in a way. If you know another loves you you trust them to do what's best for you. If you know God loves you, in that state of giving trust you are looking forward for what new good gift God has in store, not looking forward awaiting the next calamity in store. 'for if you in your imperfect state would not if your child asked for a fish, give him a snake; how much more perfect is God in giving out blessings?'
:waving:...Interesting...If I may chim in also...:glow:
Trust is Freely Given...as the LORD Freely gave All His Creation into the Hands and Care of Adam...HE Trusted Adam...HE Loved Adam...and HE made a clear Way for us to be Redeemed in Trust which to me is part of Faith in HIS Grace...
After trust is broken...it is a difficult matter to resolve...and is best to give all Trust matters to our Creator for if we can not Trust Him in Everything...how can we trust Anything or Anyone...espically if the Trust has been broken....
