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Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 17 Feb, 2015 07:29 PM Guys, after confirming that you are in a courtship with that special someone, roughly how long would it take before you began showing outward affection, eg. holding hands, embracing or kissing in public, etc. I know it's a mutual decision but from what I've gathered, myself included, most women would probably choose to follow their bow's lead. I'm still curious however about what the brothers think(smile)! Post Reply
HoosierHomeschooler View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 19 Feb, 2015 05:28 AM Of course it's mutual, but if she and I thought alike, holding hands frequently would start by the time we were using the "courtship" term. Putting an arm around her when sitting together probably would too. Kisses ... might well wait until the wedding kiss. Or not. I'm not sure. I will be very cautious of hugs. I know and miss the feeling of a woman in my arms and, having been married 14 years, formed habits of some pretty intimate hugs. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 20 Feb, 2015 10:38 AM Hoosierhomeschooler, my exact sentiment! Being on the same level after mutually deciding that we're an "item", makes all the natural responses to inevitable displays of outward affection, simpler and sweeter(smile)! I'm overall a very affectionate person, so the need to express that with that special someone, who I pray feels the same, will probably be high on my list of requirements(smile)! Just saying... But honestly, taking things one day and one step...in God's time, will ultimately be the reward waited upon in drawing nearer to that anticipated union and prayerfully wedding night! Post Reply
View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 4 Mar, 2015 07:06 PM Being quite an affectionate guy I enjoy the intimacy of holding hands etc and wouldn't see any problem with that as soon as a serious courtship began, I think it is all part of proper bonding. However, I guess it is important to keep things in a balance, if there is strong physical "chemistry" then I guess there could be a point where affection could become quite passionate, which could lead to problems. I really think each person is different, their past experiences will probably determine to some extent how emotionally available they are at the beginning of a relationship. For me? I don't see any issue with being affectionate so long as it is the right time and doesn't go too far. I want to love and respect my future wife, and the Lord has shown me very clearly that the degree to which I respect and honor her body, her dignity, and her value as a Christian woman will directly determine the quality of our future together. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 4 Mar, 2015 09:05 PM DL77...thank you(smile)! You've shown that you're in that dwindling percentile of men who do truly honor and respect the moral responsibility of dealing with the opposite sex, but even more importantly...your profession of faith, belief and trust in how The Lord would want you to conduct yourself in a relationship of the heart...well let's just say...bravo and God's blessings!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 4 Mar, 2015 11:00 PM DL77 I am truly impressed with the thoughts you have penned down. It is indeed a joy to learn that there are still man like you out there in the world who respects and honour woman .The word of God says that women are equal heirs in the kingdom of God as written in 1 Peter 3:7b. It takes a man with much experience in understanding the ups and downs of life to be able to make such a statement. Kudos to you and God Bless you.. Post Reply
View Profile History	Display of affection... Posted : 5 Mar, 2015 08:17 PM Thank you for your kind words, but I do want to stress that I have made mistakes in the past and have had to learn some very hard lessons. But my experiences have shown me like nothing else can that the way of the Lord on these issues is the only way. When we deviate from His plan for love and follow our own "heart" or desires, things can get very difficult indeed. My last relationship taught me many of these hard lessons, I was unevenly yoked with an unbeliever and had a naive belief that my love for her could "save" her. This is not only foolish, it is actually an affront to the Cross, Jesus himself saves an individual. This situation was not good for her and it was disastrous for me, the inevitable heartache that followed was the hardest lesson I have endured so far. But I believe these experiences combined with the awesome grace of God have made me a better man, and I feel like I have much deeper understanding of the intentions the Lord has for marriage. Spiritual compatibility is a must, chemistry is nice, but it can lead to trouble without proper spiritual compatibility. Daniel Post Reply