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is it wrong if i contacted a man first?
Posted : 25 Jan, 2015 03:13 PM

I have contacted many nice great Christian men here but only 3 or 5 who respond me back, make me wondering, are there something wrong with me my profile lol:rolleyes::glow:

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Posted : 27 Jan, 2015 02:08 AM

A woman contacting a man first on this site is not wrong. But it may not be practical either. A woman contacting

a man first - seems to project "desperation" or maybe even fishing/spamming to see who will bite.



Suggestions? Network. Perhaps, try the chat rooms on this site. Make friends. Connect. Be nice to everyone. Maybe even change your profile to present that you are happy and content while still single. People are usually attracted to people who are happy.



This also might help --> http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/forum/forum_details.php?topic_id=21096&forum_sub_cat_id=11

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is it wrong if i contacted a man first?
Posted : 27 Jan, 2015 02:08 AM

A woman contacting a man first on this site is not wrong. But it may not be practical either. A woman contacting

a man first - seems to project "desperation" or maybe even fishing/spamming to see who will bite.



Suggestions? Network. Perhaps, try the chat rooms on this site. Make friends. Connect. Be nice to everyone. Maybe even change your profile to present that you are happy and content while still single. People are usually attracted to people who are happy.



This also might help --> http://www.christiandatingforfree.com/forum/forum_details.php?topic_id=21096&forum_sub_cat_id=11

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is it wrong if i contacted a man first?
Posted : 27 Jan, 2015 06:11 PM

Thanks Grrr for your nice advice, Be blessed you!!

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Posted : 27 Jan, 2015 08:21 PM

uhmmm...

bunches of people here and packs of personality too

with differences in the set of values they believe in...

for me..there's nothing wrong with contacting a guy first..we are free to do cause u not commit sin in doing such.. :D

if they not reply .. its fine... if they do..be a friend... :)

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Posted : 28 Jan, 2015 10:18 AM

It's not whether the woman talks first that matters it's how, as long as you don't try to bulldoze the poor fellow into a relationship/friendship from the word go you should be fine. Some men DO have undue paranoia and/or ego issues though and want the be "the hunter".

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Posted : 28 Jan, 2015 10:39 AM

Hi sis Osol Letse

I tried to be always friendly to anybody here and answer the emails but many times i got wondering, why they not answered me mostly , even i want to heard ..at least... said "sorry we are not match ", it is fine for me then never respond, i even tried to emails 2 or 3 times for some guy to see their reaction if they were kind to respond or not , but i found out were zero so i thought they were just fake Christian who be pretender to looks like a great Christian men :ribbit:

Anyway..Thank you for your supporting words!

Stay blessed! :angel:

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Posted : 29 Jan, 2015 06:01 PM

girl sis..



sorry to be lurking in and replying this post for guys... but i love sharing my opinion tho...its the way i hang myself out.....:D forum post is my most hang out place..heheehe..





sis we can't let people do what our expectations are from them. sorry to say this, but sometimes.. i got the feeling that they may have important stuff to do than replying to messages in their inbox... and maybe some may not be polite the way we expect them to be..and we can't change them the way they are....

hope this would help u... :)

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Posted : 31 Jan, 2015 11:19 PM

Thanks Rambo919

I am a friendly woman and i known how to comunicated well to men even sometimes i like to flirt them to get attention but made me wonder that they not respond me att all mostly, so my question is, is it wrong to flirt a guy in first email? :glow::peace:

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Posted : 1 Feb, 2015 10:48 AM

girl fullofgrace:

Can you show me in Gods Holy Word where flirting is a godly virtue? Why ask a man when you can go directly to the heart of God through his word, the Bible?



You do study and meditate on God word dont you?

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Posted : 1 Feb, 2015 08:22 PM

full of grace...sis..



like ur account name here.. in cdff..



how i wish..ur name had truly sink in urself...



for i find flirting a different word with being friendly..

flirting is a common attribute we have as heterosexual beings... and we use this weapon to get attention from the opposite sex...well in the world of flirtations, its ok to have this but for a christian..and i wud say..its kind of a desperate move on our part to have such recourse.. i believe that we will rely on God for the provision of our life partner...i think.. its good that we wud be more friendly than flirtatious.....

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