Author	Thread: Baggage
samijadesnana View Profile History	Baggage Posted : 23 May, 2009 02:21 PM For you fellas out there I have a sincere question. What does it mean when you say you're looking for a lady without a whole lot of baggage? I mean this mostly for the over 40 group. Post Reply
View Profile History	Baggage Posted : 23 May, 2009 03:37 PM dear sam , its kinda like youre still carrying alot of past junk with you even now from your past relationships and hurts.. hangups etc.. and its not speakin of children ..least not for me it aint.. cause younguns aint baggage in my book.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Baggage Posted : 25 May, 2009 10:54 PM It means "im perfect and i expect you to be too" or "im ready for a relationship but im not willing to accept all the responsibilities that go with it!" And there are no real men in this world that use that expression only little boys. Post Reply
Seuss View Profile History	Baggage Posted : 6 Jun, 2009 12:18 PM Regarding baggage; to me it's not real if a man cannot accept a woman when she has baggage. Did you ever think that maybe she is working thru it, and trying to get past it? No one is truly perfect except God. We all have baggage. No one is better than the next. Love is acceptance and grace. Post Reply
tristan07 View Profile History	Baggage Posted : 6 Jun, 2009 01:42 PM It's one thing to have *baggage* or past issues in your life and be well adjusted and working though that and it's another thing to be all off kilter and staggering under the weight of the past. You can tell how well a person is past the past by how often they let it noticably affect them, or how often they reffer back to it. If it is such a problem that it overlaps into the lives of the people around them, then it really has not been dealt with. Now you can be the person to help them through it, if you know how. Or you can point it out and ask them to get help or take the time to deal with it and give them a time line you feel would be realistic to do so before moving on. But the worst thing you can do is point it out over and over and not be part of the solution. - Alex Post Reply
WHISPERRED110AC View Profile History	Baggage Posted : 7 Jun, 2009 06:41 PM I think you answer is in your question i.e. "Baggage". It is such a vague word that even us guys really don't know its' specifics. It will probably mean as many things as there are guys. It could mean anything from cracked nails to alien abductions. Personally I believe us 'guys' are trying to say in our own subtle way: "please don't complicate my life". It may be subconcious or it may be deliberate but it's there. I can recall myself saying it on occassion, and thinking back, I really had no concrete idea of waht I was talking about. Best thing to do is to pose/confront the individual who expresses such a remark to explain or clarify what they mean just as you have done here. Hope this shed a little light or at least replaced the batteries in the flashlight. God Bless. David Post Reply