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Why men change their attitude?
Posted : 29 Aug, 2014 11:19 AM

When a man pursue woman's heart, they go to the stars to give her, the moon sun, and the stars. Men show their best face, so sweet, kind, good manners...



But when women say "yes" men change their attitude, you don't fight for her heart anymore. So what's the deal? :rolleyes:

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Posted : 29 Aug, 2014 01:03 PM

Cave man hunt - he find prey - knock head with club - drag back to cave ------- Work done! I'm teasing!



I really don't know the answer but think once she says yes we guys (not all) do tend to get complacent n forget about stirring the pot, stoke the fire n fan the flames, continue doing those little romantic things that won her over to remind her how much we care. I had been guilty of it in the past too and boy did I hear about it! lol

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Posted : 29 Aug, 2014 01:25 PM

LOL, Pops!



But it's largely true, and not just of men. It's easy to take one another for granted and stop trying so hard to please if one thinks the relationship is secure.



The fact of the matter is that every relationship is fluid and can be helped or damaged by the was in which we relate to one another.

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Posted : 29 Aug, 2014 05:50 PM

READ THIS ARTICLE ALL THE WAY TO THE END, AND IT WILL EXPLAIN EVERYTHING :



www.lovepanky.com/women/dating-men-tips-for-women/how-men-fall-in-love-stages-of-love

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Posted : 2 Sep, 2014 08:35 PM

Because he gets lazy and starts taking her for granted. As one person put it so well in his post, "Caveman hunt ..."



Women tend to take that very good behavior displayed by her man at the beginning of a relationship for granted. Socially, men are geared toward winning things or getting things. He "won" your affection. Buzz! Wrong behavior. He "earned" your affection, and he must continue to do so. Learn to encourage that very good behavior instead of just accepting it. Interact with your man more. He's built differently than you socially, but he's not a complete buffoon (I hope).



Our actions, repeated over time tend to become habit. I'm not suggesting you get him in the habit of bringing you flowers every week, because then it becomes a meaningless gesture. Get him in the habit of thinking about you and continuing to earn your affections. Text him, email him, keep in contact with him through his gadgets. Make it a game, an adventure, a quest. Keep him in "hunting for you" mode.



And you have to keep up your side, too. Remember all the stuff you did to encourage him in the beginning? The nails, the makeup, the hair, looking like a million dollars? All that stuff made him feel like the luckiest man alive because he had you. Don't slack off. He earned your affections, but you earned his as well, cavewoman

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Posted : 3 Sep, 2014 08:23 AM

Please forgive my intrusion on this "ask a guy's" thread OP, but.......you go MickeyNassau!!! I mean, that was really well said!!! If most brothers really felt that way........God's blessings.

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Posted : 3 Sep, 2014 08:59 AM

The Lord God did not tell Adam to earn Eve's affections. He did not tell Eve that she should be worshiped, or an object of man's affection, nor did He make Eve's happiness the measure by which a Adam's worth was to be determined. Women will always be subordinate to men, in the natural world. Feminism has warped even Christians' view of the relationship between a man and a woman.



Genesis 2:22

And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.



Genesis 3:16

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.



A man and his wife should desire to please each other. This desire cannot and should not be earned.

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Posted : 3 Sep, 2014 07:03 PM

Here I go again, but sorry Kev2143......maybe in your world!



If you think that ANY women in this day and time, will not want to feel appreciated, respected and that their love is willingly and mutually reciprocated by a potential mate or spouse, you've got another thing coming! I'll even go as far as to say that the "earning" of affection and adoration should be equally and exclusively agreed upon by both parties! So how a couple shows their affections towards one another.....news flash my brother, is their own personal choice and decision!!! No one has the right to dictate or judge otherwise!



Honestly, I'll take that way of relating and loving over any other way that's out there!!! Sorry I'm just the emotional type.....I guess that's what you'll expect from a "woman"(smile)! Just speaking my heart........Gods blessings.

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Posted : 3 Sep, 2014 08:05 PM

Worship? No.



Honor? Yes. Peter's word "honor" he uses for wives is the same "honor" he uses for kings.



Paul speaks of the married person seeking to please his or her spouse -- as a natural and proper thing. Not that we should do anything SINFUL to please a spouse, but each pleasing the other IS to be part of the relationship.



Now, while the wife's ongoing need is for that affection (largely), the husband's ongoing need is for respect (largely). That gets to the difference in roles, particularly after the Fall. I'm absolutely a believer in the doctrine that the wife is to obey her husband. But to make that submission a joyful thing, the husband needs to continue his affection to the his wife.

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Posted : 3 Sep, 2014 09:08 PM

Right on mister Mickey. Something I must point out to everyone here though is love is never earned and can never be. We Christians most of all should know that. We didn't earn God's love either, it was a gift. Your love or that of someone else to you is a gift given without reason. All that stuff the guy and gal do in the beginning is to entice each other's love. There's no way to earn something that is priceless.

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Posted : 4 Sep, 2014 09:26 AM

Loving your wife should be as natural and effortless as breathing or eating. Sure, you can hold your breath or skip meals, but do it for too long and death is certain.



Dont treat your wife with affection and it will kill the relationship.

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