Author	Thread: Online dating
Admin	Online dating Posted : 19 May, 2014 09:39 AM I am very thankful for free, online, Christian dating websites like this one. There seems to be some nice people here, and then, there are all the others. I have no doubt, you've all gotten messages from 'the others'. Catfish, or spammers, or liars; whatever you want to call them, they are abundant everywhere, looking to get to know you better, then take advantage of you, usually financially. Christiandatingforfree is helpful because they'll delete false profiles, but some people are very good at being deceptive. What are ways you (male or female) handle these people? How do you know someone is lying or telling the truth about who they are? One thing I've done is offer a background check of myself, and then ask for theirs. I've never had to actually do a background check yet, as some I've asked were agreeable and understanding. I assumed they were honest. Others I've asked, have just disappeared. For those, I assumed they were dishonest. But, you know what they say about assuming?! Just wanted to get a take on what others are doing about this problem. Thanks in advance for your input. Post Reply
View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 19 May, 2014 07:05 PM I haven't had to ask for a background check yet (though at some point I might). What I do: (1) Check out the profile. Look at the pictures (if there is more than one) carefully to see if they look canned (or if they look like different people). (2) I compare the writing on the profile to the writing on the email. Usually, if they are spammers, the writing styles are different. (3) Refuse to give out my phone number or private email address until I've had extensive communication with someone on this site. So far, that's worked for me. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 19 May, 2014 07:53 PM Some scammers actually read these forums, so let's be very careful what we divulge here. Post Reply
View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 19 May, 2014 09:30 PM I have read a book that was written for women for how to marry rich guys. I read the book so I would know all the dirty secrets in case someone tried them on me. Most of the fake people online are really stupid. So far every scammer I have talked to has been a plain idiot. These people are very far from being professional! First of all, a woman's willingness and eagerness to talk to a man is inversely proportional to her looks. If she is willing to respond quickly and eagerly, that's because she doesn't have 5-star looks. If she does, then she is fake. What these scammers do often is they upload the picture of a beautiful girl, and then this girl suddenly becomes very interested in you. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 19 May, 2014 10:39 PM alive774 wants to marry a rich guy :laugh: Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 20 May, 2014 04:12 PM NRSV1953, it's interesting you mentioned your concerns regarding being discrete when share info here! I say that because Friendly1's profile has been deleted! I've never really been one to believe in "coincidences".......makes you wonder though, huh?! Post Reply
View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 20 May, 2014 04:40 PM Hahahaha! He was a fake person looking for advice. LOL :) Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 20 May, 2014 07:24 PM I have seen this happen more than once! Let this be a lesson to us that not everyone on the Forums is 'legit.' Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 28 May, 2014 12:58 AM And not everyone on a Christian site is actually a Christian. Of course, Christians and scammers are polar opposites. Post Reply
samohito View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 4 Jun, 2014 09:09 PM sometimes i was doubtful on the online dating, because i don't really know them. but some friends met their soul mate thru online dating. I just let it flow, and not expect so much thru online dating. If I'm lucky meet a nice guy, i thank God, if not, maybe have to wait the right time. Post Reply
Jillybeanhk View Profile History	Online dating Posted : 5 Jun, 2014 08:27 AM I have recently asked that anyone who wants to talk to me must be prepared to do so on Skype or other webcam program so you can see they are the person in the photo. That usually scares the scammers off right away or they say they are willing but their webcam is not working. I just tell them to contact me again when it is. You can be sure if they are a scammer they never will. It's pretty easy to pick a scammer as their English or spelling is bad. They also have set phrases they use (which I won't divulge in case one of them is reading this) but it helps me know they are probably a scammer. They also always come on so strong right from the first email. No normal person does that. Post Reply