Author	Thread: Match Making...
Admin	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 06:12 AM I need your opinion....both from ladies and guys if possible.... Here goes... A lady friend of mine whom we fellowship together has been hinting(according to me i.e) that she likes a certain guy in church. Since we all three(my lady friend, the guy and i) are in leadership, i opted to suggest to the guy that he could be a good match for the lady. Shock on me.... :-( The guy was so opposed to the idea i even felt really bad! Apparently,he said that the lady was not his 'type'....and that he had never thought of courting her! Now the problem.... After the guy listened to my explanations, he asked me why i had not thought i would be a good match for him. So now, am asking myself... Why could he not take my advice and not think anything more to it? Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 06:50 AM Tends to be best not to pry into aversion, if he wanted to provide details he would have. Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 07:36 AM Thought i was helping. I would not have had a problem if he had said that he was not interested and left it at that. I have learnt my lesson. Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 07:48 AM This probably isn't what you want to hear, but it needs to be said. This problem is all of your own making. You put yourself across as a conjecture fueled busybody and a hypocrite. You "assumed" that your lady friend liked a guy in church, did it not occur to you to ask her outright? Even if your guesswork is proven to be correct, you should have allowed her to make her feelings known in her own way and her own time.. who made you matchmaker? You would also do well to consider your own hypocrisy. You say this guy should take your advice by thinking nothing more about it? How can you expect him to do that when you aren't even following your own advice? You created this situation and now you're here disseminating it to others. If I may make a suggestion? Apologise to those involved and put this mistake behind you. Let it be a lesson learnt. God bless. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 10:17 AM Sevendust, I'm going to piggy back on your wise consul! Just being the "saintly" advocate........if I'm not mistaken OP, you mentioned that your male friend said why was it not said by you of possibly being a match for him! Ummmmm that's interesting because it sounds as if this male friend might have all along been interested in you(smile)! With already a tense situation, how are you going to address this additional problem? Do you have any interest in this gentleman? Just curious.......... Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 12:20 PM Sevendust....i will admit that i started it all....and i think it came out all wrong...plus i did apologize at the end of the conversation. I will have to clear the air come sunday when i see him. Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 12:43 PM #HisJoyMyPeace.....well...it's all a mess. I am even scared of facing him on Sunday(The conversation was o ver the phone). About him being interested....i may not know. There was a time he used to call...and he would tell me that he was getting tired of being single. So later, i thought maybe if i told him my friend was interested then he would try his luck. But i think i should have kept it to myself :-( By the way....he actually seemed amused by my suggestion....it was irritating. Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 9 May, 2014 01:53 PM Hopefullilly, people don't generally assume that innocence and goodness are the main driving force behind one's intentions.. You're not entirely at fault. The days are evil; most people are observing the actions of others through a very dark looking glass. You've apologised to the guy at church, now the onus is on him, as your brother in Christ, to swiftly forgive you. It's quite possible that some long-term good can come from your minor mishap. You'll do what you can to rectify the situation, I respect you for that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Match Making... Posted : 10 May, 2014 12:27 AM Thanks Sevendust. I have learnt my lesson....and i sure will not try it again. Post Reply