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Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 17 Apr, 2014 04:09 PM .....you've started courting a women whose not only a Christian but she's beautiful, intelligent, funny, has a heart to serve and is crazy about you(smile)! You've spent a great deal of time getting to know her and now you both believe it's time to meet each others families. Over time, in meeting most of her immediate and extended family, you were introduced to all but one of her sisters, who lived abroad. Everything is going fairly well between you two, but you are starting to see minor cracks in her character that gives you pause, but aren't serious enough to be deal breakers. In the meantime you finally get to meet the sister you haven't yet, whose come home to live permanently. When meeting her, there is an incredible attraction between the two of you that is undeniable!! She too is single, a Christian, a stunning beauty and incredibly intelligent! But of course out of respect for sister #1, you both keep your desires under rap! Sadly in time, the relationship between you and sister #1 begins to wane and you've mutually decided to call off the courtship. Could or would you now feel "comfortable" possibly pursuing the other sister, now that the opportunity has presented itself? How would you both, if you've decided to engage one another, present this to sister#1, keeping her feelings from being hurt? Would you be concerned about what the sister's family thinks about you? Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 17 Apr, 2014 08:13 PM after getting that far with sister #1 and breaking it off? sister #2 = no go. Same goes for sister #1's close friends in some cases. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 18 Apr, 2014 06:45 AM CG....your level of integrity regarding this scenario is refreshing(smile)! Thanks' for sharing your personal insight! Be blessed. Post Reply
View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 18 Apr, 2014 09:51 PM Good question there, and I will give my answers based on some things I consider an observation. When a man is courting a lady, he should know that she is not the most beautiful or best ever lady out there at all; same applies to sisters too anyway. The fact that he is attracted to his lady does not mean that he won't be hit by attraction to any other lady out there (what I will call covert/subtle lust), and that is where many of us are missing it, and the society has taken things far, calling it "crush or fantasy". Our problem in this present day world is lack of self-discipline, and the devil is capitalizing on that a lot, through different media outlet one can ever imagine; quite sad that some of our Christian brethren are falling for the trap too. When a brother and a sister get committed to a courtship, they should be able to lock down their minds away from any other lady; no matter the degree of beauty she may possess. This is the bedrock of discipline. He chose the lady above all others and that choice will surely be questioned by the influx of bevy of beauties that may come around him. The onus is now on the man to affirm his choice by saying "I have chosen this sister and nothing is gonna make me change that decision I have made." This will surely guide him whenever the challenge of lust comes around. Romans 12:1-2 comes to mind here, same as Proverbs 5:17-20 (read from the Amplified Bible). That established, majority of break-ups in courtship we have in this age is as a result of indiscipline and indecisiveness in our choice(s) to stay true to one thing we have chosen; thus succumbing to the enemy's wiles of launching "covert lust" attack against us - it's happening in the church too these days. Over to the question of the topic, the answer is a big capital "NO", It's gonna cause a lot of damage to the man, and the family of the lady too, as the 2 ladies involved will never be on the same page again (same goes for the case of 2 friends too). Post Reply
View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 21 Apr, 2014 08:00 AM Patience is a weapon that forces deception to reveal it self. If after time i realized that the long term potential of a relationship was basically 'nill'. I need to let the woman know that and back off. Once you're in that courting phase - the dynamics of the relationship have permanently changed. Trying to role it back is only going to cause grief. Post Reply
View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 23 Apr, 2014 08:24 PM considering the true human condition, considering two females likes me? they sister's ? considering the way? considering big brother Jacob? what would i really honestly do? woot!woot! yea! yea! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 24 Apr, 2014 10:29 AM My brother Amstel.....your concerns regarding similar, present day issues being played out in the church, is warranted!! There is a great deal of temptation that believers face daily, but to think that when in the company of other saints, it would be at least minimum.......ummmmm go figure!! Be blessed! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 24 Apr, 2014 10:30 AM Wykd1.........:ROFL:!!! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What would you do if....... Posted : 24 Apr, 2014 10:36 AM Dke211.....thank you child of God for sharing! The Lord did say that we who believe should always try and guard our hearts! Stay blessed. Post Reply