Author	Thread: Similarities or Opposites?
Admin	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 4 Feb, 2014 08:50 PM For a lasting marriage relationship is it better to be matched with someone who is your opposite in decisions and behaviors? Opposities attract and they could have more fights. Or would it be better to be matched with someone who shares more similarities and some differences? The proverbial soulmate. Is a person who shares more similarities only able to fill a spot as a friend? What is a good indicator that a girl is no longer considered a friend or that she is seen in a different light a dateable light? Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 6 Feb, 2014 11:57 PM I think when it comes to relationships,its good to be with someone that you have similarities otherwise you will be always disagreeing which is not healthy for a relationship. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 7 Feb, 2014 03:29 AM Greetings ladies! I hope you don't mind our replies blb since you've meant this for guys not ladies. With relationships there aren't guarantees. To a certain point opposite does attract, to a certain point again one can be better of attracted to a fellow of his/her own kind. I don't think there's a formular in how relationships work, its a question of tolerance with both parties differences and ensuring that your difference work better in complementing your uniqueness than threatening the relationship. Could really be wrong dear, what's what I think. Post Reply
View Profile History	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 9 Feb, 2014 09:46 PM Thank you ladies for having a discussion with me. I really think there should be a mixture of these two items especially to be equally yoked in faith values with differences as to individual preferences and reactions to people, stimuli (environments), ways of thinking (resolver or practical thinker), and some different goals and hobbies to name a few. Like a question on the TV show, Lets Ask America, would most guys really want to join his girl in learning how to make a craft project? Post Reply
dunravin View Profile History	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 9 Feb, 2014 10:39 PM I am a carpenter and as a hobby I carve bone into shape and form with special significance attached spiritually to each form I create...This means that my hands get cut and bruised...and sometimes hurt...but it is a passion...for me...So in answer to your question the opposite question must be posited...would any women really want to carve bone with the resultant broken nails cuts and scratches...maybe one...maybe even two...but yes I would certainly share in my womans' craft projects ...just as a matter of sharing quality time together. Post Reply
View Profile History	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 10 Feb, 2014 11:51 PM I can only speak for myself. Here's some more backstory about me to build up to my answer. Although a couple of my friends would feel the same. I would also describe myself as a rustic woman, I am not a girly-girl. I can and do wear dresses, although my favorite "dress" is a pair of jeans. I prefer a natural nail color or a french manicure color to fake nails. I tend to keep my nails on the short side and not past the tip of my fingers, once one becomes chipped or broken, they all get cut short again. My hands already have scars from various activities and one from a broken water facuet at a horse barn. What's one or two more scars? But more importantly what are the pros and cons to being properly equipped with a pair of gloves to help prevent such things? I already have an interest in working with wood for creating objects. I have seen people who make beautiful objects out of deer antlers-bone and they were typically with a Native American theme - something that speaks to me. One of my uncles is a carpenter and creats well made furniture. I am the daughter of a diesel mechanic and spent much of my youth watching him work in his shop. I have used his drill press, his band saw, his grinder-sharpener for tools and I feel more comfortable in that kind of environment than inside slaving away at dishes and laundry. I have learned how to shoot a rifle similarly made to militay grade rifles. I have been skeet shooting and short/long range shooting. I have picked up and shot a simple bow and arrow and I would like to learn more and learn how to shoot a compound bow and arrow. I would enjoy the challenge of working out at a gym with my man. How much can I safely do and how can he push me to do more than I think I can? I do not have to beat him and I don't want to - he should physically be stronger than me. I want to feel like I can keep up to a certain extent, I want his company and him challenging/encouraging me to do better. I would jump at the chance to join my man in any of these activities, especially if it's outside. It would be a great bonding time-quality time spent together. I would wonder if any man would not consider me feminine enough for his attention. Perhaps I scare too many away because I can keep up with them to a certain extent. However if I did gain his attention I would wonder how I to keep his attention after he gets to know me more with my other weaknesses. Post Reply
View Profile History	Similarities or Opposites? Posted : 18 Feb, 2014 07:59 PM First it is important to be equally yoked. Meaning to me that you both are Christians and have similar convictions/values related to being a Christian. I think also that if either of you have kids or want kids you need to have similar convictions on parenting or your kids will divide you. Other than that I think it's gravy. If you love someone you will find things in common and be OK with the things you don't have in common. Post Reply